How do you spot a good quality fetish dating site that delivers (apart from our own, of course..) Here's our essential guide on making your online kink dreams reality.

Spam on a fetish dating site

Not many online daters have a webpage set up with a load of sexy pics and are willing to dish the URL out randomly. So this type of spam is a good indicator that the site is likely to be scammy and they’ll have few genuine members. Instead, it’ll be full of dead-eyed escorts, bored cam workers and various other people making a living in the sex trade. Fair enough, you're not willing to pay for your naughties, so that puts you right off.

A fetish dating site should be a vibrant community

The main point of departure for a good fetish dating site is that it makes you feel part of an alternative movement – not an outsider. You’ll find various, organised get-togethers on straight sites like Plenty of Fish, but these are of limited use to POF’s client base because your average pub is a vanilla meet-up anyway.

You can’t just arrive at your local pub in full rubber gear and hope to meet people like you. Quality sites like Fetlife are above all geared towards promoting the kinky community in particular, by getting people together in a mutually respectful atmosphere.

A hectic social meet-up section on a fetish dating site can be great. So is an attentively moderated forum that gets people chatting. You can learn so much from just hanging around a well maintained kinky community site and lurking until you can’t contain yourself anymore.

Icebreakers are key on a fetish dating site

Communication is important to the BDSM lifestyle for all kinds of reasons. It generates a healthy feeling of acceptance and gentle warnings. Additionally, it offers a chance to become part of the kinky community will always heighten your anticipation.

The term BDSM encompasses many categories. This means that fetish dating sites that include plenty of utility in their search functions are ideal. Sometimes it feels like you’re narrowing it down to practically two other people in the world. But this optimises your chances of getting it on with an ideal partner.

Chat is vital on a fetish dating site

A user-friendly chat system is offered on any decent fetish dating site. Online one-to-ones are a secure way of spreading your wings and testing your limits, without the pressure of a face to face encounter.

Sadly, fetishists don’t share a hive mind, so reaching out to the kinky community en mass is often best done online where there’s plenty of choices and it stays impersonal initially.

How to spot a quality fetish dating site

To get a perspective on a fetish dating site, check out the type of profile pictures on show, the forum discussions and how easy it is to navigate around.

The layout of a fetish dating site should include well-written text, great images and minimal ads (which are labeled as such). These should be positioned along a side-bar. No one likes click bait.

If you can send out messages for free on a fetish dating site then send loads and wait for what comes back. You don’t want to spend money communicating with people who are never online or can’t be bothered to reply. Some of the best fetish dating sites in terms of content, members, and privacy are free, so in the world of fetish dating don’t assume you get what you pay for.


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