Hi, I’m Tav (nickname), 24M. I live in Germany and am currently studying physics. I’m analytical, introspective, and deeply curious about the world, whether that’s exploring fictional universes, understanding human behavior, or optimizing mechanics in games. I value clarity, reflection, and meaningful connection over superficial interaction.
I identify as gay-oriented aromantic and asexual. I don’t experience sexual or romantic attraction in the usual sense, but I do experience sensual and aesthetic attraction. I’m drawn to people’s presence, movement, voice, and the way they think. I enjoy physical closeness and affection, but sex itself isn’t central to intimacy for me. I have a high libido, though it is driven by trust, emotional connection, and psychological dynamics rather than physical triggers.
I’m looking for a D/s relationship as part of a deeper, long-term, ideally lifetime partnership. Emotional closeness, trust, and consistency matter more to me than protocol or obedience for its own sake. I submit when I feel safe, understood, and genuinely connected. I want a partner who can hold me, guide me, and cultivate a bond where I can fully relax and be myself, someone I can lean on emotionally and who values my needs as much as their own.
What I enjoy in D/s:
Bondage & restraint: Feeling held and safely ***, with attention to psychological impact rather than spectacle.
Hypnosis: Being guided mentally, experiencing focus shifts and trance, and enjoying altered perception. I don’t expect my partner to have former experience as a hypnotist though.
Gear & collars: Wearing something chosen by my partner enhances connection and submission. Collars and cuffs carry strong psychological meaning.
Power & size dynamics: I enjoy feeling mentally or physically overwhelmed by a trusted partner, always within safe and negotiated boundaries. This part is entirely optional but i wanted to mention it.
Emotional and physical closeness: Cuddling, holding, being comforted, and shared vulnerability are central to intimacy for me.
I’m open to exploring other kinks that fit the emotional tone of the dynamic but not anything involving ***, cutting, bodily fluids, stenches, excrements, puncturing, ***, sissification, third parties, or public play. I also don’t like roleplay, as I prefer a grounded and genuine experience. I have an irrationally strong aversion to formal wear.
What I want from a Dom:
A steady, patient, emotionally present partner.
Someone who can read and respond to my needs, recognize my mental and emotional state, and guide me thoughtfully. I want a Dom who can form their own perspective on what might be best for me, suggest directions, and challenge me at times, always within a framework of trust and open discussion.
I want a partner who enjoys seeing their submissive grow, thrives on emotional intimacy, and appreciates power and influence as part of care, using authority responsibly and with attention to the impact of their decisions. Decisions are subject to reflection and negotiation, and my boundaries are respected while remaining flexible as the dynamic evolves.
Exclusivity in emotional connection is important.
A partner with whom we can communicate openly at all times, even when the D/s dynamic is in effect.
Someone in my own age range, 20–34, ideally living in Europe.
What I offer:
Loyalty, openness, and depth. When I trust someone, I give myself fully, emotionally, mentally, and physically. I’m attentive, reflective, and capable of clear communication. I thrive when connection and understanding are mutual.
I care a lot about privacy, which is why I will only share personal information, including pics, once I know you for a bit. Once we know each other better, I have no problem showing my face.
