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ABOUT ME: I am an internationally renowned BDSM educator and dominatrix. I'm a 10+ year member of the BDSM community, mentor to many of the world’s top dominatrices, producer of kink events, BDSM consultant to TV & film, and writer.
Teaching BDSM is my passion. I teach more than safe & skillful BDSM. I teach my own program of domination skills, DommeCraft, that draws on my experience as both a dominatrix and psychotherapist.
I travel to teach conference and in-store classes around the world, as well as group weekend immersion courses and private in person lessons. Between teaching tours, I offer personalized phone classes.
Welcoming new people to BDSM, coaching couples to realize their fantasies, assisting professional dominatrices in taking their career to the next level, and helping individuals gain the confidence to manifest amazing BDSM experiences, is what I love about educating.
When it comes to play partners, I seek fellow deviants who are respectful, self-aware, and eager to expand their sense of self through submission. With 10+ years of professional experience in the field, I’ll gladly act as your kinky sherpa, leading you into the dizzying depths of Female Domination.
BODY: Whether you seek a sensual Fetish Session or an intense Domination experience, you will find Me extremely versatile and open-minded.
Professionally: As a professional Dominatrix I find discretion imperative for both Myself and My clients. My reputation as a Lifestyle Fem-Domme and professional Dominatrix are important, if you do a little research you will find I am reputable yet reserved.
My hobby of the Human Psychosis helps Me wrap Myself into your mind, taking over your fantasies and making them My own. I will push your limits, but never cross your boundaries and I will use your body in a way that will make you continue to yearn for Me. My rapport with My clients is VERY important.
PLAYTIMES
While I have a couple of core interests and specialties, my interests in BDSM are vast and multifaceted. Kinkiness is infectious, and I’ve developed many new fetishes along the way. I challenge myself to learn more each day and consider it a personal goal to excel and dominate (lol, pun) each new kinky skillset I take on. I enjoy exploring the new and unknown, as well as corrupting open minds with fetishes unbeknownst to themselves. Above all, I consider myself an Architect of Perversion, pushing your limits as an expression of your submission to me. Curious about my playtime predilections?
CONTACT ME
First impressions matter, so make it count. I am a business first, so please treat this application form with business-like courtesy. This is not a dating service. All basic questions will be answered in my Website and FAQ pages. You may demonstrate value by reading through those pages first in order to save time for both yourself and myself in the process. Be prepared to send a deposit and verify your vaccination status to finalize our booking.
IMPORTANT: Are you asking to verify if we have been via another site or app? The answer is always NO, YOU ARE TALKING TO A SCAMMER. My contact info on here is the only mode of scheduling sessions, and my tributed text and phone lines/e-mail are the only mode of chatting with me. I do not use Kik, Hangouts, or dating apps to poach slaves.
INTERESTS
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Medical play : My personal kink. Arguably the fetish that brought Me to BDSM! There are few things I love more than invasive medical procedures with shiny chrome instruments, tubes, a gyno table, and cold sterility. Needle play, cutting, sounding, enemas/suppositories, catheters, full body medical exams, electrical play, castration fantasies, dental gags, speculums, medical staples, saline inflation, orthopedic bondage, and of course, role play…these are just a few of the things within medical play that make Me swoon. I prefer to conduct My medical sessions in either a nurse’s outfit or full rubber attire to lend to the antiseptic atmosphere.
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Corporal punishment – having grown up in a conservative Chinese community, I am more than familiar with the joys of discipline and punishment. I am well-versed in most corporal punishment instruments, including but not limited to canes/switches, single tail whips, paddles, straps, tawses, floggers, dragon’s tails, and of course, my palms for a good ol’ fashioned OTK (over the knee) spanking.
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Singletail whipping – the crack of the whip is unmistakable. While I already have a wickedly good aim, I strive to improve more and more within this realm. At some point, I’d love to be able to cut my name onto someone’s back using a whip alone! Because I acknowledge that accuracy within single tail whipping requires constant practice and maintenance, I offer specialsspecifically in regards to this activity.
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Roughhousing & Beatdowns Slapping, punching, grabbing, and a good ol’ fashioned bruising. I grew up wrestling with the boys and have a competitive athletic background, so a fun session of physical bullying always puts a twinkle in my eye and a bounce in my step. You can expect me to be laughing the entire time and upbeat music playing in the background. My beatdown sessions are always very fast-paced and intense because that’s how I like ’em.
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CBT Also known as Cock and Ball , I believe that male genitalia is a hilarious thing and therefore should be d whenever possible. One of my favorite first activities in session is tying up the cock and balls immediately, because why continue the illusion of male freedom when you’re around me? Life is so much better when your manhood is being ***d. And when given the freedom to go hard on your genitals, you can expect that I will never hold back.
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Chastity – When in doubt, lock it up. If you are unsure as to whether you should enter my session in your chastity device already on, my answer will almost always be an an enthusiastic “YES”. As a lifestyle keyholder, I believe that tease and denial is so much more fun when the sub has not had release for quite a few days (if not weeks) at a time. In any case, what makes you think your manhood has any validity in my presence? Best just to lock it up and hide the key. 😉
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Nipple / Breast Play Nipples can be so entertaining. A slight flick, a tender rub, and that explosion of when the clamps come off…and of course me, right in your face while you are kneeled down before me. Breathing on your neck, scratching your chest as you give your entire body to me. Grabbing your chin, pulling you up so we are looking at each other eye to eye, just so I can watch that expression in your face as you melt in my hands with each pinch I make. Now imagine all of that after your breasts have been pumped to be oh-so-sensitive…
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This has always been something that has come very naturally to me – I am a natural-born Humiliatrix, easily. Sharp in tongue and wit, quick to notice your idiosyncrancies, ever curious to learn more about what makes you tick, and unafraid to step all over over toes, never fails to leave a smile on my face. From blushing embarrassment to soul-crushing , I have no qualms with tearing you a new one both verbally and physically. I understand that everyone’s kink is unique and not a one-size-fit-all situation, so for the pure *** enthusiasts, be prepared to answer an in-depth questionnaire so that we can quickly get to the good stuff.
- Bondage Restriction is a good thing, particularly when it leaves the submissive in a most awkward position. Having taken Midori’s Rope Dojo very early on in my Domme career as well as numerous other bondage classes throughout the years, I enjoy bondage of all varieties and am highly versed in it. It is something I am always exploring and learning more about.
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PS: If you like bondage, I highly suggest you take the time to stretch before a long bondage session. It will go a long way to ensure that you can maintain the pose. Yoga is bondage’s friend.
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Full Immobilization – For heavy bondage sessions, I suggest three hours – good, layered bondage takes time to get into, and once you’re in it, you will probably want to stay for a while. 😉
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Watersports & Hardsports What can I say? I’ve always had toilet humor, and nothing tells Me that I am on top of the world than when I take a shit on a man. This type of play ranges from golden shower, ruby showers, Roman showers, and full toilet/scat play. I believe that GS/RS/FT can be both sensual and humiliating, and enjoy indulging within that spectrum of play. Please note that My full toilet sessions are only available once a day in the early afternoon.
