Escorting and Cuckolding

[An****]

No - so I have been a part of a dynamic as a "bull" being introduced to a cuck couple. The common misconception of cucking is that it's going on behind the partners back. This is is a common misconception created by porn. The whole notion of cucking is that it's the fantasy of the partner (male or female) who is being cucked. Cheating is not cucking. If you are party to it but don't want it to be happening then you need to address that with her and it falls to a moral discussion rather than it being a kink.

If however you get involved with this in that you are comfortable with her doing this, or you get a sexual desire out of it - then actually you need to address if this is a kink for you and use it to your advantage. Many men including couples I've become involved with find that many partners are not willing to even engage in this area of kink so if you are finding the experience a turn on then have an open and honest chat with her. Either way it requires a long and trusting bond.

[Je****]

12 hours ago, domesticdawn said:

Hello all
A question
My Fiancé is struggling a bit financially and she decided to start with an escort agency , been with them for like 2 months now
And she’s hosting some Clients at home
Does that technically make me a cuckold? Or is it something different?

Thanks

No. 

 

And for a number of reasons.

This is her work. Her job. 

This isn't a fun dynamic (I'm assuming) that you're both partaking.  

 

Hosting at home, worries me, usually work and home life should remain seperate incase a client ends up a bit odd or abusive or anything and it can land at your doorstep. 

 

But a cuckold is someone who enjoys watching their Mrs fucking / being fucked by other men, and not usually able to join in

Sometimes they're not allowed to watch either but it doesn't sound like the case here ?

 

As long as you're happy with it and she's safe the  work away. 

Maybe if you're curious one day to cucking, you can discuss with her about watching/listening, but ofc the man paying his ***/time needs to consent to this also. 

 

All the best

[Je****]

6 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

The fact that your ok with her behavior makes you a cuck. Out of all the other risqué things she could have done like onlyfans, she decides to sleep with other men. For me, that alone is one of the biggest red flags and I would have insecurities about her for the rest of our marriage because I wouldn’t ever be ok with it

Her behaviour? Its a job. 

And him being ok and supportive with her job doesn't necessarily mean he's a cuckold. 

Its not a red flag either. 

You've hit the nail on the head tho - your insecurities. 

[Je****]

5 hours ago, ChocolateChamp said:

Just no longer makes her yours per se, it makes her literally for the streets!! 😷

This comment is just.... all levels of wrong. 

She isn't property.  And doesn't make her a sl*g either. (I've used the word sl*g, as slang here is a woman of the streets).

How narrow minded are you. Surprised you're on this site tbh. 

[Deleted Member]

I wouldn’t put that in the same category as the rest of the jobs, it’s literally your wife getting f**ked by other men and they’re paying for it. So stop normalising it as a everyday normal thing, the average person doesn’t let his/her partner f**k other people for ***.

[Deleted Member]

Did you ask this because of the Adam22. I may be reaching but your situation just sounds crazy and super avoidable. Looks like a question to spark convo like so many others I see on this app

[mr****]

1 hour ago, Jeneral_Whore said:

Her behaviour? Its a job. 

And him being ok and supportive with her job doesn't necessarily mean he's a cuckold. 

Its not a red flag either. 

You've hit the nail on the head tho - your insecurities. 

Prostitution isn’t a respectable job …. And she had the job for 2 months. At what point do you find being a prostitution proper behavior? Well the insecurities are extremely common amongst humans. Will she fall in love with a client? Will she catch an STD? How will she be if she decides to quits being a prostitute. These are legit insecurities. If he doesn’t have a problem with her being a prostitute , regardless of the actual definition. He will hold the title amongst his peers as a cuck

[Du****]

30 minutes ago, mrwright2615 said:

Prostitution isn’t a respectable job …. And she had the job for 2 months. At what point do you find being a prostitution proper behavior? Well the insecurities are extremely common amongst humans. Will she fall in love with a client? Will she catch an STD? How will she be if she decides to quits being a prostitute. These are legit insecurities. If he doesn’t have a problem with her being a prostitute , regardless of the actual definition. He will hold the title amongst his peers as a cuck

This sort of talk has no place in the bdsm community

[mr****]

5 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

This sort of talk has no place in the bdsm community

A question was asked and an answer was given. Then a comment was given to me and I replied ….

