Scammed and humiliated

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51 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

One of the most common scams is a man going to a woman, "I hope you don't mind but can't be too careful these days - could you send me this oddly specific photo to prove you are real" and, if they do, the guy then uses that to verify elsewhere posing as the other person.

 

This one is not often mentioned. Thank you.👍

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12 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Being scammed sucks, regardless of who you are

I think often it is men who talk the loudest about being scammed - but - on the whole, women are often taken for more or scammed in other ways (in some cases pictures you see from a catfish are taken from the web, in other cases, they have been sent to someone else.  One of the most common scams is a man going to a woman, "I hope you don't mind but can't be too careful these days - could you send me this oddly specific photo to prove you are real" and, if they do, the guy then uses that to verify elsewhere posing as the other person.

 

It's more often the case to prove that the person is not using web photos. When the recipient will not pose or take a voice or video call, they are always fake and down the track will try to scan you and/or gain your personal info. Never send ***. Use a 2nnd number for all social media talk, Text or video chats prior to meeting.

[ey****]

9 hours ago, SentientMe said:

It's more often the case to prove that the person is not using web photos. When the recipient will not pose or take a voice or video call, they are always fake and down the track will try to scan you and/or gain your personal info. Never send ***. Use a 2nnd number for all social media talk, Text or video chats prior to meeting.

but this is the stalemate.

Someone asking the other person to prove they are real therefore has to give up personal information to you - which means if you are trying to get this out of them for less-than-honest means, they've fallen for it - how do they know that YOU are who you say you are?

In the case of the OP - she was sending requested photos and she was the mark.

What has also been discussed over time is people generally don't respond very well to being treat like they're fake.

Like, on this site, if someone requests *** then that is it - it's not permitted, end the conversation and hit report.  You don't need to worry if you were being scammed or not.   Elsewhere.  On one hand ask if that's a route you want to go down, on the other - have they a verified profile? How long have they been active for? Are they on any sites which involves stricter verification?  For example if someone is on clip sites or fan sites they've had to show their government issued ID to get on there (whereas those paying do not) 

While I would say if someone asks for *** end the conversation and hit report - I would also say the same to anyone asking to see photos "to prove you are real" 

 

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4 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

 1. How do they know that YOU are who you say you are?

2. People generally don't respond very well to being treat like they're fake.

3. On one hand ask if that's a route you want to go down, on the other - have they a verified profile? How long have they been active for? Are they on any sites which involves stricter verification?   

4. Someone asks for *** end the conversation and hit report - I would also say the same to anyone asking to see photos "to prove you are real" 

👍👍👍

 

 

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To me I can just say sry for what happened to you. I experienced now all possible or perfid weird persons in the internet one can imagine. Just as I learned with lots of ***. Weird persons are not interested being transparent with you, let you wait and having doubts and mostly are not interested to meet in an open space for a safe checkup.

[RosesHaveThorns75]

On 10/28/2022 at 1:20 PM, kiseu said:

This one is not often mentioned. Thank you.👍

A head & shoulders pic to pose as another gender/person?!? 🤔

[RosesHaveThorns75]

On 10/24/2022 at 8:16 PM, mward41 said:

I know this is my fault and I should have know better by far, I was talking to this guy who fit what I was looking for. He sounded like everything I wanted. We switched to another app and as a new sub in life I followed his instructions. (Pics,videos) after which now he has not made contact with me at all and now I’m worried about those pictures and videos. He still has a profile here but has not been active since we switched to another app to talk. I know I was stupid to even do so and I am fully taking responsibility for my dumb actions. Not sure what to even ask or get suggestions from this about.

But it's really difficult 🤔 damned if you do take a risk because it might be a user/con damned if you don't because you could miss an opportunity that's hard to get!!! It's not your fault if someone set out to be deceptive but your a genuine searcher 🙊 it is a risk there is no easy way around it!!! Especially if your a sub it's harder to say no so difficult 💀

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yea but topic was scamming right? Most of our hearts are starving and we are missing real contact to persons. Other persons using this to make bad comfort for themselves. You have to offer them just block them hard away otherwise they always come back and try to get you back to the loop and you have no joy or progress in your life. There is a healthy difference to people being toxic

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Friday at 11:09 AM, MrSadistDaddy said:

we are all ***s. 🤷🏻‍♂️ it made me raise the question….what came first, the chicken or the egg? Always a pattern in these things

From a mutation in the egg was born a chicken.

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All you can do is learn your lesson and try to prevent others doing the same.

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Are you a sub or a piece of meat? Surely a sub must have “No” in her arsenal, not locked in her arse!

[Tw****]

Are you a sub or a piece of meat? Surely a sub must have “No” in her arsenal, not locked in her arse!



