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TheRealPeach
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I feel like there is something missing from play time with my other half. Yet not sure as what. We have great sex. The sex isn't the problem... I just feel hungry for more. But of what I don't know . I love being tied up. Strapped down to the bed. I bloody love being choked.  Hair pulling. We both mutually love me being spanked slapped hair pulled man handled and being bitten. I like it aggressive. Yet like I said I feel hungry for something I've not quite tasted if you know what I mean. I've been flicking through the forms and topics quite alot today and not really found anything that makes my inside scream out yes. Any suggestions. ?

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lugnut
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What a great place to be. Have an itch, scratch it. Just experiment. Something will eventually float your boat. Pinwheel, insertions, nettles, other playmates, watersports, role play, jelly fights, the list is endless. If it doesn't work try something else.

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BettyBlue
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You may want a more mental type of dynamic .Rough sex is great but it when a man or woman gets inside your mind that's when things get even better ....in my experience anyway.
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Wowzers don’t be in a rush to find out what it is your missing, instead just keep trying everyyyyything (at least twice) & have amazing fun until you find out what it is you need. It might be a combination of things/people but don’t let it stress you as you have a whole open road of kink ahead of you
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Enjoy your relationship, keep talking and dont jeopardise anything. It does sound like you my need a slightly deeper roleplay/psychological element but I'm sure you and your partner can explore it. Has he ever put a collar on you and really made you feel like his sub?
TheRealPeach
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I love collars. And I have done my fair share of things. With a certain ex of mine we did alot together. I dont think I want another psychological experiences. He later used it to get fully into my head and it was an emotional and abusive relationship.  I have done knife play. Like the excitement but kick started my old self harm again so no to that one. I was a dom aswell another one liked me wearing 6inch high heels standing on his back then stamping on his balls with my heels on. I have always been open minded to try almost everything more than once. I am not new to the world of kink. But feel like I've missed something that would be right up my street

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Posted

I can imagine there's some slippery slopes involved with self harm. 😔

Uhm. Clown porn? 😀

lugnut
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On 6/8/2018 at 5:11 PM, TheRealPeach said:

I love collars. And I have done my fair share of things. With a certain ex of mine we did alot together. I dont think I want another psychological experiences. He later used it to get fully into my head and it was an emotional and abusive relationship.  I have done knife play. Like the excitement but kick started my old self harm again so no to that one. I was a dom aswell another one liked me wearing 6inch high heels standing on his back then stamping on his balls with my heels on. I have always been open minded to try almost everything more than once. I am not new to the world of kink. But feel like I've missed something that would be right up my street

I agree that a tendency for self harm and knife play are probably not good together. Steering clear of knifes for that reason. I like the psychological mind fucks more than physical things but you REALLY need to trust the person you play with, especially if you have a tendency to be a bit fragile. We keep mind games to the bedroom for that reason. It is a shame to rule it out completely. I stopped having sex completely for a few years due to shame about my sexual preferences and it took a good therapist to sort my head out - work in progress. I love mind games but I have had the same partner for over 20 years and have built up an awful lot of trust. Is it possible you are looking in the wrong place completely? Is it something else you are missing in your life outside of play time - play time isn't everything - kids, career, social life etc? I feel it really hard to understand my own mind sometimes.  

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3SumQueen
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5 hours ago, KinkedAskew said:

I can imagine there's some slippery slopes involved with self harm. 😔

Uhm. Clown porn? 😀

A clown gangbang with jugglers is one of my fantaies.

3SumQueen
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Oh yes. I shall keep my other weird fantasies to myself. For now.

Deschaine
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Maybe you crave more passive affection. What really kicked up things for my wife and I is me being more passively affectionate. Even if i dont plan on sexual intercourse in the immediate/near future, i still send her signals of my interest. Keeping each variably different from the last to increase attention on me and her eventual sexual reward.

the look i get from her when i place a hard on her waist turning her as she walks by is incredible. And that comes from a sense of sexual charge at any given moment

PlentyOfGirth
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Hi.

Now, this may seem an insanely strange question, but do you make love, or do you always just fuck?

My wife and I have an intensely diverse, kinky, and fetish filled relationship, but when that all starts to become a bit "vanilla", we just enjoy each other, and remind ourselves of how we REALLY feel about each other.

A good love making session can always fill in the blanks for us.

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TheRealPeach
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I have A child and I am one the road to my dream job. (Emblamer) and as for the other comment as do we make love and not always about the kinks yes we do. About 30% of the time it's love making. Sorry it took so long to reply

 

Tomcat420ca
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It sounds to me like your BDSM play is aimed at hardcore/rough. Might I suggest Sensual domination? It is my preferred method, I restrain my partner and indulge in their senses, feathers, ice, using a flogger to run over the body,  ect vibrating toys, touch.. I love wet messes.. lol. 

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Tease84
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Hi Peach, I think you have to be honest with yourself and others.

If this guy isn't rocking your world then why be with him ?

Finding guys (or gals) who "makes your inside scream out Yes !!!!" are going to be rare.

Have you found those guys in the past or this a dream, myth or illusion ?

 

 


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