re**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 10 hours ago, YourDarkestDesires said: Well it is a hookup app for sexual preferences, so it's kinda strange you think you can find a relationship here If it's a hookup app why do they give option for Monogamy and Long Term Relationships?! Dude you really need to educate yourself.
Th**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 8 hours ago, DenverKitten said: For all the people saying “this is a fetish site so it must be for hookups” - tell me you don’t actually understand kink, BDSM, fetish without telling me you don’t really understand kink, BDSM, fetish. I ❤️ you so much for saying what I kept thinking. 👏👏👏
Na**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 I’ve had the *exact* same problem and I keep going back to the sage advice every time this happens: “f**k who you want and f**k who you don’t.” There’s a lot of shitty people out there that water down the true poly community and try to bully people into sex.
De**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 2 hours ago, ThaliaVirago said: I ❤️ you so much for saying what I kept thinking. 👏👏👏 We often think the same way, so that makes sense.😊
LV**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 I came here with the sense that this site was or is for a community of people who are kinky and for those who think they are and want to explore. But as time has passed, the posts and bios make me feel as though people have been using it as hook up site like Tinder. 🤷♂️ Haven't found anyone and I'm considering deleting it at some point!
Mo**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 By how the matching system works, it really feels like a dating app... if u want a community, I recommend Fetlife instead
ge**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 1 hour ago, MoshOne said: By how the matching system works, it really feels like a dating app... if u want a community, I recommend Fetlife instead Yes, there are "dating" elements to the site but it's inevitable on sites about a shared interest such as kink that those elements will be there - however focusing on just those elements overlooks the other aspects of the site such as the chat rooms, the forums, the informational blogs etc that make it community driven too.
Do**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 Message this morning: “Hey, you sound like a good time. How are you ?” Definitely not a sub approaching a Domme 🙄 Perfect example of someone just here for sex. Yeah girls like to be referred to a being a “good time” 🙈🙈🙈
Goddess_Fifi Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 I certainly don't view this place as a hookup site, however I have had individuals approach me in this manner, they have made the assumption that I am open to vulgar, rude, disrespectful messages and unsolicited photo's, they are instantly blocked.
MasterDarcy1979 Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 No. I'm not going to lie, I'm not a people person. The chance of me connecting with someone on here is akin to me connecting with someone on here. Not that I would rule it out. I've met one amazing person here. A big reason why I'm here is to soak up people's advice, wisdom and experience. In my opinion, everyone in this lifestyle should follow suit. No matter how experienced or wise you are, there's always room for improvement. Plus, I like to impart my own wisdom. If anyone is here to find a partner, be it short term of long term, that's their perogative.
aa**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 11 minutes ago, MasterDarcy1979 said: No. I'm not going to lie, I'm not a people person. The chance of me connecting with someone on here is akin to me connecting with someone on here. Not that I would rule it out. I've met one amazing person here. A big reason why I'm here is to soak up people's advice, wisdom and experience. In my opinion, everyone in this lifestyle should follow suit. No matter how experienced or wise you are, there's always room for improvement. Plus, I like to impart my own wisdom. If anyone is here to find a partner, be it short term of long term, that's their perogative. Well said
Ne**** Posted October 31, 2023 Author Posted October 31, 2023 1 hour ago, Goddess_Fifi said: I certainly don't view this place as a hookup site, however I have had individuals approach me in this manner, they have made the assumption that I am open to vulgar, rude, disrespectful messages and unsolicited photo's, they are instantly blocked. 😣 I encounter that regardless of what sort of site I’m using - female on planet Earth results in such (disgusted and tired of a lifetime of that.) ❤️🩹
Ne**** Posted October 31, 2023 Author Posted October 31, 2023 2 hours ago, DommeDelight said: Message this morning: “Hey, you sound like a good time. How are you ?” Definitely not a sub approaching a Domme 🙄 Perfect example of someone just here for sex. Yeah girls like to be referred to a being a “good time” 🙈🙈🙈 Yeah…. gross. ❤️🩹
Goddess_Fifi Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 30 minutes ago, NexumSange said: 😣 I encounter that regardless of what sort of site I’m using - female on planet Earth results in such (disgusted and tired of a lifetime of that.) ❤️🩹 You are not wrong about that, it's tedious and exhausting. I'm glad you made this post, some people clearly aren't aware of how their behaviour affects others, also others can see they aren't alone in these circumstances 💗.
