How to deal with rejection?

[Mu****]

On any sort of dating site (for lack of a better word) rejection is inevitable. People have specific preferences and things they are looking for in a partner/hookup/dynamic, whatever the case may be, and that is okay.

In terms of making the first move with someone I’m potentially interested in, I tend to look at it as, “well, I’m not with that person now, and I’m just fine.” So if I send someone a message and they don’t respond, or they aren’t interested, I am in the exact same position I was before.

If it has progressed beyond the app to texting or making plans, I do think a simple, direct message is appropriate. Ghosting/ standing people up is incredibly rude, childish behavior. A simple “hey, I’m not feeling a strong connection between us and I don’t want to waste your time“ takes 2 seconds to send, and shows the other person basic courtesy and respect. It may sting a bit in the short term, but then the rejected person can move on.

[Je****]

Rejection is bad enough as it is but even worse when it comes out of nowhere after you've made a rapport with said person....

[DJWolfDaddy]

I just got done commenting on one of the posts that I put up about being poly compared to being a swinger. After what I thought was going to be good turn to disappointment and emptiness now because I'm the one that got rejected has left me with a bitter feeling an uncertainty.
I actually rejected one woman today due to her thinking I was a sugar daddy and was going to pay her for her time spent with me and I flat out told her that is not going to happen because I am not a sugar daddy. I may be a loving daddy Dom but that does not mean I'm going to pay anyone for their time.

[ba****]

I really don't deal with it well. I don't usually ask anyone for anything

[Mi****]

I don't get rejected. It is they who miss an opportunity

[st****]

I thrive on rejection I just can't get enough I couldn't get laid in a woman prison with a handful of pardonsbut if I do sucessed I got a gallon of baby Oil a waterbed no sheet's

[Lu****]

I'm not the type to make the first move because I *** rejection, at least in person. Even in person flirting is hard if I don't know the person is already interested.

[Pi****]

I take a day or two to wallow in the bitter sweet *** of unrequited feelings and then i move on. Honestly as much as it hurts I also kind of love it. There's something about crying your eyes out over someone and then putting yourself back together that makes you feel alive. I feel like a lot of people lose touch with those feelings as they get older but I'm glad I haven't.

[Deleted Member]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so you cannot behold my beauty then on to the next. Smoke a blunt and move on.

[im****]

Been there too many times I just move on and attempt to find someone that would like to enjoy spending time together

[ph****]

Just move on ,it's not like it should be allowed to matter yet alone matter " out there"

[emberfirexox52]

Im the most beautiful woman in this world so if he can't see it that's HIS problem.

[Qu****]

I have a hard time. I am a Scorpio. So I tend to love hard or go home..... It's in my nature to go all in . I don't like the half dome don't count that's what I was taught...

[Deleted Member]

We live in a world where people are shallow everybody has a preference but then again they feel to be open-minded to preference of personality and letting people grow on them you can meet someone that you don't find physically attractive but if they vibe well isn't that more important?

[Deleted Member]

I think the internet has given people too many selections to choose from to many people feel like they are more important or too important to see the good in someone else

[Ma****]

I think it's important to remember, that you don't always want attention from everyone. Until likewise try to keep in mind that the opposite is certainly true. But try not to let let it become a personal issue.
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Much easier to say, and a lot harder to navigate.
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In some instances, you can ask Associated friends or acquaintances, for some feedback. Maybe your approach is all wrong. Or maybe you give off a creepy vibe. Or maybe you have a reputation that proceeds you, and you need to attend to that and fix that, before you find success. In those rare instances where you get any kind of feedback, take it seriously and work at it.

[Ma****]

Personally, I try to get whatever feedback that I can, when I have the opportunity, and then I get busy with other things of life. I try not to sit and let things stew for very long--because that will not help very much.
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In a very real sense, what you're actually doing is trying to find the few that will accept you.
You arent realllly trying to get THAT person. Youre hopeful for that person's reciprocation, but the reality is that peraon may never, unelder any circumstances, be someone that will like you in that way.
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So learn, and move on! Keep looking for the one(s) that will reciprocate.

[na****]

I don't deal well with rejection. In fact, it is extremely important that if you have any kids you teach them self esteem self confidence and self love. I always say " the more you embrace yourself the less power other have over you " .
Still rejection for me is a process that can take months: I have to find a way to be alone, lick my wounds, and after I go over what went wrong for the zillion time, I have to keep on giving myself a pampering and cheering lecture over and over until finally I accept it and move on. This is so energy not efficient

[li****]

i’m a girl with low self esteem, insecurities about my body. if this does happen il try get out and make myself feel good as if il make him jealous in a way. wether it’s going to the gym, going shopping, getting a pamper day. then just think at the end of the day its their loss and they wernt worth it in the first place x

[Deleted Member]

I take a step back. I do some self care. Do some mirror exercises to boost myself esteem. Sometimes, I journal. It's not ppl fault that others ghost or reject you. Ppl got many reasons. Ones like they're not ready for commitment, they don't trust the opposite sex and so on. I think it's our human ego that goes "but what about me?" Or "I can fix you, to make you ready." But no one can really fix others. So sometimes, it's not you. Maybe it's the other person & maybe it's not, whatever the case maybe, it's important to dust yourself off, lick your wounds & remember that you're a bad 🐶💅🏼

[Ma****]

I see it as their loss, My husband taught me something that I am very valuable I used to have a very low self-esteem until I met my husband. He has made me realize that I am someone special that I am a gift. And if others don't accept me for that then it's their loss. My husband is extremely gorgeous, smart, and financially secure with his businesses. If you " reject" me it's not because of me it's because of you there's something wrong with you that you can't see past my rules or what it is that I'm looking for. I don't give the power to the other person that rejects me because I don't see it as a rejection and neither should you.

[sh****]

Revenge fantasies. I'm joking. It's taken time, and it does sting, but I give myself the time and space I need to process it. Ultimately, I'm not the one missing out. I know I am fantastic, and anyone who says no thanks not only doesn't know me but has shut down an opportunity. That is their right, and people are allowed to feel and be attracted to whatever suits them. It's simply not a reflection on me. It has taken TIME to get to that, and some therapy lol

[em****]

I just accept that I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's perfectly okay. Not matching or being incompatible doesn't take away from my sexiness and awesomeness, just means I wasn't for them :)

[Sh****]

If you want me to be honest. Most guys are so used to rejection we get surprised when someone actually is interested and we think its a scam. One thing i have realized. There is 1 million more women than men on earth. Men are outnumbered. If men just stopped caring about rejection. Maybe they wouldn't get rejected as much. So if im rejected i could careless. Theres plenty of other options. You are not special and neither is the next.

[Ca****]

My goto is work out or play guitar for 4 months straight til I don't give a fk bout yall or I get a msg lol