Please don’t DM me without reading this, it’s VERY apparent when people only look at the pictures/haven’t read it. I’m not for everyone, if you haven’t read this first I will just ignore you/block anyone who doesn’t bother.
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Note: Following an influx of DM’s I apparently have to flag the following:
• I will need to get to know someone for weeks/months, I’m not a quick fuck. It takes time to build my trust and earn my submission
• Not interested in online only friends/swapping pictures or helping you cheat on your partner
• I do not want anything long distance or one off, I want simple and accessible so please don’t message me about your upcoming visit to Dublin
• In terms of age gap, I max out at guys/gals around 10 years older and 10 years younger
• DON’T ask for my phone number or Snap, if I want to talk to you somewhere else I will offer
• Like many on here I have ADHD which means I can get a little overwhelmed and insecure at times and life can be a little crazy between work and a young family. It also means I’ve an incredibly high sex drive with the right people. I’m not straight forward so if that’s not something you’re comfortable with stay out of my DM’s.
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ABOUT ME:
I’m a BBW with a variety of kinky interests my tastes and needs are somewhat fluid and contrasting at times, both rough and the gentle. In general I’m easy to talk to, understanding and have a great, if sometimes inappropriate, sense of humour.
I’m relatively new to the kink scene, out of a 25 year vanilla relationship/marriage since February 2023 and I have been enjoying exploring. While I’m not really keen on monogamy, I’ve no interest in one off hookups, the friend part of FWB is important.
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MY KINKY SIDE:
I am submissive sexually with men, more sensual/kinky with women but open to some D/s fun. I am not very submissive at all in my day to day life, so my submission is very much kink/sex based. My submissive side reflects a desire to let go in a safe environment so building trust is important to me. I’m not much of a masochist and don’t have a big threshold for pain physically or emotionally but I’m open to trying things at my pace, start slow and build up the submission with trust.
I also have a sensual/hedonistic side. I like a balance, my preference is that not every sexual encounter be hardcore/rough play. I’m quite sensory and tactile with a wicked oral fixation so I adore kissing, cuddles and affection. I like going on dates / hanging out outside of play (I pay my own way, as should you) because some sort of friendship/relationship outside of play is important to me.
As a sub I am highly motivated by reward, pleasure and praise. As a hopeless perfectionist I don’t like to say “no” and prefer to avoid having to safe word during play unless something is really wrong so I negotiate limits and potential play in advance.
I’m not a bratty sub, I enjoy doing a good job and as such I don’t respond well to criticism/punishment (especially orgasm denial), I’d rather be rewarded with something others might deem a punishment, like spanking or other bdsm play for doing a good job. If I feel I’ve “failed” or get a punishment for an arbitrary or fabricated reason just to assert dominance I tend to withdraw so I avoid this type of play. I will always do my best to comply with my Dom’s request so if I say I can’t do something there’s a good reason and it may upset me not to be able to do it.
Generally I like being restrained so pinned down or with actual restraints, light rough stuff like slapping/spanking, spitting, grabbing throat (not choking) or pulling hair, I like toys, etc and wax play too. One area I’ve yet to explore is threesomes/multiple partners at once. It’s of interest but requires a lot of trust so I’m waiting for the right scenario there.
I believe pleasure should be reciprocal, I adore giving pleasure but I do expect that enthusiasm to be a two way street. I’ll match my play partner’s energy for pleasing me.
It’s disheartening to see the number of so called “dom’s” who seem to think the role of a dom is simply to be rude and demand pictures or pleasure without taking responsibility for and fulfilling the physical and emotional needs of their sub, including aftercare and respecting limits.
I like to be treated well and have a weakness for someone who understands when to spoil me and when to play rough and when to be kind and caring. As a woman I get periods, shocking I know, if you’re the type who thinks that means it’s the fun stops that week, please don’t waste my time.
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DM’s:
So if after all that you still want to chat to me please introduce yourself and get to know me a little. Please use the codeword **STAR** in your DM subject to show you’ve read this. Everyone else is getting ignored or blocked because I’m tired of copy and paste intros.
It should go without saying don’t aggressively DM assuming you have my submission or that it’s ok to be be disrespectful/demanding, I will just ignore you. My submission, trust and respect needs to be earned, show me you are a decent human first. If you can do that, I’m open to meeting new people.
I only talk to people who are willing to share a face pic (privately is fine) it’s important I know who I’m talking to, Dublin, and indeed Ireland, is small after all. I will of course share a picture of my face privately too.
Please don’t message me if you have a blank profile or a gallery of memes/pics of someone else if you’re not willing to share one of your face when you introduce yourself and some sense of who you are. I get an overwhelming amount of messages so please be cognisant of that when you message that I may not always respond quickly or at all if you haven’t bothered to read this and use the code word above.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
87% Submissive
81% Rope bunny
76% Non-monogamist
75% Degradee
70% Voyeur
63% Experimentalist
59% Exhibitionist
58% Masochist
55% Vanilla
53% Primal (Prey)
13% Switch
6% Brat
6% Slave
1% Pet
0% Ageplayer
0% Boy/Girl