i'm a very versatile dom. i enjoy both bdsm and being a pleasure dom, so if you like both, i can deliver!😈

ultimately i would like to meet someone who would be interested in being collared. i once owned someone, but that relationship fell apart. they were my first and only, so i learned everything i know from them (and my own research). if you're looking for a pro, then i'm probably not a good fit. you could consider me a confident learner, tho, so someone who has dibbled and dabbled or doesn't have years of experience might find me approachable. or someone experienced willing to teach me more would also be nice.🙂

i am not looking for a 24/7 situation, as that would be impossible for me (i have a spouse and kids at home). i am polyamorous/non-monogamous, and intend to stay that way. but i do want someone who wants to be owned, to be taken care of, to be punished when they're being bad, hehe (brats to the front plz!). i'm also cool with age and pet play. and while i do have multiple relationships, i want to only own one special person as my sub. i am a nurturer by nature, so i am full of TLC for my sub, especially after-care.🖤

i want to be able to put someone in subspace fairly regularly. so you'd need to live close to me (an hour or so is about the max distance) and be able to do the majority of the hosting (because fam, duh). and be willing to schedule some sessions several times a month. also cool with doing some distant sessions and eventually add remote toys to our video chats. (would also like toys to use on in person dates that i can control).😁

D/s is a very deep and rich relationship for me, and i miss it so much!! 😭 i would like someone who wants to reach those same depths. trust, communication, and clear boundaries are absolutely necessary for both of us.👍

also note that i am 100% a switch (lol my kink test is so accurate), and i'm cool with switchy ppl as well, but prefer to have two separate dynamic relationships to satisfy my switchiness. (you'll probably run across a sub ad from me too, so that's why.)😅

BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 40 years ● 240km around USA Smyrna

I’ve been scouring this site to see people’s views and perceptions of punishments and rewards. And of course, it’s a very subjective matter as there’s limits, preferences, and people’s opinions as well.
So let’s talk about what I consider punishments to be first:
Since I tend to like more extreme things, and have a higher tolerance, I’m going to need something that is more severe- especially since I have bratty tendencies, I’m looking to be corrected. And a punishment can be a NUMBER of things. Ex: infliction, control/restriction of outter communication (eg. family, friends); deprivation, being tied up in a stress position (minutes, hours, days), , water boarding. Quite frankly I could go on. I want that psyche involvement. Make me so scared of you that I don’t want to act out because I know the punishment will be severe. I feel like with a M/s dynamic or most BDSM dynamics, the person who is not in a position of power should feel a sense of *** toward to person in power as a result of respect being integrated into the person who is not in power within the dynamic.

Now for rewards! Yay!:
Rewards are generally subjective to the sub/slave/pet/etc. personally, I love being rewarded with praise, cuddles and direct attention, taking care of any bruises or cuts you inflicted on me, princess treatment, less time in a stress position, allowing me to see my friends or go do something special, etc.
rewards shouldn’t be over given - as this sets the scene for greed and a sense of being spoiled, then the brattiness will never be corrected. But rewards are necessary because I need to know when I’m doing good, and you approve of those certain actions or you’re pleased with how I am.

But i definitely want to hear other peoples opinions, and what type of rewards/punishments you give or receive.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around Canada Calgary