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Full Toilet / Scat Play / Brown Showers – A definite specialty of mine. I am extremely regular, and take almost all of My toilet training sessions in the late morning from 9AM-12PM…perfect for your lunchtime snack! Full consumption is preferred as I believe in wasting not, wanting not. And if I have to *** consumption, well…
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Spitting – I am quite a spitter. I delight in spitting in your mouth, on your head, on my boots for you to **** it off, after a good cigarette, and all over your marks after a good beating, just for that extra sting. I spit in nearly all sessions where spitting is not a hard limit.
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Ruby Showers – Crave to sip on my menses? Why wouldn’t you? The essence of a Woman runs through it, and I have just the method for making sure you capture every last drop. Perhaps in a teacup for extra composure, or maybe in a takeaway “lollipop” for you to **** on in your car?
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Strap-On / **** Play
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Colloquially known as pegging, I have been told that I “sure know how to give a man one”. Ha! I enjoy the gender reversal of donning on a strap-on harness and hearing My sluts moan underneath Me, as well as all aspects of slut-training, be this through fisting, machines, inflatables, and whatever it takes to fill up a hole. I am a fan of the all-American mantra, “The bigger, the better”, and definitely delight in using the biggest toys I can find.
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Fisting – I adore taking a bitch’s fisting virginity! Let Me hold you like a sock puppet and feel you squirm while I open you up. Have you ever felt so at My mercy? A sweet mix of pleasure and *** – because once you go fist (or a foot…), you can’t go back.
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Electrical Play I use the ErosTek 232B, a powerful e-stim unit with numerous titillating functions. Tens units were originally used for muscle and nerve therapy, making them particularly excellent methods of bringing you to new highs and lows not achievable in any other form. For more cutaneous forms of electrical play, I use cattle prods, shock collars, and violet wands.
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Hypnosis Hypno for short, this was one of those activities that surprised Me when I first explored it. I enjoy it immensely because nothing is similar to the specific satisfaction of bringing a submissive into a state of total trance. I find a hypno session to be incredibly meditative and focused on my end. I often seem to be in a bit of a daze after a good mesmerizing! Hypnotism can be cathartic, the***utic, sadistic, and disciplined. I have been told innumerable times that I have an excellent voice for hypnotherapy. Because not every submissive is capable of falling into a deep trance, I have also engaged in hypno roleplays.
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Slave Training For the true submissive. Classical high protocol, strict Female Supremacist training to rebuild you into My ideal, sub-human slave. Be prepared to have your old notion of self broken down for a higher cause, My cause. Slave training runs from quintessential collar and leash training to slave positions, all reind with some good ol’ fashioned disciplinary reinment.
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Leather Worship My favorite tactile fetish material. Leather is my default fetish outfit, and should you request this, I will be more than happy to oblige (given that it does not coincide with an activity that may ruin My leathers). I love the musky scent, the buttery texture, and the way it makes a woman look like a true Alpha Femme. You can be sure that I will take a sniff of my own leather before allowing you to breathe it in. A Lady can never have enough leather.
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play While I am not a trained phlebotomist, I do delight in ting the walls red with your . The sight of is of visceral excitement to me, and I can’t get enough of it, quite frankly. play can arise through cutting/knife play, cupping, or needle play, and is definitely one of the heavier forms of play.
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Raceplay I am not racist, however I find raceplay hilarious. Indulge Me in My wicked humor and we can both have some fun with this. As a Taiwanese woman, I am fluent in Mandarin Chinese and can conduct a full session entirely in it.
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Raunch / Scent Play I adore the smell of Women and enjoy incorporating it into worship or sensory deprivation scenes. For the greater part, I do not wear perfume into session for reasons of discretion, and you may request that I do so ahead of time. I do not honor perfume requests as I am rather sensitive to most synthetic fragrances.
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Objectification A fantastic way of making a slave useful! Be this through human furniture or treating your body like the piece of **** meat that it is, objectification is an entertaining way of putting a submissive in his or her place.
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Pet Play …with you as My loyal steed or fawning puppy, not with real s, silly. I’ve always said that slaves were more like pets than people, so why not take it to the next level? By the way, I am definitely an person. 😉
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Shopping & Financial Domination Because what Lady doesn’t like being spoiled by unworthy losers? Enough said about that. 🙂
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Full Transformation / Sissification / d Feminization I have moonlighted as a professional makeup artist specializing in trans porn stars. Dream of becoming the delicate woman you’ve admired so many times? Never , I have the arsenal of cosmetic skills to help you along the way. Also included within a full sissy transformation regimen are crossdressing, lady skills, how to walk in heels, and corseting for a beautiful silhouette. Please note that full transformation does require a bit more time. Larger sizes may need to bring their own wardrobe.
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Tease & Denial I lean more heavily on the side of denial, because remember: you’ll never be good enough for me! As those who have trained me once said, sometimes there is no greater *** than a good tease and denial. Orgasm control and edging fall into these categories, however I never apply assistance in the form of handjobs, blowjobs, or traditional sexual activities of the sort. I am under the belief that a good tease and denial does not require any physical assistance, just a subdued mind.
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Sensory Play / Deprivation / Overload I enjoy gimps. I enjoy using all the senses to tantalize a slave and put him or her under. I find that sessions revolving largely around sensory play are better conducted in longer timeframes as that allows enough time to build up a variety of sensations and add tension to each action.
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Trampling I have been known to be quite acrobatic in My trampling sessions. Be it with heels or without, let it be known that I specialized in balance beam when I was a gymnast.
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Public * / Outings As an exhibitionist, I have no qualms with showing the entire world how pathetic you are in the presence of Me. Whether we go to a ** shop and I make you try on sissy clothing, or we go out to a meal and I spit in your cup at the dining table, public play is exciting and a whole wide world of exploration! Please note that any sort of public play or outing does require advance notice and planning.
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Shaving / Waxing A freshly razored head is one of My biggest sensual fetishes. I love running My fingers over a clean cut, and pride Myself on My attention to detail when it comes to making sure whatever I am shaving is perfectly clean.
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Breath Play Choking bitches out, and then some. Be it hand-over-mouth (HOM), smothering, gas masks, scissor holds, or the ever classic neck stranglehold, having power over your lungs is a delight for Me.
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Women, Trans, & Couples You bet your stars I am a bonafide pansexual. 😉 I love playing with people of all genders, sexualities, and backgrounds. Variety is the spice of life!
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Multi-Domme Sessions I have a wide cadre of friends in all the cities I play in available for co-topping. The more, the merrier! Available with advance notice. Also, expect the tribute to be higher (ie: double for doubles, triple for triples, etc.). I do not believe in doing discounts for more than one Domme.
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Overnight Play / Extended Sessions I find longer sessions to be a more satisfying experience for both Me and the sub. Simply put, I have more time to get to know you and develop a more nuanced understanding of your kinks and fetishes. Furthermore, extended play brings in an aspect of tension through time – because who knows how long you were really in that body bag for? Minutes turn into hours…turn into days…turn into weeks…and at the end of it all, you may find yourself a changed bitch.