[An****]

1 hour ago, blackbeard333 said:

I wouldn’t put that in the same category as the rest of the jobs, it’s literally your wife getting f**ked by other men and they’re paying for it. So stop normalising it as a everyday normal thing, the average person doesn’t let his/her partner f**k other people for ***.

You don't seem to understand cucking - *** is not exchanged but plenty get off watching their partner have sex with someone else. Plenty of couples out there of all genders want to be cucked. Hence why it's a kink. It doesn't conform to sociological norms - but couples do want it and there is a demand for it. It may not be for everyone granted.

To return to the topic at hand - does his partner being an escort make him a cuck. The only person who can answer that is op. If he gets off on the thought of his partner with others whether or not he also participates will determine if he is a cuck.

It's clear that they already have a very open and trusting relationship to even consider escorting while in a relationship. It may not be for you, but clearly they have a bond of understanding and trust.

There is something highly sexual about making love while a cuck watches - I have been watched plenty of times by a cuck - often an element of the cucks fantasy is also to reclaim his or her partner after the act.

[ey****]

I guess also

one thing to remember is a lot of people are against sex work - even if they're pro some of the benefits it's brings them

i.e. they watch porn.  they visit a dungeon which relies on income from sex work. they may even benefit from laws and freedoms sex workers fought for, like being able to buy sex toys.

But still.

this will also distort a lot of responses.

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a lot of people go into sex work for various reasons.  The media often likes to divide people doing it into the high earners, or the struggle sex workers.   Often ignoring a lot of people in the middle who do it by choice and do "OK"

People in any form of "struggle sex work" situation are often a little bit open to exploitation and exploitation isn't exclusive to sex work.

if it's Friday and getting to 5pm and your boss asks you to stay an extra couple of hours to hit a deadline and saying 'no' will bring you problems, you're being exploited. If you feel you have to clock in at 8.30am and out at 5.30pm for a 9-5 work day, you're being exploited.

If you're doing ANY job you hate but you can't quit because you need the *** - then there's a problem.

One thing I would say if you are in a struggle position and sex work is not a career of choice - that you look at other options first.  Is there anything citizens advice can help with?   if you are a couple, are there extra hours you can take somewhere?

if this is deemed to be your only/best option what can you do to help with safety (i.e. don't use an agency.  don't use your own home)

if this is something you feel uncomfortable with - what can you do to help?

But also - are any of your own bias' at play?

For example - stuff like bar work is one of the biggest sources of sexual harassment.  

(the biggest industries for sexual harassment are restaurants/hospitality, nursing, military)

and it's bizarre. if you said your wife was desperate for *** so worked in a restaurant no one would care - even if she's having to tolerate utter scumbag customers in the hope of getting tips or keeping job.   but if someone is working in an adult industry and has some form of control over boundaries and who they will see it's suddenly a problem.

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incidentally, someone mentioned online options rather than in person.  in essence... if you escort for a short period of time and then pull your postings/listings down and data scrub then it removes trace.  If you've been on OnlyFans, you can, say, delete your account but good luck getting a keeping all the leaks down.  

I'm still sending takedown requests for stuff I shot 5 years ago. 

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which brings me to another point.  A lot of men hate sex work, but if someone was offered £100 for a woman they find attractive to suck their cock they'd be like "Hell yeah" 

[CopperKnob]

7 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

Prostitution isn’t a respectable job …. And she had the job for 2 months. At what point do you find being a prostitution proper behavior? Well the insecurities are extremely common amongst humans. Will she fall in love with a client? Will she catch an STD? How will she be if she decides to quits being a prostitute. These are legit insecurities. If he doesn’t have a problem with her being a prostitute , regardless of the actual definition. He will hold the title amongst his peers as a cuck

And yet, she apparently provides a service and gets paid for it, otherwise known, in short "a job"

