Facesitting, or queening, is a kink that’s been in the news recently with numerous tabloids taking a startlingly positive attitude to it. While this is all good news, we focus on the power of facesitting, either as an intense part of dominance and total submission, or just as a bit of fluffy naughty fun.


In 2014, when the UK government added facesitting to a list of sexual acts too appalling to appear in porn produced in the UK, facesitting was chosen by protesters to symbolise their defiance of restrictions on consensual kink material.

 

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At the time, many of the practices threatened with banning were those which emphasise female pleasure, and facesitting is definitely an activity associated with female domination. The authorities implied that it was a safety concern, but femdom - and anything which involves women’s sexual autonomy - has always had more power to outrage and scare ‘traditionalists’.

 

Facesitting pleasure

Facesitting is a game that gives a lot of pleasure to both participants. For a pussy-worshipper, having your beloved’s juicy wet quim rubbed all over your face so you are embraced by the warmth and the wetness, the scent and the taste of her, can be absolute ecstasy. Feeling you exist only to give her pleasure, feeling owned and subjugated, also turns up the heat for many submissives.

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Facesitting. Image: nloik  Flickr Creative Commons

For the one on top, there are also hot connotations in having your sub literally beneath you, unable to get away unless and until you decide the job’s done. You can get into all those power fantasies about your cunt being the life force of the universe, and being adored as the goddess you are – if that’s the kind of thing that floats your boat. Or you can just relax and enjoy a really good licking with no obligation to do anything other than take your pleasure from that ministering tongue.
 

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Let us know if you like facesitting and how hard you like it, whether or not you prefer a queening chair or just getting naked and going for it!


Facesitting safely

To be fair, facesitting is one of the riskier things you can do in a BDSM scenario. It has elements of breath control and suffocation; therefore the one being sat upon needs to be able to signal discomfort in some way – tapping out is a sensible method, or perhaps pinching the sitter’s bum or thighs. There needs to be a strong element of trust, and plenty of pre-negotiation. However, that’s true of pretty much any play which involves restraint, or impact. It’s also best avoided if the one being sat on has a cold or any other breathing issues.
 

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If you’re the one who’s going on top, take your time getting into position. It might be a hot fantasy to throw your victim down and then crash-land on that excited face, but it’s not advisable, particularly for beginners. If you’re both excited by the idea of the sat-on - one being restrained by more than just the power of your pussy - and you want to tie hands or feet, then you will need to agree another signal that can be used if a break is needed. You could leave one foot free:  three kicks against the bed/couch/floor as the equivalent of ‘Red/Amber’. Another method people opt for when the sub is gagged and immobile is to have them hold something like a bunch of keys and drop whatever it is if they need to stop.
 

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The benefits of a Queening chair

Using a queening chair can reduce the risk further, and it can also be more comfortable for the one doing the facesitting. A queening chair, also known as a queening stool or sometimes a smother box, is a specially made piece of furniture that makes facesitting easier. They come in a variety of designs: you can get a queening chair that looks like something out of anyone’s most wonderful dark, gothic, dungeon fantasies, or you can have a bright plastic job which can be easily passed off to nosy visitors as a makeup stool.

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Queening stool. Image: Mistress Anahita. Flickr Creative Commons 

In the process of researching this article, I had a chat with Squirt By Design, who make quite a range of queening chairs, and discovered that some come with wedge shapes or suspended headrests that you can adjust so that both sub and domme are in the best and most comfortable position. I also found – for those of you who are on a bit of a budget but well-equipped with practical skills – that you can go to Etsy and buy downloadable plans for building a queening chair of your own.


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All in all, you can play this kink either as intense dominance and total submission, or just as a bit of fluffy naughty fun, depending on the dynamic you and your partner prefer.


Written by Madamez, veteran pervert, writer of erotica, top/dominant, fond of rope, impact play and experimentation. 

 


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mrsj43

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Hey who’s willing to serve and worship me 

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we****

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Hoping to find a Goddess who loves Queening! She directs my tongue with her whip to my spread legs and male parts. What's not to love...for her!