ENJOY:
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Sensual Domination While quite a few of My interests veer into strict and severe territories, I am also extremely well-versed in slow and sensual domination. After all, why not use all My feminine wiles to My advantage, particularly when slaves can be so weak around a beautiful Woman?
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Body / Attire Worship Feet, legs, and ass. I realize how perfect My physique is, and how terribly badly a slave may want to kiss them. Body worship only comes as a reward for good behavior, so work towards it, sluts! I have size 5.5-6.5 feet, a 36-inch derriere, and size 0-2/24-25/XS bottoms.
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Ass Smothering – With an ass as delicious as mine, I enjoy taunting My bitches with it by asphyxiating their faces out with it. A sort of bittersweet irony comes in being ***d out by such perfection. For those who are unaware, ass smothering is not only facesitting – it is quite literally smothering your breath out. My ass smothering is only done fully clothed.
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Foot Fetish – Bare feet massages, stockings, stinky workout toes, thigh high boots, toe , and face are some of the many podophilic delights I indulge in.
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Boot Worship – **** ’em clean, black them until they look like new…and of course, always from the ground up. Thigh high boots are perfect for walking all over the lesser species.
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Hosiery Fetish – I never knew how much I loved hosiery until I became a Dominatrix. I find nylons to be a lost and seductive form of lingerie. From classic Wolfords or silks to punk rock fishnet, seamless pantyhose to derriére-enhancing stockings, hosiery is incredibly sensual to Me. Can’t you just imagine My skintight nylons grazing across your lips?
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Glove Worship – Leather, lace, and satin wrapped around My agile fingers as I run them all over you…
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Wrestling For wrestling sessions, I only participate in non or semi-competitive wrestling – and of course, I always play to win. How could I not, with legs so strong that My scissorholds would quickly make you see stars? I enjoy incorporating scent play into My wrestling sessions as well.
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Food Play / Sploshing There is something quite decadent about wet and messy fetishism that I find entertaining. You provide the food, of course. I am not a fan of vinegar-based sauces for sploshing.
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Feeder / Feedee – Stuffing food down your gullet until you feel like your stomach is going to explode, and then stuffing more down.
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d Also known as ***d Intox, I find submissives hilarious when they become blundering fools around me. They can be so easy to manipulate with an inhale of poppers or a friendly shot of alcohol. Please note that prior to engaging in this sort of play, I require the sub to have a clean and non-threatening bill of health. All sorts of play following such will be closely monitored.
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JOI Also known as jerk-off instructions or ***d masturbation, you do precisely what I tell you to do for the privilege of releasing in my presence. Accompanied often by laughing and spitting while I entertain myself with the sight of you trying to resurrect your feeble manhood. Orgasm control is important to me as your orgasm should never belong to you.
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Roleplays / Psychodramas I have an active imagination and a theatrical personality, so roleplays are a great outlet for that. I’m open to all roleplay suggestions provided that I am always the top in the scenario.
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Tickle With nimble little fingers like Mine, I am sure I will be able to find your particularly sensitive spots that make you weak in the knees. I prefer My tickle to be done in bondage so as to have no escape on your part.
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Fire Play From dripping candles to burning off your ball hairs, who doesn’t love fire? It can be both sensual and sadistic, and adds a fun sensory element to all sorts of play. Please note that not all facilities accommodate fire play.
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Bizarre and Unique Fetishes The world of kink is endless! Surprise me with your fetish. Chances are I have heard it and done it before, but I’m always receptive to new ideas.
HARD LIMITS
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Illegal activities. Enough said on this one.
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“Jobs” of any kind. hand jobs, blow jobs, etc. These are within the domain of a kinky escort or a full-service Domme in the US, so if you require these, you should search one out rather than going to a classically trained Dominatrix. I am sure she would be far happier and more skilled than I in assisting you in these endeavors.
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(The United States has a specific tradition of separating heteronormative sexual activities from classical Professional Domination. What is standard in the States is not necessarily standard in other countries.)
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Requests for topless or bottomless outfits and nudity. While I have very occasionally done this on occasion at my own leisure with well-established clients, I never accept any requests for nudity of any kind because my body is not yours. In fact, any excessive requests of nudity will be promptly ignored. I will probably end up being extra covered because I find you rude, so there’s that.
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While I do love basking in all my nude glory, this is something that I firmly believe is a choice of my own, not at the behest of the sub.
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Breast smothering. I don’t particularly enjoy this activity, and furthermore, I do not have the generous breasts to even engage in this activity in a comfortable manner. Did you actually want my ribcage rubbed up on your face? (This is a rhetorical question and not up for debate. Doing breast smothering with small breasts is highly physically uncomfortable for me as it is just bone on bone.)
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Competitive wrestling. I only engage in fantasy wrestling. I am a petite woman and am not trained in wrestling or martial arts, so I’m not interested in engaging in potentially violent and dangerous activities to my own body. I’m only interested in wrestling scenarios where I am guaranteed a win and you are essentially a sack of human that I toss around. 😉 Anybody who crosses this automatically incurs a cancelled session the moment upon doing so.
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Switch or submissive scenarios. This should be self-explanatory, and if you feel the need to push this, you are in the wrong place. I am what I am, and I am very confident that you cannot do anything to sway me otherwise. Attempts to do anything otherwise will not even be deemed worthy of a response and will almost certainly result in an immediate blocking.
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Remember, when you insist on asking someone to do something they have enthusiastically said no to, you are violating their consent. Consent is the most important aspect of playing in BDSM. I do not tolerate consent-pushing in any form.
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s of any kind. I do not do any type of crushing whatsoever, nor will I engage in any sort of play with s of all sizes. This includes bugs (insects, worms, spiders, etc.). Bugs are s too, you monsters.
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Cumming on me. I can’t believe I have had to say this, but you may not come on Me under any circumstances, even if it is on My thigh high boots and you are to **** it off clean. I’m not your cumbucket. You are your own cumbucket.
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Talking smack about other women. I’m not into this at all. Homewrecking is one thing, but me denigrating your wife/girlfriend/partner/coworkers/etc. is another thing.
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Of course, **. (Please note the first and second bullets.)
MODES OF INTERACTION**
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Realtime Servitude Ready to play? Serve me in real life by setting up a session. I prefer incall at one of the several dungeons I enjoy as they typically have all the equipment and settings required to make that special scene, however outcall is available for the more generous sub. I also enjoy public play scenarios as long as the situation is appropriate for the environment.
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Distance Training You may also admire from afar, thanks to the wonders of our contemporary age!
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Phone – Worried about showing your face? Intimidated by the thought of My sheer physical presence? Call Me whenever My phone line is on. No appointment necessary.
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I use NiteFlirt for most of my phone calls. Niteflirt is a well-established phone **** line with over a decade of service. Calls can be entirely anonymous. I very rarely check my message inbox and do not use their text message service. Best to just sign up and give me a ring there. 😉
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Cam Sessions – Similar to my realtime sessions, my cam sessions may be set up provided a 24-hour advance notice. I use Skype.
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Email / Text Message Domination – The perfect way to perk up an otherwise boring work day. I enjoy using this method for task-oriented slaves.
