Hmm i think im seeing the point moreso of why it may be an indication of a lack of understanding. In my own opinion how they may refer to themselves and wish to be referred to is up to them but as a whole female dominants are Dommes. Its important for some people to retain that identity yknow?
Thank you all for your responses, I see a lot of your points and agree with many but not all.
I weren't trying to whine at all here I think my issue more has been with the fact that this reputation still follows me despite being on here several months, being very involved in the chat and becoming a Read more… rather regular face, also I have been at this scene for a while for someone my age due to very extraneous circumstance.
I have been regularly practicing kink and reading and learning for 2 and a half years now, I've had several subs both casual and serious ranging from 36 to my own age and @KinkedAskew I have offered to three separate subs 21+ experiences and comfort that they themselves remarked after I ended our play was above and beyond that which they received from Doms twice my age.
I am quite satisfied with seeing everyone's opinions and reasons for them actually and I'm glad I was taken seriously. I continue to strive to learn and improve I had just at the point I posted this become infuriated with people who were much older than me but had far less experience than me talking down to me.
Seems like one of those things between the old guard and new guard. I find that Domme/Dom is more a preference thing and id have never considered it part of the basics even though when I started reading into the lifestyle every book recommended to me by members of the old guard approached it with Read more… the attitude of "Dommes are females and if she calls herself a Dom shes obviously so green she doesn't understand what it means". I think part of the reason that Domme even came to be is that the further back in the history of the scene you go the less and less dominant women you find and the more need there was to create for themselves their own identity within the scene. To clarify i mean far far back in the scene to some of the origins of many of the modern dynamics in the late 1800s early 1900s.