From the spacious and plentiful play spaces of the West Coast to the underground (sometimes literally) scene in the Northeast, the US has a handful of kinky places to play - whether you're new to the scene or an experienced player.

Kinky Places to Play: Portland, OR


Whether you're a sex-positive parent, a polyamorous triad, or a non-conforming gender-neutral human, Portland has got the people and places for you to play with and at. Plus, you're sure to learn a thing or two in this humble, open, and welcoming atmosphere.

Learn


Sex toy stores such as Shebop offer a small assortment of generally introductory level classes for absolute newcomers to the sex-positive scene. This is a great way for newbies to develop a comfort for talking about sex in a non-normative, educational environment, and a great pre-cursor to any sort of kink function.
If you're looking for something more hands-on, Noble Rope Arts is an established organization hosting popular rope classes and workshops catered to various levels of experience. Open skill shares such as Hitchin Bitches, hosted by the small and intimate Catalyst Art & Cultural Center, is another great (and affordable) way to learn rope handling in a relaxed and casual environment. The Catalyst is also home to many other sex-positive and kink-centric events, workshops, and gatherings.

Play


The Office is a new boutique sized play space hosting a wide range of play events (from AB/DL, to kinky key parties) at affordable member and non-member prices. Plus, members can drop in to use the space at any time, any day. This is a great starter venue for anyone new to the scene. With icebreakers like boardgames and a hang-out vibe, first timers get a chance to wet their feet before jumping into the pool. To find out about membership, email kinkspacepdx@gmail.com.

Wednesday nights are unofficially “Kinky Wednesdays” at Club Sesso, a popular swinger's club featuring the famous fish bowl, a private glass room equipped with curtains, for optional voyeuristic/exhibitionist fun. The club is aplenty with rope riggers on Wednesdays, and the option of playing in a public or private room attracts both the cautious and adventurous player. Their official kink night, Twisted Party, happens monthly. You can find a similar atmosphere, part swinger, part kink, at The Velvet Rope, which hosts kink samplers (toys inclusive) and kink parties monthly. Certain parties at both venues are members only.

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Socialize


The Portland Leather Alliance runs classes and information sessions, and serves as a calendar aggregator for the local area. They keep track of all the weekly munches (there are a handful) occurring locally, designed for kinksters to network and harness a sense of community.
The PDX Bad Girls are a group for self-identifying females interested or involved in leather. They host social outings, classes, discussion and support groups–sans men.

Portland's branch of Eagle Bar has nightly events for men in the leather scene. The Eagle is the center of many kink community projects and fundraisers. Their events range from free to cheap.

To find events in Portland, checkout the Portland Leather Alliance's local calendar, PDX Kink Events, or The Wink

Kinky Places to Play: Chicago, IL


Perhaps because of its unbearable winters—expect below zero temperatures, fahrenheit—Chicago keeps things steamy inside all through the year. Home to two cozy play spaces plus one in its northern suburbs, it's easy to find a sense of community without seeing the same faces every night.

Learn


Chicago has a slew of educational resources for those looking to gain knowledge before gaining experience. Whether you want to take a class or sit-in on a lecture, there are many ways here for you to ingest your kink.Pleasure Chest Chicago, with additional branches all over the country, hosts by far the most regularly occurring sex and kink classes, book signings, and discussions in Chicago. Their classes are fun, informative, and always free! Early to Bed also offers an assortment of sex and kink related classes, but less regularly. Their schedule picks up in the warmer months.
If you'd prefer something even more stimulating, the Leather Archives and Museum is a smorgasbord of kinky art, exhibits, and special presentations. Monthly talks and interactive lectures take place in the museum's auditorium. Presenters range from local educators to past titleholders of national and international leather community contests.

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Play


No matter your kink, you can find fun at one of Chicago's diverse and spacious play spaces. If you're looking for BDSM oriented activities within the city, LRA (formerly Leather Rose) is a well established, multi-level dungeon for open play accessible to members only. Certain educational events are occasionally open to the public, but location is kept on the DL for safety and privacy reasons.
Galleria Domain 2 (GD2) is a newer and to be frank, classier version of the former Galleria Domain. This not-for-profit has elegant play spaces (including a fireplace!) and additionally hosts workshops, classes, support, and discussion groups for members, their guests, and sometimes the public.
For suburbanites, SINS (located in a north suburb of Chicago) is another not-for-profit dungeon equipped clubhouse for members, but every first Friday of the month is free and open to non-members. They've been around for over a decade, but their space is recently renovated.
If you like incorporating crossdressing into your kinky play, then Safehouse is the place for you. They host parties every Saturday geared kinky men into crossdressing and their admirers, friends, and playmates . You can also rent out the space for your own private event. Admission is free for women and cross dressing males, plus you can get a free ride there via Lyft (see their website for details).