PLACES
Currently, I am an independent and take the majority of My sessions at in-call private dungeons. All the dungeons I play at are discreet, well-maintained, and highly regarded. I believe in maintaining a respectable standard of quality for Myself and My subs.
I also travel – as of the moment, My second BDSM homes are in the Bay Area and New York City, as I travel to both locales a couple times each year. Other cities are on the horizon, however if you have an unquenchable desire to see Me, I suggest you get in contact with Me. I only consider flying out for the unselfish sub, given that My flights, lodging, and dining are generously provided for. Not necessarily for the first-time sub.
DEPOSIT POLICY
A 50% non-refundable deposit will be required upon booking. For cancellations earlier than a 36h notification, your deposit can be transferred to another session date provided that the date is within a month of your initially reserved date. Due to the sporadic nature of my travel, all deposits for travel sessions can only be transferred to another date within available time slots within those travel dates, to a FMTY.
I prefer email or text to notify of any cancellations. In the unfortunate event of complete cancellation within 36h of our booking with no rebooking during the month, your deposit will be fully forfeited. All consultations and distance training sessions require full payment upfront in order to book.
VIRTUAL TRIBUTE OPTIONS
Do not pay anybody claiming to be me unless you are 100% sure. I only respond to session queries via contact info. I will never reach out to you asking for * outside of a deposit for a session or play within one of my verified channels. I do not have “acceptance fees”, “application fees”, or “slavery fees”. I have hundreds of impersonation accounts, and it is up to you to be vigilant and weed out the fakes from myself. Please take a look at my blog post about scammers to help yourself in future kinky interactions.
If you have any doubt, feel free to reach out to me directly on My contact number or email. I will never text, call, or otherwise chat with you for free unless you are already an established client, and I will always field first-time session inquiries through my contact info.
If you’re still unsure, As a general whole, I do not accept physical gift cards as payment unless they are the last and only option. They will never be my first request for a deposit. (And I definitely have no need for any kind of gaming gift card.)
Nearly all of my impersonators are aware of my website and will send it to you as “proof”, but please note that knowledge of a link is not proof in and of itself. It’s just them sending you my website, lol.
With that scary warning out of the way, I use a variety of vendors to accept tribute, and the following listed are specifically for spontaneous tributes. I largely do not use these methods for deposit. This list is not comprehensive and regularly changes to meet up with the constantly changing landscape of payment apps for ** workers. For all tributes, keep your messages attached to the tribute vague. A name and a greeting will suffice.
I am now accepting cryptocurrency for spontaneous tributes. I appreciate the level of anonymity and security that provides, however due to it being a volatile currency, double the market value if you are sending a specific amount. Otherwise, feel free to send away at your own leisure.
Bitcoin wallet address: ask me
I do not typically accept Amazon Giftcard nor eBay. Expect to double the total tribute for an inconvenience fee. In order of preference, I prefer sephora/itunes/vanilla/walmart/American express/Nordstorm/Google play/visa/Home depot, but don’t count on it.)
For all online gift cards (eBay, Amazon, Postmates, Bloomingdales, Nordstroms, etc.), please use Dominahelenalocke(at) yahoo (dot) com for my email address.
THE GUIDE TO YOUR FIRST PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX SESSION
So you’ve decided to finally see a Dominatrix for the first time ever! Congratulations. You are undoubtedly very nervous and probably full of questions. In order to make the transition from vanilla to kinky pervert all the smoother for you, you probably want to read this. I see a lot of novices. In fact, on any given month, I estimate that at least 20% of my clients are brand spankin’ new – meaning I am their first professional BDSM experience. I’ve occasionally had months where more than 70% of my clients are new.
My definition of a novice within professional Femdom varies, but for the most part, I define a novice as someone with five or less hours of professional experiences under their belt. It’s an arbitrary designation, but it’s what I’ve set it to, so there’s that.
HOW TO PICK A DOMINATRIX;
With the advent of the internet and social media, this may seem immensely overwhelming. Dommes are a dime a dozen on Twitter, and kinky dating apps are overflowing with fakes who try to shill you out of “deposits” or “slave contracts”. With that in mind, the very first piece of advice I have for you is to take your time in booking. Just because a woman is hot does NOT mean she is a good Domme, nor is she even real.
I highly suggest booking with an experienced and legitimate Domme for your first professional session to safeguard you from bad experiences. I’ve met one too many subs who held off on sessioning because their first session was with a Domme who didn’t know what she was doing nor did she care about the sub. This can lead to lukewarm experiences at best, and at worst, severe bodily danger. Do not hire a professional who is not a professional. Simple.
Your first professional session will probably be meaningful and memorable to you. Choose somebody who understands that and who has both the experience and the passion to guide you along.
So how do you know if she’s experienced and legitimate? Take a look at her website. Does she even have a website? That should be your first indicator to whether someone is real. Nearly all legitimate Dommes have a website because it is typically the first source of contact and information about us. Read through her website. Read through as much as possible before corresponding with her. Her website is there for a reason – to give the viewer an understanding of what she is capable of. Get an idea of who she is and how she presents herself online.
Treat booking like you would any other professional occupation. Be respectful. Or else goddess comes after you with a paddle. (I’m just kidding, but seriously, be respectful.)
HOW TO BOOK WITH A PROFESSIONAL BDSM MISTRESS
You’ve finally narrowed it down to one or two (or maybe three) Mistresses that you want to session with. Great! That wasn’t so hard, was it? Now it’s time to finally take the next big step and book the damned session. First off, have you read her website? I mean this truly and seriously: have you read her website? Have you read her FAQ? Have you read her interests? Have you read her hard limits? Have you read all the possible pertinent information about booking a session that you possibly can? If you have, go ahead and book. If you haven’t, the likelihood is high that she (or I) will ignore you. It’s usually all too clear when somebody has not done their due diligence and has just filled out a contact form with zero knowledge of what they are going into. The information is on the website for a reason, and to not read it also entails that the Mistress will have to repeat numerous details that have already been established. That’s annoying. You don’t want to be annoying, do you? Because being annoying means not getting a session. And if you’ve made it this far, you probably want that session.
If she has a contact form, fill it out clearly, succinctly, and with detail. Do not input one-word responses that show zero effort – if you put in zero effort, the ProDomme will also want to put in zero effort. Thought and consideration make applicants stand out, and I guarantee you that you will want to stand out if it is a Domme who is in demand. I personally turn away at least 50% of applicants because they have not given my very thorough form any thought. I’m sure some of these applicants could have been a fun time, but crappy first impressions are major boner killers. You want me to have a boner, don’t you?
While all sessions require some amount of preparation and clean up before and after, a complex session requires even more thought and effort upfront, and a thank you gift can help to highlight that. Do not go into the session and expect to drop all of your interests on the Mistress without a thorough introduction beforehand. This will not bode well for you as she may have prepared for a different scene and may not have the appropriate tools or outfits at hand.
If she uses an email address to book, do the same thing. Give as much information on who you are and what you are looking for as possible. Give your available times and dates. Tell her how long of a session you are looking for (“for life” is not an answer, jackasses).