gift_of_beli Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 I do not believe it is the site..its the mindset of the person who writes. On this site in particular I have only had positive interactions with people - even if there is no interest in continuing a conversations. platonic or otherwise I have still been treated with courtesy, respect and often kindness. Moreover the thing I notice most about the people interested in this side of life is invariably they are some of the smartest wisest and emotional intelligent people and who wouldn't want to talk listen and learn them. So hookup site no....a nice bit of camouflage so the people who don't get this side of life stand out clearly and can be avoided yes but overall...a place where you can be who you are and if you do that with integrity you will be seen and treated the same.
Goddess_Fifi Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 43 minutes ago, gift_of_beli said: I do not believe it is the site..its the mindset of the person who writes. On this site in particular I have only had positive interactions with people - even if there is no interest in continuing a conversations. platonic or otherwise I have still been treated with courtesy, respect and often kindness. Moreover the thing I notice most about the people interested in this side of life is invariably they are some of the smartest wisest and emotional intelligent people and who wouldn't want to talk listen and learn them. So hookup site no....a nice bit of camouflage so the people who don't get this side of life stand out clearly and can be avoided yes but overall...a place where you can be who you are and if you do that with integrity you will be seen and treated the same. Beautifully written 😌
J-**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 Unfortunately it’s been my experience that this is a site for women to sell their onlyfans porn and who have no interest in meeting at all. And the moderators need to ban that.
MsDrawers Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 1 hour ago, J-Dean said: Unfortunately it’s been my experience that this is a site for women to sell their onlyfans porn and who have no interest in meeting at all. And the moderators need to ban that. Content creators and other sex workers have been a massive part of the scene since forever. If people are ***fully trying to sell you stuff that's one thing, but banning the outright would be a loss to us all as well as impossible to police. Sex work is work.
Do**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 As someone who stumbled across this site a few months ago, I have learned so much. Apart from endlessly flicking back and forth to Google, I have read some great stories, poems, profiles and comments, they have shed so much light into what I would have previously thought of as a dark area. My profile is one of the blank ones, one word, learning covers it all. There seem to be so many young people who know exactly what they want. I am of a generation that was taught to study, learn from others experience and mistakes, before jumping in too far. We all make mistakes and we were all young at one time, but we had respect for those with experience. I hope those that feel this site is for hook ups only at least glance at the experience on offer here. There are strong ***s, deep passions and desires at play, not to be confused with a, ONS or a quickie. If they learn nothing of Safety, Limits or potential harm I *** for them. I will continue to learn for now, I think that is the safest thing for me to do and hopefully have a few laughs in the process.
Ne**** Posted October 31, 2023 Author Posted October 31, 2023 2 hours ago, J-Dean said: Unfortunately it’s been my experience that this is a site for women to sell their onlyfans porn and who have no interest in meeting at all. And the moderators need to ban that. I’m sorry that’s been your perception and experience. It’s a rather isolated, judgmental, and myopic view also.
Ma**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 This is a site to meet people an if a connection made awesome if not oh well
Vo**** Posted November 1, 2023 Posted November 1, 2023 Just like anything else you can put a label on what this site is for some may see it as a hookup site others a way to meet and make new friends it is what it’s going to be to that person as simple as that
ha**** Posted November 2, 2023 Posted November 2, 2023 As a newbie to both the app and the lifestyle I can only say that I hope it's not just for hookups. I am eager to learn and expand my knowledge, feels like that would be harder going from partner to partner.
Vo**** Posted November 2, 2023 Posted November 2, 2023 Yes and no different partners will always have different point of views on things
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