How to deal with rejection?

[re****]

I just move on !

[Deleted Member]

Not very well. I have a *** of it

[ja****]

Men have a 90-95% rejection rate for a cold approach. Way higher than that online. The best way is go leave the hoodie and be sociable.

[bi****]

I move on I don't let it bother me I've been rejected a lot lately so I'm over it ether you want to build a relationship with me or you don't and if you don't then don't contact

[Ch****]

Roll with the punches and keep going.

[ne****]

It was hard for me at first, but then I started using the gym. Then I found out that I’m so loved from within that I don’t notice or think someone can reject me. To me, it’s their loss because I’m too sweet and sexy.

[IN****]

It's definitely hell if you go at it with the wrong mindset or have autism-related issues like me. Takes time and being rejected before you start to understand that your own value doesn't depend on the eyes or preferences of others. Eventually you start to realize, "there are many worse things than being told no".

[ye****]

I have a terrible time with rejection and I have been dating so I'm getting a lot of it. I try to think of it as exposure therapy. The more I receive the easier it will be. In practice I prefer to receive rejections by text message so I can maintain some dignity.

[Vo****]

Not well! I've been rejected all my life. Never been on a date. Never been in a relationship. I don't see myself in any way attractive because of it. Every girl that I've asked out on a date either isn't interested, or just wants to be friends... 😔

[Jackson-8070]

Rejection in relationships, while ***ful, is a powerful tool for growth. It helps you refine your understanding of what you truly need and deserve, allowing you to build stronger, healthier connections in the future. Each experience of rejection teaches you resilience, self-awareness, and the ability to navigate relationships with greater clarity. Instead of seeing it as failure, view it as redirection—an opportunity to move closer to the relationships that align with your values and emotional well-being.

[Ki****]

It hurts like hell at first, but overtime you look back on it and realized you dodged a bullet better things lie ahead as long as you keep a positive attitude you will attract positive people and look in the mirror and see your own self-worth and tell yourself that you are somebody special waiting for someone special

[Deleted Member]

It can definitely hurt and bruise your ego. I like to take some time for myself and do something fun if the rejection really hurts. Also, I always remind myself that just like I don't want every single person that expresses interest in me, the people that I express interest in may not want me and that its not a reflection of my worth.

[ba****]

Nobody likes rejection or being told they are not good enough. But yet I get and hear it all the time

[SP****]

move on, I ain't for most people

[SP****]

March 12, MusicInMySoul said:

On any sort of dating site (for lack of a better word) rejection is inevitable. People have specific preferences and things they are looking for in a partner/hookup/dynamic, whatever the case may be, and that is okay.

In terms of making the first move with someone I’m potentially interested in, I tend to look at it as, “well, I’m not with that person now, and I’m just fine.” So if I send someone a message and they don’t respond, or they aren’t interested, I am in the exact same position I was before.

If it has progressed beyond the app to texting or making plans, I do think a simple, direct message is appropriate. Ghosting/ standing people up is incredibly rude, childish behavior. A simple “hey, I’m not feeling a strong connection between us and I don’t want to waste your time“ takes 2 seconds to send, and shows the other person basic courtesy and respect. It may sting a bit in the short term, but then the rejected person can move on.

well said advice, well thought out, and got my votefor bring nice person intuitively

[Si****]

Rejection really sucks I usually go in with the beginning thought is she doesn't want me or even near interested but f**k it I'ma ask. So at this point it's worse case scenario the answer is what I was expecting no. This way I don't stay to far down about the rejection. Maybe not the best idea or way to go about especially if someone has self conscience problems in any way. But for me it lets me look at it from an angle I can move forward easier and fast ... That said there always going to be questions on the it it's like that for everyone. Even if the person is coming straight forward and give a honest answer youll still question why and what might have changed the outcome.

[Si****]

But f**k them! if you are a decent and honest person. And they rejected you with out even an attempt at it. Usually them are the people who don't even know theirselves well enough to realize what they and believe it you can like or love a person with everything and they don't even know what they want. It will destroy. And along run out come will change the person you are from the inside out literally

[Si****]

So it's hard done then said for must but you truly need to understand that you're self worth and even the slightest realization of this is enough to help you over come all the negative feelings from a rejection almost instantly.

[qu****]

I was rejected today for merely trying to initiate conversation. Nothing vulgar, or inappropriate, nor anything I wouldn’t say in public to anyone. Just a normal chat, and got told off in capital letters and then blocked. Well, ok, glad she didn’t overreact lol Oh well, her loss, I’m sure she’s a peach to be around.

[DarkArts1066]

This is a BIG topic. I’m not sure it’s possible to do it justice here…

When I was in my early 20’s my Fiancée .. the woman I’d been living with for over a Year, got up, dressed, left for work, and never returned.

I spent weeks, searching, asking, going to her parents, her ***, her brother, her friends and work colleagues. No one would tell me they had seen her.

Then, quite by chance I overheard a row between my boss and his wife.
She was throwing him out -because he’d been sleeping with my fiancée.

His Wife and I had a LOT of conversations after that.
I found out that my Fiancée had been staying at her parents house. By now this was three months later.
Wounded, I got rid of every vestige of her presence. Took it all to her parents house and quietly dumped out in front of their garage.
My way of letting them all know that I knew.

For the next six months I was in bits. We had planned a wedding for Gods sake.

I’ve only seen her once since. About twenty five years later.
We met, by chance in the street.
She had three ***age *** with her.
Her husband, who was nearly 30 years older than her had just died.
I wanted to feel sorry for her, but I couldn’t. She had chosen her path, and in doing so, damaged me in the process.
I have had break ups since. Two marriages… both of which I tried to stitch back together, and failed. I worked away - A LOT. Six-eight months at a time overseas. The *** was great, but it killed my relationships stone dead… and by the time I tried to fix them, they were stone cold.

I’ve made mistakes - but I’ve never made exactly the same one twice.

What have I learned ?
To pay more attention, and to be more attentive. They are two very different things.
And to deal with issues head on, and immediately, and not let them fester.

Better than that though, I’ve learned to ask the important questions early on, and to be able to read the people I choose to spend my time with better.

[ve****]

You just move on. There are billions of people in the world and even people who have sworn to love each other often reject each other. Most of the time it’s for the best: if someone rejects you then you probably should have rejected them as well. Time is too short to waste on people who don’t like you. Spend your time finding someone who does.

[JD****]

Very well said @vergilius75

[Ca****]

Rejection is easy. What's really hard is ppl just abusing you, conning you, and just overall lowering your standards and expectations. After a while, the crushing loneliness will just push me out of this community entirely in favor of escorts and a singles life. I'd rather be hurt, that only lasts a few months. Depression tho, if you don't play your cards right it could last you the rest of your life

[DJWolfDaddy]

I'm going to say this again rejection hurts especially when your emotionally invested into a relationship and then come to find out the other person never truly was emotionally invested that she led on to be.
So again with me it's All or nothing at All because I will not be rejected and I will not be played

[Deleted Member]

Honestly online dating is highly toxic already so what ive learned is if the door gets shut then theres no sense in mourning over something you never had. People lose all of their humility when they dont have you right infront of them. Imagine being a man. Its 100x worse and women will gossip to other women out of spite to make it even harder for you. I am 36 and as of writing this i have not once ever actually met anyone on any alternative app like this infact ive learned that this "community" has some of the worst people ive ever dealt with.