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Marinaman

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Love to be face sat by a large woman with wearing rubber crotchless panties. Ant volunt

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I want my face sat on

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RP****

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Yes please

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ov****

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Pls sit on my face 🥴🤤

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th****

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Omgdsob! It should be called queening! Fabulous!!!
“You broke my nose with your pussy” 🙌

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sp****

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Wouldn't mind having woman sit on my face

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Sk****

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Being taken to the edges and beyond are what life is all about. Progress is a beautiful thing to be part of. any volunteers? ☮️

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Th****

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Last time I almost suffocated. It was fun and wanna do it again lol

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Basically it’s a femdom version of 69 💨

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Have a seat! ;)

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aa****

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Pure bliss

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TWO-SHADOWS

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This might give 69 a new twist

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Ah****

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Breakfast in bed 😍

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Wi****

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Facesitting...lol I love eating a girl out while she's riding my face

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Gi****

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Ladies. Sit on my face. You are all Queens never forget. X

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Mr****

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I have always enjoyed this

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3X****

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Maybe I'm a bit older than most here, but I've done this many times over the decades and never considered it "kink" material ,but just something my lover wanted to do and naturally I wanted to please them or explore with them.

Admittedly, in my younger days, I was very body conscious (thought I was heavy), low self-esteem, and I was not comfortable with the idea at first. Much like the idea of having sex with lights on. My thought was, "omg, they're going to look up and see nothing but my belly beyond the task at hand." Now that I'm older, those thoughts have passed, I've grown and become more secure in my own skin. If encouraged by the right lover, it's actually a very body positive, self-esteem/confidence builder position for those who need it.

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an****

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Yes 👏👏

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Wi****

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This is great. Love getting my face sat on. But, I can't even get a woman to acknowledge that I even exist.

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Do****

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Love my sub to sit on my face after an excessive amounts of orgasms. Just hold her in place and force more out of her.

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Ap****

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Need a lady who will sit on my face PLEASE. Melb Aus

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TK****

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1 hour ago, msprettybrown69 said:
I would love to sit on someone's face 😈

I'd have you sit on my face for a song as you could handle it 😍

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so****

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I can't believe the UK actually bans this as "too obscene for porn" 😂 they must be so innocent, because this is far from obscene. I'm thankful to live in the US where porn falls under freedom of speech. People take our freedoms here for granted but this is an excellent example of how good we have it here. 🇺🇸

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co****

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I love facesitting, but have never found a woman who wants to sit on my face, PM me (London)

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ms****

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I would love to sit on someone's face 😈
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Justforfun-1069

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My partner won't do this for me. So I'm looking for a woman to do this. If interested pm me

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gotta love facesitting

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SI****

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I don’t wanna eat shrimp salmon tuna taco

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Dusky

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A favorite position with my four poster bed, a stack of good pillows, a skilled, penetrative tongue and I’m literally climbing the walls!
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Sh****

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I have done this with a former partner, ironically, neither of us thought it was anything kinky at the time 

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ca****

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Sign me up

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Juggarnaut11

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Did it with my ex and it was amazing!

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lg****

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I have wanted to try this for a long time. My last girlfriend did it for one moment and it was so hot but our relationship didn’t last long. My GF prior to that and I experimented with various kinks somewhat often but she was too nervous about trying this because she thought she would suffocate me. I tried to reassure her that we could do it safely but she didn’t want to try and I respected her boundary on it.

I would love to try this with a future partner.

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de****

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I love it

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gi****

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Facesitting handjobs with yoga pants are so hot

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Ry****

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Looking for a girl to facesit me whenever she feels like it and for however long she wants hmu x

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YesMaamPhilly

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My absolute favorite thing

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John1983

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Anding

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John1983

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Andrea

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PussyPleaser690

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Hands down my favourite thing. Nothing quite like a woman just sitting on your face.

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Mr****

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Wake me up with it don't care everyday if you like

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GodofPunishment

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I love having my face sat on.

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RP****

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My fantasy

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TechNick

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My beard is always ready for a soaking! Love it!!!