Some of the comments here are rather odd (not really they're ridiculous/judgemental and shaming) because a while back there was a post asking if people would have sex for the sake of having it, regardless as to whether it was good or not
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And the overwhelming response from men was, sex is sex no matter what and that they'd rather have it than not.
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In contrast, women were wanting to enjoy sex and weren't as content to engage in poor quality sex.
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And those women who openly said otherwise were applauded by some of the men.
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And yet we come back to this post and the derogatory comments from individuals about sex work which, we've established, is work.
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And I guess that the take away from it is this, we can open our legs for wanton sex but are also used up low value whores/slags if we have wanton sex and it's even worse if we charge for it
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It’s like we can’t win - have the sex but not too much sex and we'll decide for you how much is too much and certainly do not charge for it no matter what you're circumstances.
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But, what I really want to know is this, if people (and I'm specifically asking men given the comments here (I mean we're on a sex site afterall)), truly think that women having wanton sex is bad why do you keep trying to do it to us?

[CopperKnob]

7 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

Prostitution isn’t a respectable job …. And she had the job for 2 months. At what point do you find being a prostitution proper behavior? Well the insecurities are extremely common amongst humans. Will she fall in love with a client? Will she catch an STD? How will she be if she decides to quits being a prostitute. These are legit insecurities. If he doesn’t have a problem with her being a prostitute , regardless of the actual definition. He will hold the title amongst his peers as a cuck

Remove the word prostitute and replace it with swinger or someone who is poly.
And now your comment is nothing more than kink shaming others for their life choices
Nice

[Ch****]

Lucky man I hope you're at least filming it

[mr****]

54 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

Remove the word prostitute and replace it with swinger or someone who is poly.
And now your comment is nothing more than kink shaming others for their life choices
Nice

You clearly didn’t read his question. He asked a question and I answered it. He can accept anyone’s response as he wants. But the word “escort” is another term for “prostitute”, prostitute being the legal term. Escort is a glorified word that’s all. Be he wanted to know if he was a cuck if he his fiancé was sleeping with other men for ***. To summarize my response to that is yes he would be considered a cuck if he accepted.

[CopperKnob]

19 minutes ago, mrwright2615 said:

You clearly didn’t read his question. He asked a question and I answered it. He can accept anyone’s response as he wants. But the word “escort” is another term for “prostitute”, prostitute being the legal term. Escort is a glorified word that’s all. Be he wanted to know if he was a cuck if he his fiancé was sleeping with other men for ***. To summarize my response to that is yes he would be considered a cuck if he accepted.

And that doesn't take away anything you stated in your original comment. All of the 'insecurities' you mention in your comment are applicable to various kinks.
Sex work is a job, not a fetish.
Kink shaming on a kink site is inappropriate and will get called out

[4R****]

8 minutes ago, mrwright2615 said:

You clearly didn’t read his question. He asked a question and I answered it. He can accept anyone’s response as he wants. But the word “escort” is another term for “prostitute”, prostitute being the legal term. Escort is a glorified word that’s all. Be he wanted to know if he was a cuck if he his fiancé was sleeping with other men for ***. To summarize my response to that is yes he would be considered a cuck if he accepted.

You really do have an attitude problem - chill out a bit!

 

Prostitute or Escort
Most people consider a prostitute and an escort to be very similar, however, the two are distinct. A prostitute is an individual who performs sexual acts in exchange for *** (other compensation). Wheres an escort is an individual who is paid to spend time with someone. The escort may accompany a client to dinner, a concert, business functions, an upscale hotel, or simply spend time talking. In other words, a client hires an escort for companionship, not sex. 

Is he a Cuck?
Unlike the traditional definition of the term, in fetish usage, (This being a Kink site) a cuckold is complicit in their partner's sexual "infidelity". This is not true in the OP's case as he has no part in what she is doing. So he is NOT a Cuck and many have previously stated this.

