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Ok so here goes…, I am 46 and searching for my soulmate.

I like to wear the trousers and control things generally, I like the kind of D/s slave setup but I do not want to be a mistress that just plays with you and fulfills all your desires, i have desires too,

I want to be surprised sometimes and treated like a goddess a princess. Loyalty and honesty are extremely important to me.

I want a man who knows he’s a man, a man who loves and appreciates women and intimacy and love and kink, a man who appreciates women in lace and in fetish clothing or even in comfy clothes, I am NOT into sissies or Crossdressers and I’m not interested in tying men up and doing them with strap ons, or keeping them in chastity. I want a man who tries to please me and gets joy from doing so.

So what am I interested in? A 24/7 TPE relationship where I actually come first, not a situation where it is a guise to only get your secret kinks.

I am a natural leader and control freak, I love men looking like men and acting like men but under my authority, I am kinky but I also want love, deep conversation and to build something so special. I like to take care of and to be taken care of, I suppose my ideal relationship would be what would look like a normal relationship from the outside but i have D/s control, I love the idea of moulding a man to be everything I desire, choosing his clothes, hairstyle and free time.
I love the idea of creating asthetics and atmosphere to explore dynamics on all levels. I want to be able to experiment with my submissive switch side but whilst knowing I can return to my natural tendency of dominance.

I am looking for someone who is more dominant in life but can be submissive to me in a non pathetic way, honest, loyal, fun and intelligent, emotional, empathic and sentimental, has a sense of humour, someone who is patient and kind and calm but can be a little cheeky or play a little bit hard to get or even be a bit dominant sometimes and not just be weak.Yes I guess I’m looking for a submissive Dominant, where the submission and dominance have to be in the right places. I love to chase, i love tease and build up especially mentally.

I have had experiences with men who are liars or destructive and I do not want that in my life, I need someone who values trust and honesty, who can be strong and there for me when I need it. I can be a bit dramatic and need patience, if I get it then I have a lot to offer. Deep conversation is very important to me I am pretty dark minded but I am also very caring and loving and playful and creative. I love being a woman but I am also quite boyish in my interests.

I love gaming, god of war, resident evil, Elden ring, assassins creed, magic the gathering, playing pool, a few beers, occasionally cocktails. I love poker and metal detecting, binge watching tv series and reality tv, I Love eating out and shopping, wandering around markets, escape rooms, BBQ’s jacuzzis, creating themed parties, I love thinking outside of the box, coming up with grand ideas. I love celebrations, like birthdays or summer parties. I love a good massage and I love entrepreneurship. People who are loyal to me I will treat them well and go above and beyond for.

I currently live with 2 D/s slaves/friends. They are platonic relationships. So whoever my soulmate is must be ok with that poly setup and a rather unusual household.

I also have adult sons who I run a property development company with, my goal is to make millions and to be able to create a cool life filled with fun, I want to buy land, a big house, would love to run fetish clubs,and find someone to grow old with when our bodies are too old. Ideally I’m looking for someone involved in the building trade who could come onboard our company.

I am not religious, I edge more towards pagan beliefs, I am very interested in quantum physics and the idea consciousness creates your reality and and I am a bit of a conspiracy theorist.

I love all different types of music, imagine dragons, the weeknd, 80’s, billie eilish, avici, mood and atmospheric

Tv I like Vikings, Dexter, breaking bad, dragons den, apprentice masterchef, survivor, crime, downtown abbey, Spartacus, Clarksons farm, basically decent reality tv and series are my thing, a good movie if it’s well produced.

My negative qualities, I smoke, talk a lot, I’m very possessive. I can sometimes be a bit narcissistic, If you embark on a relationship with me you enter my world and sign up for supporting my life and goals.

My kink interests are :

Roleplay, (I have a big thing for roleplay) Slavery, TPE, collars, D/s control, choosing clothing, monitoring activity, eye restrictions, financial control, being served,, medical, asylum, age play, pet play, kidnap, era play like Victorian schools or slavery or Roman slavery
Flogging, queening, foot worship, tease, cages, latex, straitjackets, there is a lot more I’d do and some more private things but those are my main interests.

If you like my profile, drop me a message and tell me a bit about yourself.

Age
Location
Current living and work situation, skills, any commitments etc.
And more about you in general.

Short messages like hi will be ignored, as will crude or rude messages….yes I know I want a lot, as least I’m honest, if you don’t like my profile you can ignore it.