If she asks specific questions out of you, answer them. It’s a very straightforward process. Chances are that the Mistress has done this thousands of times already and knows exactly what she needs to ask and what information she needs to have. Go ahead and answer them truthfully. Don’t omit information just because you feel embarrassed about it. If you’re embarrassed about your needs and desires, I guarantee that they will never be met and fulfilled. The more insight we have on you, the better the session will be. I promise!
Many professional Dominatrices require deposits to secure a session. If she requires one, then expect to send one. There are many ways to send deposits without a paper trail, if privacy and discretion are a large concern for you. If you can’t agree on a means of deposit, then you probably will not be able to session with a Mistress that requires one… and that’s life! If you really want to session with her, I’m sure you can find a way.
With that in mind, scammers and impersonators are very common on the internet. To ensure that you are sending a deposit to the real Mistress, only contact her through all her official preferred channel.
BEFORE THE BDSM SESSION*
Treat the session like you are going to work, or maybe more like you are going on vacation. I say both because first impressions matter, but also your personal schedule should be sorted out before heading out to have fun. If she has a confirmation procedure, be sure to follow that procedure to a T. I personally have a multistep, multi-day procedure that starts from the moment the session is put in my calendar up until the actual session itself. My procedure is put in place for a reason. It works splendidly, so it’s best to follow it rather than assuming the session will happen just because you sent in a deposit. If you are the forgetful type, put the session and all the confirmation steps in your calendar, for chrissakes. You’ve made it this far – you don’t want to fudge it up just because you forgot to call in, right?
The night before the session, try to get a good night’s sleep. Sleep is one of the pillars of health, and if you’re out of it the day of, it’ll make everything else a lot more difficult – from having your hands tied up to taking more extreme sensations. You want to be cogent for your session. I know that your nerves will probably keep you up for a bit, but do your best to be as energized and relaxed as possible for playtime. You want to make the most of it.
On the day of, make sure you’re clean. I can’t believe I have to say this, but please arrive clean. Dominatrices will touch you and get all up in your personal space, so unless you want a session where you’re locked in a cage and ignored for three hours, take a shower before the session. Stinky slaves are gross. I have personally made people shower before their session because of a lack of personal hygiene, and I can assure you that the time spent doing your courteous ablutions will cut into your precious session time.
If you know that you don’t have time to clean yourself up before the session, ask the Mistress in advance if you can arrive a couple minutes early to take a shower. I’ve had many clients come straight to the dungeon after a long flight or after work, and as long as they let me know ahead of time, I’m more than happy to accommodate that.
Make sure you eat a little bit before your first session. You don’t need a full meal, but you do need to make sure your sugar levels are stable. Fainting in the middle of play is not fun, and especially since it is your first time, you probably will have no idea how your body will react to certain activities. It’s best to start the session in a stable sort of way, and nourishing your body is one of the best ways of doing that. If you haven’t had time to eat, consider bringing an energy bar or any kind of easy calories to the studio.
If you’re into ** play, I suggest learning how to do enemas. There is a lot of trial and error in this, so don’t worry about getting it right the first time…but at least make the effort.
If you’re into heavy bondage or ** play, I highly suggest stretching before the session. Cramps are no bueno. Each session has its own nuances, and with time, you will learn what you need to personally do to prepare for the session. Your Mistress may give you instructions on this as well, and if she does, it’s best to follow them for your own good.
Oh also, don’t arrive drunk, wasted, or high until the point of sloppiness. While I know quite a few subs that do this (and am not particularly pleased about it), I am personally of the belief that your first professional Domination experience should be done sober. For one, you’ll better understand your own limits and capabilities as a bottom/submissive/slave/fetishist/whatever. For another, sobriety creates a consistency in your actions that makes it easier for the Top to read you. Unless your interest is specifically d *, sobriety should be the standard within most BDSM interactions. A small drink or toke to quell your nerves is fine, but enough to the point of slurring and falling makes the whole interaction consensually dubious.
Will she walk out with a strap-on dildo the moment she opens the door, tear off your clothes, put a gimp hood on you, and then make you ** her ** the moment she sees you for the first time ever? The answer is no. It is always no.
WHAT TO EXPECT DURING A PRO DOMME SESSION
And you’re here! You’re finally here! You’ve researched your Mistress, succeeded in contacting her, sending a deposit, booking the session, confirming, and now you’re finally here! You’re probably a bundle of nerves, and that’s ok. Your Mistress can probably tell (because pretty much all novices are nervous). It’s normal to be nervous. In fact, that means that you’re excited for the experience – and that’s good! Plus, sometimes anxious people are fun to scare… You’re probably wondering how the session will start off. Will she open the door, grab you by the collar, drag you in, rip off your clothes, and just start beating you?
While that’s fun in fetish porn, I can tell you with full assurance that this will not happen with any reputable Domme. Your very first session with a Mistress means that both of you need to feel each other out. Most sessions begin with bringing the client into the dungeon, directing where to put the remaining tribute (if done in cash), and sitting the client down for a brief consultation. The session begins only after all of this is done.
While you may have answered a lot of questions online, there may have been certain subjects omitted or new questions that may arise on the Domme’s part after a second reading of your session application. This is the time when those questions will be asked and answered. I personally like to go over the client’s interests and hard limits again in person because I find that I can read a lot from someone’s body language while they are talking about their interests or background. An in-person consultation is invaluable to me as it can provide a lot of insight towards how someone truly feels about something – whereas most people are not that revealing when writing something down.
I also use this time to field any questions the client may have about me or the session. Remember: this is your experience. Feel free to ask whatever you need to have the fullest experience possible. And don’t worry about trying to act in a certain slave-like way if that’s not you. Be yourself.
This time usually does count towards the total session time, so while you may want to talk at length, keep that in mind. Most studios are rented by the hour, and frequently Dommes will have sessions before and after you, which means that the total length of interaction you have with the Dominatrix will be constrained to that time. Some people do want to just chat for the majority of the session time because they need time to get in the headspace, and that’s ok as well. Just be sure to consider that aspect about yourself when deciding how long of a session you want. (I’ve had people book two hours with the explicit understanding that we would be leisurely chatting while they had a glass of wine for the first hour.) And of course, be polite.
TLDR;
BOOKING**:
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- Take your time and research before booking. Don’t go for the first hot person you see.
- Go to a legitimate Domme for your first session.
- Look at her website. Seriously, look at her website.
- Gauge your compatibility to the Dominatrix via her website, social media, and clips.
- If you’re unsure about the Mistress, contact her through her paid lines (Niteflirt, SextPanther, whatever she uses) or schedule a consultation to see if you mesh well with her.
- Treat your first correspondence with her like a job application – be that through her contact form, email, or whatever application process she uses.
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Sometimes you don’t know what you like yet, and that’s ok. Be honest and truthful about your background that brought you to her so she can guide you along.
BEFORE:
- Follow her confirmation procedure, if she has one. It should be pretty straightforward.
- Get some sleep the night before.
- Make sure you eat a little bit before the session to keep your *** sugar levels stable.
- Be in a stable mindset when you arrive – don’t arrive inebriated. A small drink is fine. A sloppy drink is not.
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Get to the location a couple minutes early. Do not enter the premises without her permission.
