I'm really getting tired

[Deleted Member]

I am really getting tired of this why is it now these days the every time you think you'll find someone they find out there they want something to do with *** or a card or something like that I mean what happened to the good old days where used just had BDSM and all the things that went with it not anything about *** or the likes or anything to do with cards or anything like that I mean I just don't understand it anymore I mean I got into this lifestyle because of the love of BDSM but yet it seems to me that no one that I speak to you even knows what that true meaning is anymore and I don't understand and I just don't know what to do anymore I don't know what I just said give up and maybe try something else I just don't know what to do anymore so like I said I'm feeling very tired this whole situation

[ey****]

I think there's a lot changed with times as online has become more prevalent - but - there are plenty of people of whom any form of financial doesn't come into the equation; I find my approaches is to mix online interactions with "real life"

but, if you did find a Mistress - would you not wish to treat them or spoil them?

is it all just the same really, but presented differently?

Equally - some would argue a slave shouldn't concern themselves about stuff like ***, they're a slave why would they require any?   Also, arguably - a lot of guys say they're into TPE - but as soon anything like cash or gifts comes up it's "I'd do anything... except that..."

I do appreciate the frustrations - but - if you're talking to someone and red lines come up, it's better to find them immediately then 6-18 months down the line.

[BigPolly]

I totally agree with @eyemblacksheep. Also for a lot of people the finance side of things is also a very big kink. People like to pay or shower with gifts, equally some think their Dominance deserves material gain & this can excite many. However those on here who are asking for payments should be registered as so & it will show on their profile, if it doesn’t then simply report them & make sure your profile states that you are not willing to pay for enjoyment but you can’t say that payment isn’t part of BDSM because for a lot of people it is you just need to learn to weedle out the serious financial Dommes from the little girls who are trying to make quick cash. It may be frustrating but everyone has different kinks & just because something doesn’t float your boat it doesn’t mean it’s not BDSM

[Heidi-7106]

Its annoying yes. I think a lot of the profiles n messages are fake just to get you hooked signed up n paying ***

[Nucer12]

Lots of profiles are fakes, pm me genuine sub females

[Deleted Member]

Just think of it as a treasure hunt and the fake ones are just junk to be ignored. 

Trust me the treasure is worth it. 

[Deleted Member]

Any profile with a currency sign on is a financial user so dont engage with them. If they don’t and ask *** during the communication then report them and ignore them. 

The bdsm world has been ridden by lots of opportunist who would easily hunt the desperate. It’s the demand and providers rules I am afraid. 

There are more subs/slave than Domme so just be patient 

[KCurious]

18 hours ago, Slavetoallwomen36 said:

I am really getting tired of this why is it now these days the every time you think you'll find someone they find out there they want something to do with *** or a card or something like that I mean what happened to the good old days where used just had BDSM and all the things that went with it not anything about *** or the likes or anything to do with cards or anything like that I mean I just don't understand it anymore I mean I got into this lifestyle because of the love of BDSM but yet it seems to me that no one that I speak to you even knows what that true meaning is anymore and I don't understand and I just don't know what to do anymore I don't know what I just said give up and maybe try something else I just don't know what to do anymore so like I said I'm feeling very tired this whole situation

Hi Slavetoallwoman36, keep believing the concept of your BDSM still exist and wait for the right one to come along. It’s hard but take it as a challenge after all life is short and yolo... 

Keep exploring ! or take a break away from here and come back when your ready again. Do what’s best for you. Life can be tired in general but we gotta keep continue in believing something than nothing. 

 

All the best ! ☘️

[ey****]

I think remember - just because someone has interests incompatible with yours - it doesn't mean they're fake, just incompatible.

 

[Deleted Member]

Scammers are prevalent on all the online dating sites, even vanilla ones. The primary goal of a scammer is to get *** and they will lie, deceive and say anything to get it. We must be cautious and try to evade the scammer. I am no expert and I have lost quite a bit of *** risking on the text message of a would-be slave/woman. Primary solution is never pay until you meet them in person.

[Deleted Member]

I'm so sorry to hear this, it's horrible.  I guess my Master is special.  He always says I am so lucky to have found you both as a sub and my wife.  I came from Roman Catholicism, hard core but at the same time I was told NEVER EVER rely on a man for ***.  Well that kinda got thrown away lol I rely on my husband lol.

Towards the open side, I do not rely on them and I make that clear from the get go.  My Sir that I currently have knows that I will not ask him for *** unless in dire circumstances and yeah not dire yet lol no threat of being homeless or electricity cut off, my Master hasn't died and I hope he doesn't for at least another 50 years! So nope don't need *** from him.

I certainly wish there were more women like that.  Nowadays I think part of it is society, everything is so expensive so they become predators to *** men. It could be also how they were raised, poverty. It's just sad that scammers are out there.....no matter the case....and LIKE to do stuff like this.

[ey****]

I think while this could head off-topic there are important things to clarify

- just because someone is requesting payment does not make them a scammer. 

- the illusion of evil women exploiting *** men is a straw argument to demonise sex work

- just because someone is requesting payment doesn't mean they don't LIKE it.  

I think in recent times there has seemingly been a rise in people after a quick £/$ not helped by various TV and newspaper articles about someone who makes loads of *** selling socks or something (there was a VERY dishonest story in one of the papers, it neglected to mention the lady was a retired porn star....) and what tends to happen is those who are after quick income find that there's no easy *** and it is a job which needs work put in to get income out

Edited April 11, 2019 by eyemblacksheep