I disagree why should or excepted that photos are used and saved or passed on outed or hummaliated. This is a safe space….,,

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Ideally it’s a safe space but only if you stay within it. Before you hand over control be sure he’s worthy of that trust. I won’t berate you. I will just say be careful.😐

[Tw****]

I agree and it’s not genderd. I think we all at some point shared to much and sent those photos. Regardless I think personally I always look for the best in people which can be a down fall I know but also as a kink community support each other and be untited in this as copyright out and using personal information out of spite or because you can is morally wrong and does not depict the narrative of unwritten kink codes and the bases of which we are able to express fantasy and connections. X

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You are not stupid at alllll, things happen and at the time you did what you thought was best. You may just hear back from the person, if you feel safe ask what happened and your concerns and choose if you want to keep talking to them or not. If you don’t hear back from them fuck them. I think you did the best you thought at the moment you have permission to be unsure sometimes & you didn’t predict you’d be in this situation. You’re still awesome .

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I’m sorry this happened to you and the feelings and stress you may have experienced since too💚

[RosesHaveThorns75]

On 10/30/2022 at 2:02 PM, Alex10473 said:

Are you a sub or a piece of meat? Surely a sub must have “No” in her arsenal, not locked in her arse!

You've just used this topic-debate as an excuse to personally & publicly *** another member!!! They aren't "meat" they are a contributing member on Fetish.com Your attitude & language & post is degrading & disqusting to anyone submissive who struggles to stay safe in this "dog eat dog society" 🙊😲☹️ and still have a Fetish life!!!

[qu****]

October 26, Kudrofxo said:

I’ve learned the hard way and have now set up accounts in different apps where either the picture cannot be saved (you can do this easily in WhatsApp or ***am) or the app does not link to my contacts. I have only been blackmailed the three times so far.
You get to know after a while but the scammers are getting better at coming across as genuine.
My view is chat and have fun, if you can’t meet them don’t leave yourself over exposed. Excuse the pun.

How do you stop pic being saved in what's app xx

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I get what you mean. I’ve had people try to get me to go to other apps to keep talking. It’s a huge red flag to me. Especially snap or kik. WhatsApp is kind of easy to see if they’re scamming you based on the number they give you to message them

[ti****]

U say other app ,witch 1

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22 hours ago, bigtittiebabygirl69 said:

How do you stop pic being saved in what's app xx

From my knowledge, most app... what you send, they keep. This includes WhatsApp.

[Sw****]

I've been scammed like this before too. You wanna believe there are SOME people out there have good intentions. But it's not your fault people suck! All I can suggest is you block him and never share pics with an online stranger again. Not unless trust is built for a long time.

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Yes sometimes we do dumb stuff.

I just did something like this.
First out of lust of wanting a Mistress.
Gave $100 for submission fee.
Then it was all ***.
I be like im broke. She then say I understand. Then ask for $50.
Then kept talking.
She said she lived 2hrs from me.
So she sent a picture that she was on her way.
Me not thinking. She says to meet ill need $100. *** is *** i can make more.
She then text she had a flat tire. I give $75
Then ghosted.

When she finally gets back to me
She tells me that she got a ticket
And that her ex boyfriend is trying to frame her.

Maybe there’s some truth to what she saying
Or he at this point 

Then i do a reverse check on the photos, even better this time because the first one didn’t show anything
Then I find her
I’m like dang it I’ve been catfish 

So I called them out on it
And they’re still claiming to be this person
So I said, well, you’re not getting any more ***
Unless we meet in person
Other than that
I’m gonna save up $400 and go see the real mistress that you claim to be she has a real dungeon

She didn’t say anything
But I’ll prove that I really am her

It’s like if you’re gonna scam someone
At this point, you should just disappear
All you need to do as a video chat
But she evades that

And me being sick like I am decide, I’m just gonna keep playing with this person

But then they started talking about
Do you know about being humiliated
I said I do that’s what Mistress do
She said I could put the photo you sent in the newspaper
I said OK well then everybody’s just going to see im owned by you and my Chasity cage
The odds of that going in the newspaper yeah I doubt it
And if you’re going to humiliate me
Better do better than that

Lol



[ch****]

My first experience was a scam too. Lost a fair amount of *** but wised up before going overboard. Came out wiser and better prepared on the other side and hopefully you can find that some sort of positive in it too

[jo****]

Yeah I think a lot of people suck!
I've been scammed twice here before, she actually sounded very real,cool and polite not until she got a couple of $$ from me and then she stopped talking to me stopped taking my calls and no texts messages coming from her anymore. Well I guess it is what it is. One can not always be a fool ✊