DURING:
- The session will not begin the moment she opens the door (especially for your first session ever). She will usually conduct an in-person consultation before any play starts.
- Be polite. This is someone you have just met, therefore treat them like someone you just met. Ask before touching or calling her a certain nickname. You may be participating in intimate activities, but you are still getting to know each other. Get consent before assuming.
- Be expressive! Communicate your needs!
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Don’t be afraid to use the safeword appropriately.
AFTER:
- If possible, give yourself time to process and come down from subspace. Eating a meal, getting a drink, or taking a walk afterwards is always a nice option.
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If your Mistress allows it, email her back with your thoughts on the session once you’ve had a decent amount of time to digest what has just happened. It’s a great way for the Mistress to feel good about what she does, and an excellent way for you to figure out what you are looking for in BDSM.
And that’s it! It may all seem oh-so-very overwhelming at first, but thousands (millions???) of slaves, subs, bottoms, masochists, fetishists, and curious perverts have done it before you, and thousands (millions???) of them will do it after you. Once you get your first BDSM Domination session out of the way, your second session will be far less daunting. You may never get rid of the nervousness of meeting a new Domme for the first time, and that’s ok. But at least you’ll have an idea of what you’re walking into now. And with that said, I wish you luck on your first kinky adventure, perverts!
IMPERSONATORS, SCAMMERS, AND GENERAL TOMFOOLERY
I’ve received yet another message today about how someone fell for a scammer. A profile imitating me on yet another adult/kinky dating site had lured $500 for a deposit scam out of the hapless man under the pretense of real-life play. He’s upset about it, of course, and told me that I should do more to “protect my good name”.
This is not new. I receive messages from men getting burnt on deposit scams from fake profiles of me every week, and messages about copycat profiles on social media and dating apps every single day. This is not an exaggeration. I’ve had a rash of impersonators in the past year. Why? I have no * idea. All I do know is that a couple of them are extremely persistent, and I am able to recognize repeat offenders by the style of the username they choose and how they speak. Some of them have gone so far as to make 30+ repeat accounts of me on various sites, even after I’ve taken down their profiles over and over and over again.
I do my best to take down the profiles as I receive notice of them, but sometimes it is actually impossible as some of the sites require me to give them verification that I can’t or am unwilling to provide, or sometimes the help section of a site or app is entirely unresponsive. Furthermore, I am taking down accounts left and right on a weekly basis. This has become damn near a full time job – and mind you, I already have a full time job.
So here’s the thing: I don’t expect this to ever stop. People will continue messaging me about new profiles, I will do my best to take them down, and the people who do this for a living will keep on making new profiles because there is no true recourse for them catfishing other people as me. Ultimately, I am writing this post so that I can easily send it to each new person who messages me saying that they got burned on yet another deposit scam. For one, it absolves me of any responsibility of these men’s losses. For another, it is intended to educate others on how to not fall for these scams.
And if, after reading all of this, you still fall for yet another deposit scam…well then, the onus easily falls on you. Not me, not the scammer – you.
I just want to make this very clear: I don’t like the existence of these scammers. The consequence is that Pro-Dommes like me, who actually love what we do, find it harder to take deposits from people who would have ordinarily done so because they fell for scammers before. And here’s the thing: deposits are industry standards (at least in major US cities) because of the high rate of timewasters and fakes. If I don’t receive a deposit from you, the likelihood is pretty much guaranteed that we will never play.
When you, as a potential sub, become jaded that you gave to the wrong person and no longer want to do so with anyone else, your likelihood of playing with legitimate Dominatrices diminishes. As Pro-Dommes, our time is valuable and we expect that to be respected since we have other subs who can and will take your place. And perhaps, in time, you will continue becoming more and more jaded of Femdom because you start playing with inexperienced Dommes who don’t know how to handle their business with professionalism, which leads to a greater suspicion of Femdom. It’s a vicious cycle.
I do not want anyone to become suspicious about playing with Pro-Dommes. Most of us genuinely love what we do and want the entire process to be streamlined and easy so that we can get to the playing faster. Scammers make subs more reticent to send deposits, and that ultimately makes it more difficult for me to play with those subs. It is not my job to sway you that I am the real thing. I won’t do it as it simply isn’t worth my time, and you then won’t play with me. And who knows? We probably would have had an incredible time together.
With that diatribe out of the way, let’s get to the educational listicle portion of this post.
HOW TO SPOT A SCAMMER
- Does it seem like it’s too good to be true? It probably is.
- Remember those emails from African princes about wire transfers to receive their fortune? Did you ever fall for those? Do you still fall for those?
- If not, then why would you fall for someone reaching out to you for something that seems a little too good to be true? Which leads me to the second point…
- Did “she” reach out to you first? Remember, Professional Domination is a business of sorts (hence…”Professional”). Businesses like mine largely do not cold call potential subs asking for ***. For one, we are too busy with sessions, videos, or touring to be flat-out messaging everyone. For another, subs are expected to approach Pro-Dommes, and not the other way around.
- If she really is as successful as she says she is, why would she waste her time looking for subs when she already has the acclaim to bring subs to her?
- Unless she is looking for something in specific within her lifestyle (for example, I’m active on kinky dating apps because I like having many cleaning slaves), do not expect an established Domme to ever be the first one to reach out to you asking you to pay her.
- Furthermore, if my primary advertising strategy was reaching out to every person who expresses a desire to be a slave in their dating profile, that wouldn’t be a very effective strategy, now would it? I could spend literal years messaging everybody who seemed to have a submissive itch in their bone and that still wouldn’t cover every single person. You work for me, not me working for you.
- Does “she” speak in syntax that doesn’t seem to be cohesive? For example, does she speak extremely formally in one email and then extremely casually in another? Is her grammar impeccable in one message but then she doesn’t punctuate at all in another?
- This is a classic tip-off that she is copy-pasting from other websites to take on the verbiage of their D/s.
- A helpful tip for this would be to say what she writes out loud. Does it sound like it’s all coming from the same person?
- If it doesn’t sound cohesive, try Googling the more formal-sounding things she says. Chances are that you’ll find she ripped it off someone else’s website.
- Does “she” have a legitimate website and social media presence? Pretty much all contemporary and active Pro-Dommes will have both since they are the industry standard. Check to see if her website is professional, and check to see how many followers her social media has. If she says she’s famous (for example, sends you videos of herself), she should have a fairly respectable social media following. Expect followers in the thousands and an active interaction on her Twitter or Instagram. On Twitter, expect her to be chatting with other legitimate Pro-Dommes.
- For social media, expect her to have activity that spans for as long as she says she has been active for.
- Are “her” pictures hi-res or are they pixelized? Pixelized pictures are a classic case of someone screencapping a legitimate Mistress’ profile to steal the photo. Why would someone screenshot their own photos when they should already have copies on their computer or phone?
- Have you reverse Google image searched “her” photos? You can also use reverse Bing image search for more adult photos. If the photos line up with who she says she is, go to her website and learn more about her to be sure that it’s the right person.
- If you don’t know what I am talking about, here are some helpful links from Google and Bing. The internet also has loads of wider-encompassing reverse image searches such as this one.
