Kinky Sex

Kinky sex for kinky people

How do you introduce kinky sex with your partner?

I only enjoy kinky sex when it includes my fetish, is that healthy?

Kinky sex for kinky people

There are plenty of ways to describe the act of sex, but 'fucking' is our favourite. There's just something hot, erotic and sexy about it; it conjures images of late nights and moody lights and basking in a deliciously decadent afterglow. We're fans of getting to the point without beating around the bush, and 'fuck' encapsulates that perfectly.

There's a common myth that the word Fuck originated as an acronym, and stands for 'Fornication Under Consent of the King'. This is almost certainly bullshit. As Melissa Mohr says in her excellent book Holy Shit: A Brief History of Swearing, the word 'fuck' is of Germanic origin, related to Dutch, German and Swedish words for 'to strike' and 'to move back and forth'. There's certainly something Germanic about the inherently direct and straightforward nature of the word, but the act of fucking is absolutely universal.

How do you introduce kinky sex with your partner?

So you’re in a relationship, and you’re into kinky sex, but you’re not quite sure if your partner is into this sort of thing, what to do? The answer is simple. TALK ABOUT IT! It’s understandable if you’re nervous, especially if kink is new for you. Breathe and start small. 1. Watch an erotic film together that includes some scenes of the sexy activities you want to explore. 2. If you’re into a bit of pain and funishment, try some light biting or scratching the next time you fuck. Of course, if you do this, check in with your partner - use some sexy talk to make sure they are happy with what you’re doing. 3. Talk about it before you fuck. This could be a deal breaker for some or a hot sigh of relief for others. The thing is you’ll never know until you ask, so just ask! However, you decide to talk to your ‘assumed vanilla partner’ about it just remember to be open and accept what they say. Kink is not for everyone, and you certainly can’t force it upon someone if they don’t want it. Keep an open mind, they may be willing to try things out, and they could end up being into things you both never imagined!

What makes kinky sex?

What is kinky to one person is run of the mill for another. Don’t worry about it! Enjoy what you enjoy and if you feel it’s kinky (and that’s a good thing) then that’s all that matters. Consensual kinky sex is as basic or extreme as you want it to be. No one can judge your sex life other than you and the other people you share it with.

How do you keep sex kinky?

It’s easy to get into a rut, even if you start out with an exciting, kinky sex life. If you keep doing the same things over and over it can get a bit boring. So change things up. Look out for new things you fancy trying and after discussing with your partner, give it a go. Make sure you keep up communication with your partner/s and be willing to change and try new things. That’s how you keep sex spicy over time.

I only enjoy kinky sex when it includes my fetish, is that healthy?

If you’re happy with your sex life, you find it satisfying and fun then it’s totally fine that you need your fetish to be satisfied. However, if you feel it adds a pressure to your sex life or you feel you’re out of control then maybe there’s a problem and you should seek help from a medical professional.

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