Socialize


Chicago also has their own branch of TNG for kinksters ages 18-35. They host a munch every week and have their own play nights at LRA and Galleria Domain 2. If you're looking for more of a support group, the Chicago Kinksters Discussion Group is facilitated by two kink-aware therapists.
Touché is Chicago's equivalent of Eagle Bar, a leather bar for men hosting weekly events, fundraisers, and contests. Windy City Bondage Club and Windy City Boys Troop are both fraternal and social organizations for men interested or involved in the leather/BDSM lifestyle. While WCBC only offers membership to men, WCBT extends their membership to self-identified men, including (but not limited to) cis-gendered females and anyone who's outward appearance may not match up with what is commonly perceived as male.
If you're hoping to insert yourself into the sex-positive community at large, join Sex Geekdom Chicago at their fun outings and bar nights, ranging from non-sexual to light play.
To find events in Chicago, log in to FetLife or check The Wink's Chicago listings.

In this piece we explored two hip and active yet sometimes overlooked kink scenes: Chicago, IL and Portland, OR. Now we're heading into two bigger territories for kinky places to play: the most populous city in the country, and the most obvious destination for sex-positive and kink friendly community.

Kinky Places to Play: New York, NY


From secret basement level dungeons and parties to out in the open munches, New York's kink scene serves up leather history alongside an edgy play environment.

Learn


The Eulenspiegel Society A.K.A. TES, is one of the longest running BDSM organizations in the country. Originally founded as the Masochism Liberation Society in 1971, TES has evolved from an informal association to a thriving not-for-profit hosting weekly workshops, outings, and play parties. Their classes are open to members as well as the public.
For the rope curious and enthused, NYC Allies in Rope (NYC AIR) hosts a monthly skill share/potluck, as well as a bimonthly open level rope workshop. For those who may be cautious about entering a dungeon setting for the first time, not to worry; these classes take place in studio spaces around the city.
Various sex toy shops around Manhattan (and Brooklyn) also host regular classes and workshops, such as Purple Passion (a kink-centric store), and its lighter counterparts Babeland and Pleasure Chest Upper East Side (See Part I for Pleasure Chest Chicago). All of Pleasure Chest and some of Babeland's classes are free. Purple Passion's workshops all cost $20, and range from kinky yoga to rough-handling instruction.

Play


There are many organizations and venues that host monthly play parties in multiple boroughs. Admission to classes and parties in NY are much pricier than elsewhere due to high competition in real estate, but some events are free to attend.

One of Manhattan's only open-to-the-public dungeon equipped space is Paddles, located on the basement level of a building in Chelsea. It's tough to find if you don't know what you're looking for, even once you make it into the building! It's not as big as dungeon spaces out of state, but is multi-level and houses both private, open, and semi-private play spaces.
the best kinky places to play in the USMany organizations host parties at Paddles, with admission rates contingent upon the host. Dom(me) sub Friends or DsF is one of those. They generally have an accompanying workshop or demo style lecture preceding their play events, with discounted party admission for those who attend. TES, and New York's branch of TNG also host monthly classes and parties here.
Parthenon is another nearby dungeon typically used as session space for professional Dominatrices, that also hosts monthly parties and classes. Their prices are typically higher than those at Paddles, but they often offer orientation sessions for newcomers.
Cirque De Plaisir is part of the new loft style party trend to hit New York. Admission is pricey (no couple deals), but non-gendered. Kinky Salon also hosts in non-dungeon spaces, but the townhouses they rent out are typically in Brooklyn. The commute however, is a trade-off for a much more spacious (and classy) party.
Another of New York's kinky places to play that has quickly gained popularity since its arrival one year ago, is Wonderland, originally reigning from London. In addition to an in-house dungeon, Wonderland features fun attractions such as photo booths, ball pits, and a dance floor (the attractions alternate per party). A cross between kink party and rave, outlandish and colorful dress is the norm here.

