Pay to a submissive

[subguy-1963]

OK, simple question.  Does a submissive have to pay to be a submissive to a Mistress.  Pay to be collared 

[Deleted Member]

Nooo

[cum4meSlowly]

Simple answer no. Probably a scam.

[Deleted Member]

I believe that sub/dom relationship must be pleasure based and a lifestyle so if that happens there is no need for expecting any kind of payment

[Si****]

Absolutely not

[subguy-1963]

Thanks guys I thought so just needed confirmation 

[Ha****]

No, no, no, no, no! Albeit you will find that this site of full of findom scammers demanding gifts/tributes...

[Angel_Seven]

not unless its a findom type of situation and even so probably not.

[Gr****]

Negative.

Side note, impressed there are real guys in here actually being helpful. Never though I’d see that online lol.

[Radhaye]

Well - if she‘s a professional then yes 🤷‍♀️

[Cr****]

Findom isn't scamming, but it's not allowed here nor is it a requirement to be owned although gifts are nice 👍🏻

[Ro****]

Financial Dominance or professional ir scam

[Deleted Member]

NO FINDOM HAS NO PLACE IN BDSM!

[Deleted Member]

Here’s a thought experiment. Consider that we are talking about a vanilla relationship. Do you have to pay for it? Is it ok to be ***d? Is dishonesty acceptable?

Guess what, any BDSM dynamic is a relationship too.

[Mr--Sir]

During my days as a Pro Dom, I met plenty of Dommes/Dominatrix's. Not all treated it as a profession. There are real Dommes, Pro Dommes, and Fet App fakes.

If you are looking for a partnership, then absolutely not. You shouldn't pay a dime. Sure, someday, if you become a live-in submissive/slave, your accounts will be controlled by your Domme as I do with my submissives, but only when complete trust has been established.

Those on this app that ask for *** are 99% fake with a few real Dommes sprinkled in.

Don't settle because of desperation.

[Deleted Member]

If anyone is asking to be paid, report them. At best it's not allowed here, at worst it's a scammer.

[d_guglieme]

My impression is that it is similar to "sugar daddy" dynamics. The difference is that the paying party (likely the man) is the "weaker" party. This is counter-normative. But, it is what it is.

It is not something that I am comfortable with. Nor am I saying anyone else should be. But, for some people, it works.

[Daggz]

BDSM and Kink isn’t even in the same realm as prostitution or Escorts pretending to be in the lifestyle and looking for compensation. The closest would be “sugar daddy” giving gifts sometimes out of affection. Don’t waste your time if it’s financial, you will find someone who is interested in the same things as you.

[subguy-1963]

WOW!!!! THANK YOU GUYS!!!!

[Deleted Member]

This is called Findom and payment is typically called tribute. Not all Mistresses require it. Or it is a professional Domme. When I have subs I don’t typically require payment unless that is their kink. But I am also super selective due to this.

[Da****]

3 hours ago, Thomas-4043 said:

I believe that sub/dom relationship must be pleasure based and a lifestyle so if that happens there is no need for expecting any kind of payment

You are 100% correct if *** is the in the first sentence. Pound sand you are like million others. Honestly it’s junk mail.

[0m****]

To me if you’re paying it’s prostitution and once *** is involved the dynamic shifts. Who’s really in control if you’re footing the bill? Find a lifestyle domme.

[Ma****]

No but the subs who do have more fun in the lifestyle. They understand their value to a Domme.

[ey****]

Short answer : no, you don't *have* to

Longer answer - if you are dealing with any form of Pro, then yes you do - many have different forms of expectation - which is all valid and is their boundary.  The pros and cons of this are simple - cons, it can be expensive, pro it's much easier to find someone to explore with regularly and maintaining a dynamic

But also - let's say you meet someone tomorrow and you both express an interest in doing a dynamic together.  Who is paying for all of the toys? Clothes? If you want to go to a fetish club or dungeon, who is paying?  You're going to be paying into the lifestyle one way or another.   And if you expect to meet a lady who already has a full fetish wardrobe and array of toys just waiting for that one guy; you got a long lonnnng wait. 

[Ha****]

9 hours ago, Zhurendragon said:

If anyone is asking to be paid, report them. At best it's not allowed here, at worst it's a scammer.

Unfortunately the mods on this site either don't know the rules or don't care as they often fail to take action despite reporting profiles.

Example of a profile I reported 2 days ago that has "looking for a loser man to spoil me with gifts like I deserve." as their profile description and yet the profile is still active...