- Once you reverse image search her, it will be easy enough to see if the name she is presenting herself as is her actual name. If it’s a name that doesn’t line up with those photos, then you know she’s a fake. If it is a name that lines up with who she says she is, it should be easy enough to google her name and find her website.
- I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS TACTIC ENOUGH. Reverse image searching is your FRIEND. Do it on all of her images. Do it on everybody. (And on a less pedantic note, it’s fun to reverse image search people because sometimes you find more fun photos of them…)
- Is “her” name spelled correctly? Jesus christ. I can’t believe I have to say this one, but I have had messages from people who thought they were actually talking to me, but had my name entirely incorrect. My name is Helena Locke, not helna lock , not Jennifer, not kate…
- Does “she” speak with poor grammar? Again, a friendly reminder here that Professional Domination is a business, and all good businesses will choose to speak with good grammar, spelling, and punctuation. (And especially if she’s asking *** from you, expect her to be businesslike about it.)
- When you send an email to any other business, do you expect them to respond to you casually, with misspellings, glaring grammatical errors, and no punctuation whatsoever? No – you expect them to be professional and concise. Expect the same out of any Mistress who takes her own craft with respect.
- The only exception for this would be non-native English speakers, but if you’re reading this, you probably speak English fluently and are seeking an English-speaking Domme. And in any case, if she sounds like she’s not fluent in English, that probably entails that she doesn’t live in your English-speaking country…so why the hell would you think she would come all the way over from her country to dominate you?? Please refer to point #1 of this list.
- Does “she” ask you to use Western Union? COME ON! Always be wary of someone you don’t know who asks you to use Western Union. Craigslist literally has warnings about this on their site. “African princes” always ask for Western Union. Western Union is the standard for scammers.
- WU typically asks for the recipient’s full legal name, something of which most Pro-Dommes do not reveal to first-time subs.
- The same goes for ***gram or wire transfers.
- (Please note that I have used Western Union for deposits a couple of times for sessions, however it is usually the last option after all other deposit options have been exhausted and eliminated.)
- Does “her” Western Union or ***gram address line up with the city “she” is supposed to be in?
- Say that for some reason, this Mistress can only use these two options. (I have used these services on rare occasion.) Why would you send a deposit to someone in, say, Virginia, when she lives in LA?
- I’m going to say that 99 times out of 100, the Mistress you are supposedly talking to does not have an assistant in a city outside of hers to receive your deposit, either. If she has done so much work to reach out to you and get your , why would she hire an assistant to receive the ?? She’s obviously working so hard for that deposit that she probably wouldn’t have the *** to hire an assistant, anyway…
- Is “she” chatting with you for free? Because LOL, Pro-Dommes typically do not chat with subs for free unless they are looking for someone for their lifestyle interests, have some commonality with you like mutual friends, know you in real life, are responding to something genuinely useful that you have notified them of, or are chastising you for being an annoying online sub.
- Paying a deposit for a session afterwards does not count as paying for a chat. It means you are paying for that session following the chat. When I say chatting, I mean dirty talk like calling you her slave, telling you what she’ll do to you, and overall giving you a boner via words and pictures without you initially respectfully asking to pay her for her time.
- The reason why established Pro-Dommes do not chat for free is because we are constantly inundated by men who want our attention and want to know “what we’ll do to them”. Remember, our time is *. Why would we throw free dirty talk at every horny ** that comes our way? If I did that, I would not have enough time to play for myself or lead a normal life. Furthermore, dirty talk is free play. Yes, dirty talking is play – and the likelihood is extremely high that you, a complete total internet stranger, are not special enough for the privilege of that free play.
- I personally keep all my initial correspondences with new subs as to-the-point as possible. You would let me know your interests, and I would let you know if we were compatible, quickly followed by session details. Any messages I send are for setting up the terms of the actual playdate, and anything else that may be more than that would be held via my tributed call and text message lines.
- I know it is difficult, but don’t let your erection give you the benefit of the doubt. A restaurant isn’t going to comp your appetizer just because they like you, nor will a Pro-Domme chat with you for free.
- I specifically say “established” when talking about this point because I have personally made the mistake of chatting with people as a very green novice. I quickly learned that my time was *** and that I didn’t have enough time to seduce every random stranger on the internet that wanted my attention.
- Does “she” have a social media account that is not the same as “her” primary one? This is assuming that you know her primary account. Email or message the primary account confirming if that other account is her. More times than not, it is not her.
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Some women have back-up accounts (like me) or private accounts just for paying viewers. A primary account will usually link to said accounts to validate their legitimacy. In any case, I’ve spent far too much time writing this and feel like I have personally exhausted this topic at large.I hope you’ve found this post helpful. Keep these key points in mind when chatting to someone who wants your *. And if you’ve read this and have still been had, then shame on you for letting your arousal get the best of you! You should know better by now.
Has this list turned you on because you have a rather unconventional fetish for admonishing lists? Trust me, darling, I can be far more punctilious in person. 😉
EQUIPMENTS AND TOYS
I am incredibly well-equipped for nearly all sorts of sessions, thanks to the generosity of the Headmistresses who allow me to rent from their studios as well as from my own personal collection of implements. Please note that not all of this equipment is travel-friendly and that this list not exhaustive. For simplification, I’ve limited this to items I frequently use. If you have questions about the availability of a certain piece, please inquire in advance.
BDSM FURNITURE**
- St. Andrew’s cross
- Spanking horses (adjustable)
- Steel bondage beds (convertible and with head isolation hole)
- Steel bondage cage (both horizontal and vertical)
- Load-bearing ceiling suspension winch for vertical suspension
- Stretching rack
- Four-poster bondage rack and wall
- Comfortable couches (lol)
- Convertible spanking chair
- Portable toilet chair
- **** swings with stirrups
- Gyno chair
- Thrones/CBT chairs
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Caning bench
BONDAGE GEAR
- Sleepsacks (leather – a personal favorite, rubber, Darlex)
- Hoods (leather, rubber, nylon, neoprene, lace)
- Straitjackets (leather and latex)
- Collars (posture, medical)
- Wrist, ankle, thigh, suspension cuffs
- Bondage mitts (leather, latex)
- Bondage booties (leather)
- Lots and lots and lots of rope and string (jute, cotton, manila, polypropylene, nylon, various synthetics)
- Safety shears/paramedic EMT scissors
- Padlocks, keys, and disposable plastic ID padlocks
- Chastity devices
- Humblers
- Bondage straps/belts
- Ratchet tie-downs
- Metal chains
- Bunjee cords
- PVC knee high ballet boots
- Spreader bars
- Portable underbed bondage kit
- Saran/plastic wrap
- Bondage tape
- Leashes
- Gags (ball, spider, O-ring, inflatable, leather, dildo, funnel, bit, etc.)
