Tips for people who want to meet kink minded partners

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Just now, denver24673 said:

I think something like that would work better unless I'm going with friends. Unfortunately the few friends I have that I know about their kinks and vice versa are all across the country and never met in person yet. But I trust them enough at this point I would go with them. It would be a learning experience at least. Again my issue is being a trucker and not being able to get an event when it's happening.

And since some events are vetted, or the person inviting in a stranger is risking their own reputation and even membership ... yeah, that makes it tricky for anything outside of an "anyone respectful is welcome" munch.

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It's kinda like the old commercial... its hard to get a job when they want someone with experience, but nobody wants to give you the experience 😆 🤣 😂

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1 minute ago, ponca-city616 said:

You are lucky to have found one.

I found two here at roughly the same time, but one situation ending up going completely clown shoes and the other person actually said they were willing to be a rebound relationship. 

I swear, everyone I date is nuts. But so am I, so at least I'm in good company.

 

1 minute ago, ponca-city616 said:

Going to anything outside of a one on one at a neutral public setting is the most comfortable, but it seems (and I totally understand) that others feel safer at an organized event of whatever type.

I've been ghosted so many times that I was getting used to gamifying the process just to be bothered to meet: a thousand points to texting to confirm the meet, a million points for getting cleaned up and dressed nicely, a bazillion points for showing up at the coffee shop and getting settled. I'd bring my Kindle and phone and play Pokémon Go for a while. I'd give them a 15 minute grace period - longer if I was involved in a gym raid - before I'd call it a day and go home.

My best friend loved the points idea, but she also didn't like the image of me trudging home after getting stood up and felt that I should get rewarded more, so she suggested that I hold meet and greets at munches. If the conversation goes flat, the attraction isn't there, or whatever, we can just start paying attention to the munch and leave the same way we'd arrived - separately. I'm slowly leaning more into that, though the last time I tried it me and the other person got so into our own conversation that I think we sorta freaked out the munch organizers. 🤭

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5 minutes ago, ponca-city616 said:

It's kinda like the old commercial... its hard to get a job when they want someone with experience, but nobody wants to give you the experience 😆 🤣 😂

Luckily only some events are that tightly vetted. One can move from more general ones to the more controlled ones after demeanor is evaluated and trust is built.

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I am looking for a partner to go to munches and to be my post partner or even a relationship. I am in the KC metro area. Since there are a lot of fake profiles out there. I am going to trust that doesn't happen. Send me a message if you live in the KC metro area in MO and KS

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I looking for a female parttner to go to munches and to be my post partner or even a relationship. I ambin the KC metro area. Since there are a lot of fake profiles out there. I am going to trust that doesn't happen. Send me a message if you live in the KC metro area in MO and KS