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Sn****

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I loooove facesitting, shut up & take me to heaven 🤤🤤
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So****

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Bmoore Over East " Sit on my face please

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Ca****

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I love it totally

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Pi****

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I love when a woman does this and watches, and pulls my hair, and says don't stop, don't you stop, that a boy! You lick that pussy til I tell you to stop slave!
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ma****

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I love been face sat
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TWO-SHADOWS

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You don't have to be a submissive to enjoy face sitting.
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Love warm wet pussy on my face 😋

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Zakfriendly

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My favourite kink. I love being helpless with a nice pair of thighs wrapped around my head and being forced to lick out my Dom
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My face is a facesitting face😍😍😍🔥🍑🍑

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Do****

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Probably my favorite kink tbh...

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Se****

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What an interesting article! Every days a school day!

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6P****

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Okay but can we talk about how the UK government hates the idea of women having orgasms so much they straight up banned face sitting in porn??? Like wtf there is shit WAY more wild than this
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Comme je suis quelqu'un de compersif, c'est une pratique très satisfaisante pour profiter du plaisir de sa partenaire, et par la même occasion avoir la meilleure vue !

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mu****

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Hell I’ve been ding this for years and now I know why all the ladies I taught how to do it were looking at me with shock; because it really has its own meaning of how comfortable a DOM can be to instruct someone to be rewarded for their good listening.

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Largos

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Oh my favourite thing to be, is a seat so ladies can come and grind on my face praying that they're gonna leave me messy and soaking wet

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TKG

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As someone with a labia fetish, this is an extremely erotic kink for both me and the ones who have done the "sitting" 🤭

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Zel

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Looking to be smothered between to cheeks cum up my nose plz 

 

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Lizzy196

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I would love to have a Dominant Woman sitting on my face, I would be praying she had to go Pee. 

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This is one kinky that I would like to try 

 

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Facesitting(queening) is ecstasy without a substance. It really is a feeling of being completely owned by your play partner, but also something about the scent. The scent creates an intoxicating feeling that makes you feel high, and if the woman is dominant the feeling of being subjected and victimized is a huge turn on. I like being out of air and having her decide if I need more due to my adrenaline tolerance. Being an adrenaline addict I also like begging for air while underneath her as well. Restraints are risky but increase the pleasure and adrenaline. They have to be used on a woman you truly cherish and have an erotic connection with already. It feels good to give your heart and pleasure to a woman who you care about once in a while or alot lol!!....just dont forget to get some air!!! Lmao!! Or your ass will be on a stretcher lol!!! Play safe have fun ;)...lol

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Facesitting(queening) is ecstasy without a substance. It really is a feeling of being completely owned by your play partner, but also something about the scent. The scent creates an intoxicating feeling that makes you feel high, and if the woman is dominant the feeling of being subjected and victimized is a huge turn on. I like being out of air and having her decide if I need more due to my adrenaline tolerance. Being an adrenaline addict I also like begging for air while underneath her as well. Restraints are risky but increase the pleasure and adrenaline. They have to be used on a woman you truly cherish and have an erotic connection with already. It feels good to give your heart and pleasure to a woman who you care about once in a while or alot lol!!....just dont forget to get some air!!! Lmao!! Or your ass will be on a stretcher lol!!! Play safe have fun ;)...lol

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Vetboss

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Yea Face sitting is the dream for all men in any age.

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My fav 😍😍

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SirPiggy

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Of course facesitting is wonderful, an honour as well when a Lady face sits on the face. Especially when wearing musty panties/knickers. What's not to love about it....
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Khenyan

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It's great

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Stevel250

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Into it big time

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JavierNYC

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Love it! Sit on my face until you shake & cream in my mouth.
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One of greatest loves is having a woman wrap her thighs around my ears and sitting on my face

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3 minutes ago, Bondagecolin said:

one of my biggest turn ons would do it all day  alternate between arse and pussy  mmmmmmmm!!!

 

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one of my biggest turn ons would do it all day  alternate between arse and pussy  mmmmmmmm!!!

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Blupet

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Face-sitting is one of the biggest turn ons
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We L❤️VE it! 😄

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Absolutely love being facesat rimming a gorgeous ass and pussy heaven

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Skorpion313

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Amazing. One of my biggest turn ons. All day.

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I absolutely adore having a lady sit herself upon my face & smother it, completely love it & can never have enough of it. Truly one of the most enjoyable & pleasurable things in life.
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Welikeittight2906

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Who doesnt love facesitting!! 😋😈👌🍑

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😈👸🏾👅💦

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