Younger Sex Partners | Kinks & Fetishes

For kinksters into younger play partners

I prefer my partners to be younger than me, is that okay?

I find younger sex partners attractive, am I a cougar?

When writing my dating profile can I specify that I only like younger people?

If I only like younger partners does that mean I’m into age play?

For kinksters into younger play partners

It's very common for someone to fetishise the idea of sleeping with someone who is drastically different in age to themselves. This is usually associated with the Hugh Hefner stereotype, but there's no need for that to be the only way it's perceived; plenty of people prefer a partner with a little more experience, and that goes regardless of gender orientation or sexual identity!

This is sometimes part of a kink, particularly if associated with something like DD/lg or other sexualised role plays, but for many it's simply a matter of to whom they tend to find themselves feeling attracted. A significant age gap can introduce an interesting power dynamic to any BDSM relationship, which many enthusiasts find is a fun added bonus!

I prefer my partners to be younger than me, is that okay?

Of course it is! Age is merely a number but some people are really into age gap relationships with younger sex partners. If you find younger guys or gals sexy then embrace that. The fetish scene is a very accepting place and it’s not unusual to see large age gaps in play partners.

I find younger sex partners attractive, am I a cougar?

There are lots of different definitions of the term cougar, some people use it just to mean a woman who has younger sex partners, other definitions include an element of aggression or domination. So it’s up to you. If you identify as a cougar then you are but if you don’t, then you’re not!

When writing my dating profile can I specify that I only like younger people?

Of course, it is after all your dating profile and you want to make it as accurate as possible. Be as specific as you like but always be respectful. If you’re only looking for younger sex partners it may be worth stressing that you won’t answer messages from anyone older than you so you get responses from the people you want to get replies from.

If I only like younger partners does that mean I’m into age play?

It kinda sounds like it but no. Age play is all about roleplaying as someone of a different age. If you’re attracted to younger sex partners that in itself isn’t age play. There has to be an element of role playing someone of a different age for it to be age play.

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Age Play

Age play is increasingly popular in kink circles, and comes in many different forms. The best known is, paradoxically, probably also the rarest; while adult babies and people heavily invested in diaper play certainly do exist and have valid and varied sexual expression, roleplaying a generally childlike demeanour with an authoritative figure is far more common. 'Ageplay' is an umbrella term and it covers a wide variety of kinks and identities; anything that involves roleplaying an age difference between two partners comes under it, including dynamics where one person acts in a cutesy or youthful way without embodying any one specific age.

Older Sex Partners

Not everyone who prefers their partners to be a little older than them is looking for a Hugh Hefner stereotype. Plenty of folk prefer their partner to have a little more experience than them, and there are loads of fetishes (such as Caregiver/little or Owner) that thrive off a bit of an age gap. The important thing is to make certain that, no matter what your sexual dynamic, in everyday life you're on the same level - power differentials are hot in kink terms and potentially abusive in everyday ones! Keep in constant communication, treat your partner as an equal outside of your dynamic and enjoy all the age gap relationships you could want.

Swinger

Swinging is another form of non-monogamy, though one that looks at the question from a very different perspective to polyamory. Swingers tend to be in serious, stable, primary relationships and have occasional sex with other people who are also in those relationships; the primary couple is considered the most important thing of all, and the theory behind the extra-marital sexual relationships is that they're 'a bit of fun' without too much romance or a lot of intense emotions. Of course, in practice swingers often form wonderfully intense bonds with their other partners; human connection is what it's all about, after all!