DDLG. A question for littles & middles.

[Deleted Member]

As a Daddy with a few years experience, curious to know to what extent you see it as roleplay versus a genuine state of mind?
We have to work, pay bills, deal with what life sends our way etc etc. I’ve discovered my niche, but I can turn it on and off and respond to the real world when I need to.
For the littles and middles (bratty or otherwise), is it harder for you to do the same, and does leaving the dynamic and dipping a toe back into reality come with consequences?
Genuinely curious.

[Deleted Member]

For me, I know I can't just stay in that mindset all of the time. It can be difficult to switch out and go back to being who I have to be most of the time, and it can also be difficult getting into that headspace if I know I have limited time. So for me, it's just about the environment mostly, and I just have to try my best to adjust.

[MissTakenDeep]

I don’t engage in age play because it does for me, yes. I naturally regress, if I let myself fully engage in that, it can send me to a place I struggle to leave and easily becomes my permanent state of mind.

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for the above. ⬆️
Being able to disengage is certainly an issue. I’ve recently had to introduce a “phone off or on silent” rule, as it can be all to easy to be brought ***fully out of a dynamic and then we have to manage the lows that then follow, and the difficulty getting back into the right mindset.

[Bi****]

Love this.

[skyland]

i’ve never had trouble going back and forth

[skyland]

it’s like a light switch

[MissTakenDeep]

1 hour ago, PeteNR2 said:

Thanks for the above. ⬆️
Being able to disengage is certainly an issue. I’ve recently had to introduce a “phone off or on silent” rule, as it can be all to easy to be brought ***fully out of a dynamic and then we have to manage the lows that then follow, and the difficulty getting back into the right mindset.

That can be problem, have you spoke to your little about this? Are they aware that they’re struggling to switch off from the role? Is it a role for them or do they need the constant dynamic? It might be things they’re not fully aware of.

[Deleted Member]

27 minutes ago, MissTakenDeep said:

That can be problem, have you spoke to your little about this? Are they aware that they’re struggling to switch off from the role? Is it a role for them or do they need the constant dynamic? It might be things they’re not fully aware of.

Yes, we’ve had a frank discussion. There are elements of ADHD at play here, and she often struggles to concentrate and remain in one mindset, hence why distractions are problematic. I should have been clearer… switching off is actually more of a problem due to not wanting to, rather than not being able to.

[MissTakenDeep]

11 minutes ago, PeteNR2 said:

Yes, we’ve had a frank discussion. There are elements of ADHD at play here, and she often struggles to concentrate and remain in one mindset, hence why distractions are problematic. I should have been clearer… switching off is actually more of a problem due to not wanting to, rather than not being able to.

That make sense and was my concern, for me personally, that’s a safe space in my head, a place I feel very comfortable and want to stay in. That becomes the danger for me, I get lost in that space and it sounds like she might too.

[Deleted Member]

For me it is both. Role and everyday. My job allows me to indulge in my middle side, while still being a responsible adult.😜😁

[ShockingSass]

For me, it's like a sliding scale. My default is somewhere between middle and adult, and the demands on my time and the setting I'm in shift it one way or another.
I can be little sometimes, but it's much harder to achieve without effort.
And whichever headspace I'm in, anything that ***s an abrupt change from little/middle to adult will leave me feeling low or more susceptible to stress.
If I'm prepared for the slide and it's more gradual, the transition is pretty easy and stress free.
They're all natural states of mind for me rather than an act, although roleplay is sometimes involved in addition.

[Deleted Member]

13 hours ago, ShockingSass said:

For me, it's like a sliding scale. My default is somewhere between middle and adult, and the demands on my time and the setting I'm in shift it one way or another.
I can be little sometimes, but it's much harder to achieve without effort.
And whichever headspace I'm in, anything that ***s an abrupt change from little/middle to adult will leave me feeling low or more susceptible to stress.
If I'm prepared for the slide and it's more gradual, the transition is pretty easy and stress free.
They're all natural states of mind for me rather than an act, although roleplay is sometimes involved in addition.

Yeah, I agree with that. A ***d removal from the dynamic (due to perhaps a distraction) does cause low mood and stress. If we see it coming and plan for it, it’s easier.

