MY BIGGEST F@AR REGARDING MY FETISHES IS...

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That I’ll never work up the courage to explore them

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Being shamed. Put down.

[To****]

Sharing it with the wrong person

[La****]

Finding out that I really crave something my partner has a hard stop on.

[Vy****]

I've been in it pretty much from the moment my sex life started so all of the really big ones already passed or didn't come true. The one that bothers me the most is ending up alone if I don't find someone fitting to settle down once age catches up. The most annoying one is small nagging one that is always present but not that big of a deal. It's the *** that when I'm Dom, that I might make a mistake one day that could cause serious damage physically or mentally to a Sub. I'm extraodinarily careful in everything I do when it comes to my Subs wellbeing, but that thought always pops up once in a while, especially a day or two after very hard sessions. It's not really an issue, I'm kind of happy it is there because it always makes me wanna do my best.

[Ba****]

My kids finding out moms a freak

[ji****]

Wednesday at 06:27 PM, Gareth_Switch said:

Coming across someone that appear to be enthusiastic, play along and gradually withdraw until we stopped making love altogether. That what happened to me and then wife. Now that I'm happily single again, I am willing to try again, but with guarded caution.

Same situation. She was enthusiastic and actually brought up the idea that became a very strong kink of mine, then abandoned it and judged me non stop for liking what was initially her idea.

[Ba****]

17 hours ago, Vyn_93 said:

I've been in it pretty much from the moment my sex life started so all of the really big ones already passed or didn't come true. The one that bothers me the most is ending up alone if I don't find someone fitting to settle down once age catches up. The most annoying one is small nagging one that is always present but not that big of a deal. It's the *** that when I'm Dom, that I might make a mistake one day that could cause serious damage physically or mentally to a Sub. I'm extraodinarily careful in everything I do when it comes to my Subs wellbeing, but that thought always pops up once in a while, especially a day or two after very hard sessions. It's not really an issue, I'm kind of happy it is there because it always makes me wanna do my best.

The small one is generally more good than bad but if it gets to intense then i can be a sign that you yourself need a bit more aftercare, both to reassure yourself that your partner is actually ok and for your partner to make sure you are ok, being a dom can cause quite a bit of internal conflict so maybe have your partner tell you that you are a good person not just in spite of but in part because of the things you do to them occasionally

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1 hour ago, Barthold said:

The small one is generally more good than bad but if it gets to intense then i can be a sign that you yourself need a bit more aftercare, both to reassure yourself that your partner is actually ok and for your partner to make sure you are ok, being a dom can cause quite a bit of internal conflict so maybe have your partner tell you that you are a good person not just in spite of but in part because of the things you do to them occasionally

Thank you, that is actually a good point. I usually focus a lot on aftercare of my Subs and on myself after I do a session as a Sub, but I tend to just handle the Dom part and the strain that comes with it by myself. Normally it's fine but extreme sessions do take a toll sometimes. I will give your suggestion a try and see if it feels better that way.

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Is falling for someone

[me****]

That he will use it as a reason to be with another woman.