- Metal handcuffs and thumb cuffs
- Ear muffs and earplugs
- Blindfolds
- Latex vacbed (available for an additional fee)
- Hanging full-body leather strap cage
- Pet crawler bondage set
- Leather head harness
- Rubber gas masks and bubbler breathers
- Leather muzzle
- Puppy play mask
- Medical cervical collar
- Medical head immobilizer
- Leather armbinder
- Portable Tetrus suspension rig and pulley system
- Labia spreader/face bondage clamps
- Nose hooks
- **** hooks
- Cock sheaths
- Hogtie restraint
- Portable bondage boards
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Baby monitors
CORPORAL PUNISHMENT - Whips (singletail, bullwhip, snake whip, dragon tail, dressage, etc.)
- Leather floggers
- Paddles and slappers (wood, plastic, leather, silicone)
- Canes (rattan is my personal preference, and also bamboo, wood, metal, plastic)
- Leather Lochgelly tawses
- Leather crops
- Leather and synthetic straps and belts
- Rubber sjambok
- Wooden hair brushes
- Spatulas (bamboo, silicone)
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Quirts
SISSIFICATION AND SLUT TRAINING
- Fully lit vanity
- Makeup supplies (primer, foundation, blush, bronzer, powder, eyeliner, eyeshadow, brow products, lipstick, lipliner, lip gloss, setting spray, highlighter, false eyelashes, nail polish)
- Crossdressing heels of a variety of sizes, ballet boots
- Wigs
- Fake silicone breasts
- Sissy outfits (bra, panties, garters, stockings, pantyhose, dresses, maid outfits, lingerie sets, teddies, girdles)
- Insertables (inflatable, vibrating, glass, metal, silicone, latex, double-ended, puppy tails, bejeweled, plugs, stimulators, hollow, electric, beads)
- Strap-on harnesses and dildos
- Lip gag
- Breast pump kit
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Electric clipper, disposable razors, and wax strips
MEDICAL FETISH - Sounding kits (stainless steel, silicone, electric, vibrating, Hegar, flat-ended, Pratt sounds, penile plugs) and sterile lubricating jelly
- ErosTek ET 232 E-stim power unit (many attachments including TENS electrodes, catheters, tubing, plugs, dildos)
- Violet wand
- Piercing and hypodermic needles
- Sutures and needle holders
- Medical stapler
- Scalpels/lancets
- Gloves (nitrile and latex examination, sterile surgical, breeder)
- Stethoscopes
- Metal vaginal ****, and equine speculums and scopes
- Foley catheters and syringes
- Pre-measured saline in hypodermic syringes
- Stainless Steel ratchet Jennings dental gags
- Ophthalmoscope
- Vintage gynecological chair
- Reflex hammer
- IV stand
- Spiked Wartenburg wheels
- ***ps (a wide variety)
- Penetrating towel clamps
- Tweezers
- Disposable enema bags
- Hemostat clamps
- Burdizzo castration pliers
- Elastrator banding plier and rubber rings
- Chastity devices (plastic, metal, predicament spikes)
- ACE bandages
- CoFlex/cohesive bandages
- Hospital restraints
- Cervical neck brace/collar
- Surgical pincettes
- Medical rolling tray
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Needle hammer
GENERAL KINKY TOYS AND EQUIPMENTS - Nipple clamps (clover, tweezer, alligator, C-clamps, stretchers, etc.)
- Clothespins and clamps
- Suction kits (cupping, nipple, cock)
- Vampire gloves
- Leather CBT parachutes (adjustable, spiked)
- Weights
- Ball stretchers
- Cock rings (silicone, vibrating)
- Skin scratchers
- Pinwheels
- Vajankle
- Feather ticklers
- Venus 2000 Milking Machine with multiple attachments
- Hitachi Magic Wand with multiple attachments
- Bullet vibrators
- Numbing cream
- Remote control shock collar
- IcyHot, Tigerbalm, etc.
- Candles
- Water-based, oil-based, and silicone lubricants
- Lube shooters
- Stirrups
- CBT boards
- Ball crusher boards (electric and non)
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Knives
GODDESS PAMPERING ANS SLAVERY SERVICE - Pedicure kits (files, nail polish remover, nail polishes, buffers)
- Foot spa
- Massage oils and lotions
- Kitchen and kitchen supplies
- Humiliator gag with toilet bowl cleaner, duster, human ashtray attachments
- Knee pads
- Cleaning supplies
- Aprons and maid outfits
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Portable massage bed
HYGIENE AND SANITATION - Disposable gloves
- Disposable absorbent drop cloths/puppy pads
- Disposable latex and polyurethane toy covers
- 70% isopropyl alcohol
- Cavicide and other medical-grade cleaners
- Lysol
- Dish soap
- Betadine
- Bandaids, gauze, Neosporin ointment
- Paper towels
- Biohazard sharps disposal containers And for your convenience…
- Gated parking and private entryway
- Bathroom, shower, towels, and toilet
- Personal hygiene supplies (soap, shampoo, mouthwash)
- Refrigerator with water bottles and ice
- Coffee and tea
- Countless mirrors
- Sound system for music
- Air conditioning and heating
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Dimmer lights
Please note that this part may get updated from time to time as I add on more possibilities. xx
COVID AND CLEANING PROTOCOL
With pandemic becoming the new normal, I’ve taken a couple extra precautions to ensure our safety during scene. Please note that these protocols may change from time to time given the changing landscape of COVID – this protocol was written with the spread of Omicron in mind, but as new variants arise and science adapts, I may change and update to match new information.
I am fully vaccinated, and my last booster shot was on November 11th. I have started taking PCR tests again every week.
As of January 2022, my current COVID protocol is such: - I require full vaccination that is recent up to eight months of the last shot. If you got a shot earlier this year and more than six months has passed, please consider getting a booster shot. Boosters are recommended by the CDC and pretty much all major medical establishments to receive full efficacy of vaccination, and current studies suggest that a booster may have some protection against Omicron.
- I am not sessioning with unvaccinated people, and this is not up for debate. I am regularly in contact with people who are at higher risk for COVID and would prefer not to increase the possibility of transmission to them.
- Should you pass all these measures, I am still allowing maskless sessions. Masked sessions are also available upon request.
My cleaning protocol remains much the same as when I started, which largely means hospital-grade disinfectant and many, many, many gloves. I knowingly engage in activities that result in some amount of biohazard waste, and my stringency in cleaning reflects that. - For general toy and furniture cleaning, I use 70% isopropyl alcohol or hydrogen peroxide on anything that may have been touched.
- Cavicide is used on anything in contact with bodily fluids, following instructions to leave it on for over five minutes for full disinfection.
- All insertables are covered with prophylactics. I always thoroughly wash any used insertables with dish soap after use, regardless of how clean it may appear, and then follow up with Cavicide.
- Clean towels are placed on all furniture before use, including carpets. Should any kind of messy play occur, I use large disposable blue puppy pads on top of the towel. Should the play be extra messy, I use an extra large disposable tarp underneath it all.
- I change gloves religiously. Seriously, nobody wants dirty glove residue smeared all over the furniture. This can mean many pairs of gloves during one session.
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Any trash that would be considered biohazard is immediately tossed after the session. Should you have any question or suggestions about my pandemic protocol, I am open to discussion to improve my preventative measures. The only thing not up for discussion is vaccination status and negative COVID tests. x
Book your session now. XoXo Never yours, Helena locke
GODDESS HELENALOCKE.
