li**** Posted June 3 Posted June 3 The 5 Stages of Grief I think at some point in our lives we've all suffered with loss and or grief. We all go through these 5 stages of grief at some point or another and people can experience these aspects of grief at different times and they do not happen in one particular order. You may not experience all of the 5 stages , you may only experience 1 or 2 but you will at least go through 1 of these. These 5 stages are as follows – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. 1. Denial - Feeling numb can be the most common feeling in the beginning of a death/bereavement. That feeling of this isn't real, it can't be happening to me can be a major factor at the start. It can be hard to get over the fact that the person you've lost is never coming back, this is the stage you may feel you hear the person or see their presence hence why it's hard to accept that the person has passed. 2. Anger - It is very natural to feel anger when someone you love dies. Death can seem really cruel and unfair especially when like myself I lost 5 family members in the space of a year I was broken mentally and physically drained by the end of that year just when I thought I was getting over the anger it would start up again when someone else died.....I was like why me, why my family!!!! You can also feel angry at the person who has died for leaving you. 3. Bargaining - This is the stage where you can start to bargain with a god or a religion or even making a deal with yourself that you'll start to pray more etc, like saying I'll do better, I'll be better please don't take another person away from me 🙏 In this stage you may find yourself going back over past things you've said to that person or you may ask a lot of "what if" questions, wishing you could go back and change things so things would have turned out different. 4. Depression - Sadness and that longing feeling will possibly be two main feelings that will stay around for a long time after. There can be feelings of intense pain that will come and go over the months and even years to come. For most the feeling won't ever go away but it can get better with time but if it doesn't please seek help, there are vast amounts of bereavement charities and organisations that can help you, to listen and support you in this time. 5. Acceptance - Like I said above as time passes most can feel their pain of grief becoming less intense. You can accept now that the person has gone and won't come back and you can carry on without them because let's face it that person would want you to. Most people will say grief never ends you just learn to live with it. In time your life is able to grow around the grief and you'll be able to find joy again and live your life but still accept that you'll miss that person who's gone. So where do these stages of grief come from they came from the psychiatrist Elisabeth Kúbler Ross was the first person to talk about stages of grief in her book On Death and Dying, published in 1969. Just remember there are always people to talk to about grief and death, there is constant support that being a family member, friends , or even an organisation who have trained bereavement support workers who'll be there for you in tough times. Don't ever feel like you can suffer through grief alone there will always be someone there to help or to talk to.