[Zain_2002]

I like to be controlled by females , turns me on .

[ci****]

It definitely depends on the circumstances. Some people fall into genuine age regressions and struggle with sexual age play. But they’re still littles. When regressing it can be really tough to deal with real life. Some people need more patience.

[RainbowTea]

For me as an age regressor it's a genuine state of mind. I don't like acting a younger age when I'm not in that headspace, it feels too ***d for me. That said, I'm an age flux regressor (I'm both a middle and little), and usually regress to the middle range 95% of the time, so switching and coming out of that headspace whenever I need to adult is much easier than when I'm in the little headspace. In fact I think I happen to end up in the *** part of middle at least half the time, if not more than the amount of time spent in the adult headspace. Which is why it took me so long to realise I'm a regressor, because feeling younger always felt so natural and I assumed I was just "young at heart" with occasional moments of feeling like a little girl out of nowhere (but especially if something triggers it).

 

When in the middle range I can still reasonably adult and act like an adult much more easily, so I've been able to get by masking my middle range regression in my vanilla life whenever I have to deal with people. In little range, not so much - and that's when things become too overwhelming, and there's higher consequences when trying to adult while in the little range. I often just try to retreat to somewhere safe until that headspace passes, if possible. Otherwise I try to keep it low-key and avoid all responsibilities until it passes, and hope nobody notices anything off. Thankfully it's only an occasional regression.

Edited April 19, 2024 by RainbowTea
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[Ricky0694]

The more time I spend as my little the more daring I get to remain in that state. The fantasy becomes larger and more involved.

[li****]

For me as a little I tend to have almost a sub drop like negative mood come on if I get knocked back into an adult headspace too fast and it hurts my little in me because I regress. But other times I can be a blend of my adult self and the little and it is easier to come back into adult space. It depends on how deep in sub little space I regress and it’s important to be gentle with littles afterwards

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for the comments. I agree with how it can feel ***d if not in the correct state of mind. I totally understand how that affects littles and middles, but I think applicable to Daddies too. At least to a certain extent.

[Deleted Member]

May 3, Ricky0694 said:

The more time I spend as my little the more daring I get to remain in that state. The fantasy becomes larger and more involved.

If I could stay there forever I’d be happiest girl on the planet 🥰🥰

[Jordan-2707]

In my case I regress and even switch out (I have OSDD) so I can just turn it off and on if needed but I don't really like to and it makes everyone uneasy till we can regress again and slowly come out of it. Like when you go through something and you stuck on flight or fight. That is kinda how I would describe it.

[Deleted Member]

On 3/13/2024 at 1:40 PM, MissTakenDeep said:

That make sense and was my concern, for me personally, that’s a safe space in my head, a place I feel very comfortable and want to stay in. That becomes the danger for me, I get lost in that space and it sounds like she might too.

I am a middle, newly discovered, but now realize she has always been there. This is how I feel, safe as a middle, I don't want to leave, but I have to. I don't struggle to get back but I struggle to leave 

[Deleted Member]

On 3/13/2024 at 8:42 AM, PeteNR2 said:

As a Daddy with a few years experience, curious to know to what extent you see it as roleplay versus a genuine state of mind?
We have to work, pay bills, deal with what life sends our way etc etc. I’ve discovered my niche, but I can turn it on and off and respond to the real world when I need to.
For the littles and middles (bratty or otherwise), is it harder for you to do the same, and does leaving the dynamic and dipping a toe back into reality come with consequences?
Genuinely curious.

Seems like you found the answers you was looking for?

For me being a middle became part of me I learned to incorporate it into my life meaning its now a permanent state of being that I just got good at only showing to people I know that can be trusted.

To anyone who isn't able to tell its a kink I just come across as "childish" as it slipped out when around someone I built that trust bond with.

Edited June 25, 2024 by Deleted Member
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[LVQ888]

I mentally regress if I’m familiar with someone or when I’m alone by myself. 

[An****]

I try to live my ABDL lifestyle 24/7 since I am disabled and on disability. I take my Stuffies when I go to hospitals and stuff. But when I have doctor appointments or my therapist then I don't.