BIO UPDATE: Because Apparently People Don't Read The First One
Who Am I?
I suppose it's time for a bio update because a lot has changed and judging by some of the messages i've received, some people are operating on information older than an archaeological dig.
I'm Sensory and yes, the name comes from Sensory Deprivation before anyone asks for the 47th time. I'm a Dom within the BDSM lifestyle and have been involved in the scene for over 12 years, during that time i've dated and connected with men, women and transgender people. These days i'm open to meeting either a male or female partner for something that could be short term, long term or somewhere in between depending on the connection.
What I Actually Do
My life revolves around two things, rock music and training submissives within the BDSM lifestyle. Both take up a considerable amount of my time, so if your dream relationship involves someone being available 24/7 to discuss what sandwich you had for lunch, we may not be compatible. If however, you appreciate ambition, passion, creativity and someone who genuinely loves what they do, we'll get along just fine.
Communication: The Lost Art Form
Let's discuss communication, if you message me enthusiastically on Monday and then disappear until next Thursday like you've been recruited into a witness protection programme this won't work. Consistency matters, communication matters and effort matters. I tend to match people's energy, whatever you bring to the table I'll reflect back. If you don't like what you're seeing, there's a reasonable chance you're staring directly into your own mirror.
Please don't complain to management.
The INFJ & Pisces Problem
I'm an INFJ and a Pisces, which essentially means I notice things. The story doesn't match, the energy changes, the details don't add up, the explanation gets rewritten three times. You know it, I know it and the dog knows it. So lying is a massive red flag, save us both the time.
Things I Enjoy
* Rock music
* Metal music
* Alternative music
* Horror films
* True crime
* Psychology
* History
* Architecture
* Travelling
* Coffee
* Cooking
* Baking
* Deep conversations
* Museums
* Historical locations
* Exploring new places
Fantasy films generally aren't my thing, if your personality is built entirely around watching The Holiday every Christmas, we may encounter our first diplomatic incident fairly quickly.
Coffee
I need coffee, I love coffee, I think about coffee before i've finished my current coffee. Any successful relationship with me will eventually involve coffee, resistance is futile.
Family & Values
Despite the sarcasm, i'm actually a very family oriented person. I'm empathetic, loyal, protective and deeply invested in the people I care about. I enjoy creating memories, travelling, discovering new places, trying new foods and building genuine connections with people who are capable of being authentic.
What I'm Looking For
Someone who:
* Communicates properly
* Shows consistency
* Has emotional intelligence
* Can hold an actual conversation
* Enjoys travelling
* Has interests and passions of their own
* Doesn't play games
* Understands effort works both ways
* Appreciates sarcasm
* Can laugh at themselves
You don't need to be perfect, you do need to be genuine.
Final Disclaimer
If you're looking for someone surface level, permanently attached to one word replies, emotionally unavailable or allergic to communication, this probably won't work. If you're looking for meaningful conversation, dark humour, adventure, coffee, loyalty, history, music, occasional chaos and a woman who can discuss psychology, architecture, true crime and why people make terrible life choices all before breakfast...
You might just be in the right place.
One Final Public Service Announcement
Just because I have stated that I am open to a short term or long term relationship including with men, does not mean I am inviting desperate messages, sexual interrogations or unsolicited photos of body parts. Let's save everyone some time.
If your opening message is sexual, asks intimate questions before we've even exchanged basic conversation or involves sending pictures I never asked for you will be ignored, blocked or become a funny story told over coffee later.