I was chatting with someone who introduced herself as ” Mistress_EV-8003”. She asked if I was looking for complete domination or just sessions. I asked her what the difference was. I explained that I’m genuinely interested in learning and being guided, though I have some real life circumstances that make things a bit complicated.

Instead of explaining the dynamics or getting to know me better, she quickly pushed to move the conversation to the Signal app, saying it was more private and better suited for a deeper, more enlightening exchange. I agreed and gave her my Signal username, but she claimed she couldn’t find me and asked for my phone number instead.

At this point, I was already feeling a bit unsure,she didn’t verify she didn’t assured me once and she demanded a picture full body and face of myself without verifying her own identity in any shape or form. No voice, no video, not even a casual selfie, nothing. Just demands. That made me really uncomfortable. I told her I didn’t feel safe giving out my phone number or a personal photo without building some trust first.

Her response? She immediately turned it into a test of submission. She told me that hesitation was a sign I wasn’t ready to serve. According to her, obedience comes before trust, not the other way around. She insisted she didn’t owe me any proof because she was the proof. The more I expressed concern, the more
ful and demanding she became, even saying things like, I don’t chase. I choose.

I tried to explain that for me, obedience is something that comes from trust, not something I can just give blindly. But she wasn’t hearing any of it. Eventually, after I stood my ground and refused to send my number or picture, she blocked me.

But that wasn’t the end of it. Not long after, I got a message from someone else under the name Beast, but it turned out to be her again. Same tone, same push for total obedience, same pressure to trust her control without question.

It all felt manipulative and honestly, it reminded me why being cautious in online dynamics, especially power based ones, is so important. Trust has to be mutual, not something one person demands and the other just hands over blindly.

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