Domination

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Domination for kinksters who love control

Control is sexy, and if you're into domination it can be the sexiest kink of all. For some kinksters, D/s is a lifestyle--but for many people it's simply something fun to play around with in the bedroom, and we're fully supportive of both of those fetish preferences. If dominance is your thing and you consider yourself a dom or a domme, it's vital that you develop an understanding of safewords, negotiations and enthusiastic consent. Once you and your partners are both on the same page, though, the sky's the limit. Fetish.com's magazine prides itself on its wide range of articles on the subject, so if you're looking for some inspiration you might want to head over there and do some reading up.

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What are the limits in domination?

In the alphabet soup of BDSM, the ‘D’ stands for Dominance. This is the partner(s) that is on top - meaning physically or psychologically in charge of the submissive or bottom. In a scene, all actions are agreed upon beforehand in an SSC way. An additional safety philosophy is RACK or Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

Since physical and psychological limits are pushed in D/s relationships it’s extremely important to develop safewords in order to stop a scene or scenario when it becomes too intense for either partner. No BDSM play should be conducted without predetermined safety precautions. One option many D/s partners choose is to make a contract. This is helpful to clarify the limits of everyone involved. Keep in mind not all D/s relationships are of a sexual nature either. Many people simply desire dominance or having control over another person and vice versa. Some relationships develop into 24/7 - which means the dominant partner is control of the submissive 100% of the time.

This often, but not always, evolves into a ‘no limits’ relationship, with a high level of trust from all parties involved. Meaning, the top or dominant has a high form of trust called non-consensual consent and can do and ask of the submissive anything they want.

Limits can be defined in terms of hard, soft, requirement (must) and time and should always be clarified before play. A hard limit is an absolute no-go for either partner. A soft limit is something one person prefers not to have happen, but in the appropriate context, it can be used as a punishment, for example. A must limit is when an action requires another action. For example ‘If you flog me and pull my hair, I will want cuddles and chocolate as part of my aftercare.’ And lastly time limits. These determine how long an action should go on.

Always follow the SSC principles: safe, sane and consensual

There are a lot of misconceptions about BDSM, a big one being that there’s a mistress, whip in hand, in a dungeon with her slave beating the sh*t out of him. Another on is the sadistic dominant partner sets all the rules and is in control of everything. This is not true. That’s just an abusive a*hole. A true dominant partner understands their submissive partners desires through communication before any play takes place. Dominants should have a thorough understanding of consent and responsibilities they will be taking on with each partner. And of course, an in depth knowledge of the human anatomy and psychology.

All this preparation is necessary to build trust with your partners. BDSM is not ‘first date material’. It requires safety discussions and learning about any psychological triggers your partner may have. The top safety terms in the BDSM community are SSC and RACK. SSC stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual - meaning you know what you’re doing before, you are sober and everything has been agreed upon. RACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink meaning you are aware of the risks you take when involving yourself in BDSM scenarios and have prepared for them and determined limits beforehand.

Developing trust through communication is key. Talking about desires and preferences is fun and sexy, and can be a form of foreplay. Safewords or a system for alerting your partner to your comfort level are a necessity. There are many ways to develop your own system, it can be a word or phrase or a color system. Remember a lot of BDSM involves incapacitation where the sub may not have the use of their mouth and therefore a nonverbal safeword will be needed.

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Domination for advanced players

For those with a lot of experience and a highly developed trust dynamic in their D/s relationship(s) there is another level of consent. Often called ‘consensual non-consent’ or ‘blanket consent’ this is the ultimate form of dominance (or submission depending on who you are). This can take place for a predetermined about of time, like a few hours to a weekend. Or it can extend into a full 24/7 D/s or Master/slave scenario. What is extremely important to remember in these types of relationships you can still stop the scene anytime you feel it necessary. There is always the option to opt out when it gets too much.

The beauty of D/s relationships is they can be as subtle as wearing a collar or showing extra attention to your partner in public to full fetish wear and public spankings at a fetish event. The rules are for you to decide!

Domination is far more than 50 Shades of Gray...

First things first: ’50 Shades of Grey’ is a complete and utter misrepresentation of the kink and BDSM community. It masks an abusive and dangerous relationship behind a kinky curtain, which is why so many kinksters remain in the closet. Our magazine has a series of critiques on the films and books. Fetish.com is dedicated to exploring kink and BDSM in a safe way. Education is key to that, please dive into our site, read, discuss, learn all you can about proper BDSM ethics and healthy relationships.

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