Escorting and Cuckolding

[Deleted Member]

Hello all
A question
My Fiancé is struggling a bit financially and she decided to start with an escort agency , been with them for like 2 months now
And she’s hosting some Clients at home
Does that technically make me a cuckold? Or is it something different?

Thanks

[ey****]

no - this does not make you a cuckold

this is basically her going to work, and, presumably through hard times rather than career choice - so, it's probably inappropriate to fetishise it

 

as some advice - she needs to ditch the agency and go independent as they take a chunk of her money for doing very little. Especially if they're not even providing a premises or helping to sign post!

equally as a note, you shouldn't be home when she's hosting else you could fall foul of brothel keeping laws.  

 

[Si****]

I say definitions are evolving but in my book you must feel humiliation by witnessing the action. 🤸

[My****]

If this makes you uncomfortable that she's doing this and that's why you're asking if it makes you a cuckold, then you should sit and talk to her about it that you don't feel okay with her doing that for "work"

[Deleted Member]

If you are sitting watching her with other men, being aroused by her having sex with someone else, while you are made to feel inferior, then that's cuckold, if however you're in the property in another room, just to ensure her safety & that she gets paid, then you're more of a pimp

[ez****]

Wouldn’t say it’s cuckhold, but would understand having mixed feelings. That’s a hard lifestyle to have a genuine relationship in, but not impossible at all. Idk y’all’s life so don’t wanna say too much about things I have no knowledge of but I would just talk ab how you feel w/ her if you haven’t already. That’s the key to any relationship and even more so here

[To****]

51 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

no - this does not make you a cuckold

this is basically her going to work, and, presumably through hard times rather than career choice - so, it's probably inappropriate to fetishise it

 

as some advice - she needs to ditch the agency and go independent as they take a chunk of her money for doing very little. Especially if they're not even providing a premises or helping to sign post!

equally as a note, you shouldn't be home when she's hosting else you could fall foul of brothel keeping laws.  

 

What about safety?

[Jo****]

Yes it does make you such.

[mc****]

There are many ways to make money did you discuss this b4 or did she decide she was doing it? You maybe need to have an open conversation about boundaries and comfort levels things you may have thought you'd be ok with you may find in the face of it you're uncomfortable. Always be open with things B4 it festers

[ez****]

11 minutes ago, mch2crzy said:

There are many ways to make money did you discuss this b4 or did she decide she was doing it? You maybe need to have an open conversation about boundaries and comfort levels things you may have thought you'd be ok with you may find in the face of it you're uncomfortable. Always be open with things B4 it festers

Couldn’t have said it better myself

[lesdevon]

Why do it fir an agency do it your self make more money put an ad on locanto its free

[Pa****]

I think forcing you to watch would make you a cuck. I’d remove that aspect and see if it’s something you’re comfortable with on face value.

[DarkArts1066]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

no - this does not make you a cuckold

this is basically her going to work, and, presumably through hard times rather than career choice - so, it's probably inappropriate to fetishise it

 

as some advice - she needs to ditch the agency and go independent as they take a chunk of her money for doing very little. Especially if they're not even providing a premises or helping to sign post!

equally as a note, you shouldn't be home when she's hosting else you could fall foul of brothel keeping laws.  

 

Agree with this 100%. Working with an agency doesn’t make it safer. And they generally take a large chunk in commission. I know because about 20 years ago I was in a relationship with a young escort. She started with an agency, and very quickly realised that she could work from home (or from a rented flat nearby) choose her own hours, and earn good money.
I was in the next room, so he safety angle was covered. Sometimes at her clients request, I would be in the room… she offered a voyeuristic service to some.

What she does is ‘work’. If you treat us as such, then no one’s feelings get hurt.

[Deleted Member]

If you all are getting married you are a team. Which means your fiancée doesn’t have money troubles, you both have them. Is there another option to fix this if you are uncomfortable? Of course, have a conversation.

[me****]

Sex work is work. Your partner has a job. It has nothing to do with you.

[me****]

Also, yes. Explore your feelings. You get to have those even if your desire is to be supportive, but this is not your choice. Have your feelings, figure them out, and get out of the way.

[mr****]

The fact that your ok with her behavior makes you a cuck. Out of all the other risqué things she could have done like onlyfans, she decides to sleep with other men. For me, that alone is one of the biggest red flags and I would have insecurities about her for the rest of our marriage because I wouldn’t ever be ok with it

[ChocolateChamp]

Just no longer makes her yours per se, it makes her literally for the streets!! 😷

[Mr****]

No.

[Du****]

32 minutes ago, ChocolateChamp said:

Just no longer makes her yours per se, it makes her literally for the streets!! 😷

You are insulting OP, OP’s partner, and disrespecting sex workers. Not appropriate on a kink site - or anywhere else.

[DarkArts1066]

I think, on further reflection, that whether it makes you a Cuck or not, is entirely in your hands. How you see her behaviour, and how you, yourself respond to it is what will help to define this part of your relationship.
I used to enjoy my partner seeing other men professionally. She liked her work… it was partly for her pleasure and enjoyment as well as for the money…
I was often away working and she had a female friend who would come over and be her wingman when I was out of the Country
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I preferred being there, but there was something exciting about her getting pleasured. She would message or call me after she had seen someone.
She has very large breasts, and most of her clients would want to finish on them - which just happens to be one of my biggest kinks, so it all worked out rather well in the end.

[ey****]

3 hours ago, Toxic_Meerkat said:

What about safety?

I agree

The law, however, in the UK is awful.

So here's some example

Agencies aren't technically legal - because it comes under controlling sex for gain.  A lot of agencies get around this because as far as it appears on the site, the ladies are there just for 'companionship' and anything above that is "between consenting adults" 

I did have a neighbour once who signed up for an agency very naively and I had to kinda tell her  a bit - she thought she was going to be paid to go to the races, casinos, theatre, etc and while that does happen - the idea of "she could have sex at the end if she wanted" was naive.  

But anyway, the agencies have work arounds but are not entirely legal.

And then we have the brothel keeping laws.  

So a lot of things like dungeons you can hire - all of the ladies who use them have to specify they do not offer a sexual service - since, the dungeons having multiple people coming and going for hires would otherwise constitute as a brothel.   Even if, for example, there's activities like pegging or a handjob at the end.  Or, actual penetrate sex. 

The actual letter to the law is if two or more people are working there makes it a brothel - but - how this has been played in reality can differ.  The idea of the laws were to make it unsafe.

Of course, a lot of laws are not enforced because, y'know, discretion - however - there would be questions asked if the police visited and found an escort and their partner.  

Equally, using your own home gives leverage to any potential bad actors.  A lot of prospective clients are great. Some are not.  For the sake of argument a scenario where someone goes "give me BB, OWO, an extra 20 minutes, whatever - or I'll tip off the police this is a brothel" does put you in an odd spot.   And given they're probably using a disposable SIM and fake name it's not like you have anything to go back on them with. 

[ea****]

The real question is, what are you getting out of all this? Are you getting some type of satisfaction? Or money? I think the answer to that can help you answer your question.

[CopperKnob]

1 hour ago, ChocolateChamp said:

Just no longer makes her yours per se, it makes her literally for the streets!! 😷

Christ, just because someone has sex with another person doesn't mean that the person is "owned" what century are you from?
Also kink shaming isn't appropriate even if you don't feel it's something for you
.
OP, you aren't a cuck unless that's part of her service and the person purchasing the service is agreeable to it

[pl****]

You're definitely a cuck. if she's having sex with them with your knowledge, then by definition you're a cuckold.