Socialize


For general information and discussions, MAsT (Masters And slaves Together) is NYC's local branch of the international BDSM support organization. The group holds monthly discussions on rotating topics relating to M/s and D/s dynamics. They are non-age and gender restrictive.
NYC's chapter of TNG (The Next Generation) however, does limit membership to those between the ages of 18-35. They host munches (kinky social gatherings generally held at a restaurant or cafe) before all of their play parties, so that you can avoid attending a party alone.
SSASE (Soft Smiles Association for Submissive Education) is an independent group exclusively for female submissives (including switches wearing their submissive caps). They host discussion groups, kinky and non-kinky outings (which partners and friends are often welcome to join), and happy hours (often paired with cupcakes, cocktails, and swing-sets). For a more dude-centric vibe, check out NY's branch of Eagle Bar.
On the other side of the spectrum, Pleasure Salon is an all inclusive social event for kinky, poly, and generally sex-positive folks. It takes place in a spacious and partially closed off rooftop bar, with other free events generally going on downstairs.
To find events in New York City, log into FetLife or check The Wink's New York listings.

Kinky Places to Play: San Francisco


Perhaps the most welcoming and accepting city for kink in the country, San Francisco is home to spacious dungeons and sex-positive community centers such as Kink.com's Armory.

Learn


A group dedicated to providing friendly instruction to students with a genuine interest in kink, Foundations hosts monthly workshops preceded by laid back munches for getting to know the group. You must receive sponsorship to gain admission to a Foundations class. Find out more about Foundations by stopping into Wicked Grounds.
For a more immersive experience, check out SF Armory and Citadel's beginner to advanced level classes...in dungeons! Their workshops feature both local and visiting educators, including 2014 International Power Exchange titleholders Stefanos & Shay.
If you're interested in a wider range of sex-positive classes, Good Vibrations sex toy boutiques and the Center for Sex & Culture host a number of discussions and workshops for kink and beyond.

Play


In addition to SF Citadel's extremely diverse offering of affordable weekly play parties (all of which you can volunteer for in exchange for free admission)–including AB/DL, leather-centric, age specific, all inclusive, bondage enthusiasts, themed, queer, and way too many more to list,–San Francisco is home to many other re-occurring parties catering to every corner of the kink community.
Kinky Salon (also in New York) is an all inclusive and outrageous sex-positive and kinky party. It's always themed, and overdressing just isn't possible. Mission Control hosts many other events along the lines of Kinky Salon, and their's are especially pansexual, queer friendly, and trans welcoming.
For parties and venues geared toward a specific demographic, check out the SF Eagle and Mystique; the first is a bar for men of the leather community (and their gal pals) that hosts weekly and special monthly parties, and the latter a quarterly event geared toward dominant females. (You can also volunteer in exchange for free admission to Mystique.)

Socialize


Like New York, San Francisco is also home to a branch of TNG, and even has their own TES equivalent: Society of Janus (founded in 1975, only four years after TES). Janus is pansexual and open to all ages, and hosts social gatherings and classes (generally at the Citadel) for members and non-members (prices are higher for non-members).
As far as male-only associations are concerned, San Francisco has (unsurprisingly) lots to offer: the Rubber Men of San Francisco, the SF Ring, the Defenders, the Leathermen's Discussion Group, and San Fran's senior gay leather organization (founded in 1980)–The 15 Association–are arguably the most prominent and active groups.
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The SF girls of Leather (SfgoL) and Exiles (a 501(c)3 non-profit) are two female equivalents for self-identifying women interested or already involved in the kink scene and leather community. The Exiles are particularly welcoming to newcomers–offering many introductory BDSM classes. And if you're into San Francisco's history, then you'll find the Exiles timelessly relevant–they were the first women's only leather group ever founded–first as Cardea, then Samois, Outcasts, and eventually as the Exiles.
Most if not all of these groups (among countless others) meet at Wicked Grounds, San Francisco's only cafe run and owned by kinksters, for kinksters. (Although anyone can–and should–visit Wicked Grounds, they have scrumptious pastries and baked goods.) Adorned in a rotating display of kink-centric art, this sex toy boutique/cafe is the official meeting ground for all facets of the kink community.
Need I mention the internationally known Folsom Street Fair happening each fall?
To find events in San Francisco, check out the Bay Area community calendar,Citadel's events calendar, The Bay Area Leather Alliance's calendar, or The Wink's local listings.
Zoë Tersche is a New York-based writer focusing on fetish sexuality and the freedom of sexual expression. Follow her on Twitter @ZoeTersche and find out more about her here.

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The website for the Office in Portland is www.kinkspacepdx.com. We have a calendar posted and plenty of info about our space. Thanks for the mention!

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The website for the Office in Portland is www.kinkspacepdx.com. We have a calendar of events posted, and plenty of info about our space! Thanks for the mention!

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