ABOUT ME
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β¦ In the interest of not wasting anyone's time; I'm "thicc", "curvy", "voluptuous", [insert additional descriptors here]. I'm not thin, my photos are not an inaccurate portrayal of me but I do utilize careful angles and lighting to best accentuate and flatter my shape. If this is a problem then move along.
β¦ My physical description is 5'4", blue eyes, long auburn hair, measurements 52-38-55.
β¦ Massive nerd, very into DC and Marvel, yes I cosplay and no I do not (and will not) wear cosplays during scenes/play. At least not any of my expensive and ***stakingly crafted ones, but I'm not opposed to sexy outfits/costumes in the bedroom.
β¦ The farthest thing from religious or conservative. Anyone prescribing to either of those need not apply
β¦ I'm a very straightforward, no nonsense kind of person. Opinionated, non-traditional, independent.
β¦ Switch (commonly mistaken for a Domme). When I Domme/top it is usually with a female/femme partner. As a sub I tend to be bratty and engage in power play, and prefer male/masc Doms. Not set in stone, just a common pattern.
β¦ Sapiosexual. Intelligence in a partner is a requirement for me to be attracted to them. (Note: this does not mean you have to have some crazy high IQ, and keep in mind that emotional intelligence falls under this umbrella).
β¦ Demisexual. This one is hard to explain succinctly but basically Iβm not going to want to sleep with you until we form some kind of emotional bond. This is NOT a preference, I will have literally zero sexual interest in you until I know you better as a person. Google may be your friend on this one.
β¦ Sadomasochist. Heavy on the sadism (giving), light on the masochism (receiving).
β¦ I'm a bit of a control freak in my day-to-day, so being relieved of that burden is certainly welcome, though because of this subservience from me is something that requires patience and trust.
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WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR
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β¦ Primarily in the market for a male/masc Dom right now (subject to change)
β¦ Preferably partners with experience in BDSM or D/s
β¦ Intelligence (very important)
β¦ Currently looking to explore being sub to a sensual/gentle Dom and partaking in some sensation play (candle wax, blindfolds, restraints, feathers, ice, etc). I'm also curious about exploring some facets of the Daddy Dom and little/middle dynamic.
β¦ Someone who takes negotiation, consent, and safety VERY seriously. Safe, sane, consensual, friends.
β¦ A partner interested in helping me to explore, learn, grow, improve.
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WHAT I AM -NOT- LOOKING FOR
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β¦ Submissive males. At leastβ¦.not at this moment.
β¦ "Fake" Doms, or people who confuse being a TOP for being a DOM. They are two very different things. Please learn the difference.
β¦ Anyone who's knowledge of BDSM was wholly derived from 50 Shades of Grey.
β¦ Long distance relationships/arrangements. I've done it, not interested in doing it again.
β¦ Couples, poly, or open relationships. I'm not interested in being anyone's unicorn or entering into any pre-existing dynamics. I have no moral issue with those who are in such arrangements but they're not for me. (UPDATE: I am -tentatively- exploring polyamory.)
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If you've any questions or find our interests to be compatible then please feel free to contact me.