[ey****]

8 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

Prostitution isn’t a respectable job

there's a difference between a job you don't personally respect - and "a respectable job"

and this is something which is weird in how we look down on others.  Like, what *is* a respectable job?  Serving in McDonalds? Working tills in a supermarket? Being a cleaner? Those are also jobs that don't get the respect they deserve.  

8 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

At what point do you find being a prostitution proper behavior?

Sex Work is one of the oldest professions and one that will outlast many others.  

People try to 'moralise' it away - and as such it creates unnecessary stigma and hardships.  

People are like "oh, it's selling your body" as if manual labour, or being in the military is not

8 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

Will she fall in love with a client?

you could say that true in any profession

like if she's waiting tables will she fall in love with a regular?

secretary - will she fall in love with her boss?

etc. etc. and these are all examples of people that she'd spend more time with/around in those industries.

8 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

Will she catch an STD?

A risk. Absolutely.  So, firstly the default is to use condoms during penetration. Some might offer OWO, but not all.   This massively reduces the risk.  Also within the UK, people working in sex can access a local clinic for regular screening even without symptoms.  Hell, everyone can.  And to be honest, there's people using condoms who are getting tested every 28 days being judged by people who'd f**k their way through their local area if given the chance.

But, again there's risks attached to most professions.  

A study dropped two days ago suggests that hairdressers and beauticians were at higher risk of ovarian cancer, compared to the general population, due to the chemicals they're likely to be exposed to at work.  

9 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

How will she be if she decides to quits being a prostitute.

some people don't. there's people who've worked in the sex industry, by choice, for decades.  For others, yeah, exiting can sometimes be difficult.  Like, if you went in through struggling financially then this might be less necessary when you're out of the hardship (I guess, why, what else changed?) but for example switching from ad hoc hours to a fixed 9-5 can be difficult, especially if you're then not paid extra for your bosses inappropriate wisecracks.

9 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

These are legit insecurities.

those would be YOUR insecurities.

and, like I say, if you're concerned about a prospective partner if she's doing sex work - but not the same if she's waiting tables, hairdressing, working overtime in an office, etc. then there's bias to your insecurities

9 hours ago, mrwright2615 said:

If he doesn’t have a problem with her being a prostitute , regardless of the actual definition. He will hold the title amongst his peers as a cuck

there might be some people who think that way

but then these people are likely ar**holes.

Like, they might judge him for having a partner doing sex work, while their wife is putting up with her bosses inappropriate behaviour to stay in work : who is the real 'cuck' there?

And also the hypocritical angle that a lot of people enjoy the gains from sex work.  Like - if you meet the Dom/sub of your dreams and then it's suggested you visit a local dungeon, that is likely to only be viable because of sex work.

[li****]

As long as you are OK with it and accept it then Noone can say otherwise

[IlBurbero]

You would be a cuckold if your girlfriend hadn't told you anything. An escort often does this job secretly. You were lucky because your girlfriend confessed it to you.

I hope I have been of help to you

Edited April 12 by IlBurbero

[DarkArts1066]

Whether or not a person is a cuckold or not - is very much down to their own perspective on the matter - let’s not forget that. It’s all too easy to pigeonhole others, and say that He, She or They are X,Y or Z.

And so, to the OP I ask you this in reply to your question..

How do you feel about her hosting her clients at home ?
Financially, it makes sense. Not having to pay for a location for outcalls, and if as you say, *** is the objective, then that would be the best and potentially quickest way out of that hole.
But - do you personally consider it an invasion of yours and her joint personal space ?

Are you excited when she tells you have a client coming over ?…
Perhaps with a pinch of apprehension ?

I had a young ladyfriend whom I used to see a few years ago who decided to escort at her apartment to supplement her regular income. She did it for about a year.
I would always be in the next room - for her safety, or sometimes in the same room if She, He or they both wanted pictures taken - but at no time was I a cuckold in that situation.

I enjoyed watching (and hearing) her being pleasured (she genuinely enjoyed her work, and was selective about the clients she met)

In that respect, I think it was more of a ‘hotwifing’ experience, rather than a cuckolding one.
Have you considered that perspective ?