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I've always dreamed about having "the 1950s dynamic". I've wanted to come out of the office to the smell of dinner cooking, my dog Tony snoozing nearby, and the sense of calm that comes from knowing that everyone and everything is taken care of.

There are some hiccups, though: due to some issues that have recently been resolved, I don't currently drive, though I'm working on getting my license by the end of the year; I don't (and won't) ever want kids - and I'm actually getting a vasectomy in December; and finally, because of some family issues, I'm no longer religious.

If none of these are dealbreakers for you, please read on.

What am I looking for, exactly? My housewife with a modern twist. I don’t want a partner who’s stuck at home, slave to the 9-to-5 grind or chained to a job she hates; I want to make enough that she doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t want to. I want her to be able to choose how to spend her time, whether that’s pursuing a career she’s passionate about, focusing on creative projects, or managing our home together. Ideally, she should be someone who’s fit or at least no stranger to the gym - I go 2-3 times a week and have recently built a little home workout plan for myself during the day at work. I’d love to find someone who shares my passion for cooking - I’ve tried to cook a meal at home every day this week, and my most recent meal was a big bowl of homemade goulash. I’m also a huge nerd: huge enough that I started my own game design company in 2023, and I’m hoping to take it full-time soon. I’d be thrilled if you shared a love for tabletop or story-driven games.

But more than shared hobbies, what truly defines the kind of relationship I want is the dynamic behind it: the way we relate, I lead, and you follow. I’m a Dominant by nature, not just in the bedroom but in the way I live. I find fulfillment in leading, protecting, providing structure, and creating a space where my partner feels safe to let go: to relax, trust, and be her most authentic, feminine, and devoted self. I’m drawn to service-oriented, obedient, or otherwise submissive women who crave direction and consistency. I want to find a woman who feels peace in having clear roles and being cared for with purpose and authority.

My kinks lean toward the domestic and devotional: obedience, service, rituals, praise, structure, and old-fashioned discipline always grounded in love, consent, and emotional safety. I want the kind of D/s dynamic that extends beyond the bedroom, where power exchange is woven into daily life: soft, steady, affectionate, and deeply respectful.

So what do I bring to the table?

Security. I own my own house that I’m working on fixing up, all my bills are paid on time and in full, and I've been working toward being able to retire at 40, 45 at the latest.

Safety. I've always tried my best to listen to my partners and create an environment where we can disagree without those disagreements turning into angry shouting matches. I want to be the person she can rely on, who helps her grow into the best version of herself, and who she can come home to (physically and emotionally) when the world gets too loud.

I don’t want to rush into anything: instead, I want us to build this relationship step by step. Ideally, we’d start with a conversation over *** chat for the first few days, then angle for a voice or video call within those first two weeks. From there, if we feel like there's a connection, I'd want to go on a first date that feels easy and genuine like a virtual movie date or, if you're local, a trip to my favorite bookstore followed by ice cream. One date should turn into two, four, more… I want slow, steady growth as we find our rhythm. I’d want to reach a place where we’re spending more time together, feeling like home to one another, before taking bigger steps like moving in or exploring what a D/s dynamic between us might look like.

At the end of the day, I’m not looking for something casual or uncertain. I want a woman who values structure, who finds security and peace in clear roles and strong leadership. I believe in setting the tone for my home: protecting, providing, and leading with both strength and consistency. In return, I want someone who takes pride in her role, who wants to trust, follow, and build something lasting by my side. If the idea of a traditional, power-exchange dynamic built on loyalty, trust, and purpose speaks to you, then you already understand the kind of bond I’m offering.

Since I've been getting a lot of time wasters and spam replies in my inbox, let me know your favorite comfort meal or ideal first date in your first message.