Molly's BDSM Tips | How to Throw a Nyotaimori Party

This week, our Molly is back with some helpful advice for one FET member who'd like to help his partner live out her nyotaimori fantasy. Discover what Molly suggests.

 
Dear Molly,
My partner has long had a nyotaimori fantasy. She says the idea of being used like that by a group of people is a huge turn-on. She says other aspects would also make it hot for her, like people talking over her, about her, and some sexual touching once all the food is gone. I want to arrange a nyotaimori party so she can live out her fantasy, but I'm not sure how to go about it. Can you help? 
The Arranger.

Dear The Arranger, 
Oh, a nyotaimori party sounds like a delicious fantasy (excuse the pun) and one you could easily turn into a reality. Sometimes our fantasies can be such that trying them out for real can be a challenge, but in this case, they're entirely doable, making for a fun and exciting prospect.  
 

What is nyotaimori?

The accepted definition is basically; the Japanese tradition of eating sushi off a perfectly still, naked woman's body. Nyotaimori is also referred to as body sushi or naked sushi.

The origins of nyotaimori date back to the Edo period in Japan, where sex workers performed various activities with food and drink. However, it only became part of popular culture in the 1980s when sex establishments started to use body sushi as an exotic Japanese attraction.  

Nyotaimori is a form of sitophilia where participants get aroused by erotic situations involving food. For some, what's arousing is having food on their skin and being on display. For others, it's more connected to objectification and acting as a serving platter. Of course, it can be a mixture of both that makes it hot to someone. Being the one eating off someone has its attractions; the sense of power, the other person being an object, etc., are all arousing elements.  

Traditionally, nyotaimori involves the woman being the serving platter, but this is 2022, and gender doesn't matter as long as everyone consents. Make it work for you.  
 

Finding a venue for your naked sushi party

The first thing you want to decide is the venue because it'll dictate many other aspects - like how many people to invite and what supplies you might need.  

There's absolutely no reason why you can't have a nyotaimori experience at your home, especially the first time. It'll keep the cost to a minimum and place you and your partner in an environment where you feel comfortable. Remember, you can always start small with just a couple of friends and then expand it in the future if you all have a great time. However, if hosting it at home isn't possible, you'll need to look at other venues. 

First, think about friends. Could someone host in their home for you? If not, then look around for any local dungeons or sex clubs. Small private dungeons will probably be a more affordable option if you have one in your town or city, and you can usually hire for a couple of hours to half or full days. Sex clubs will probably be more expensive unless they have a small room you can hire separately from the rest of the club. 

There's also the hotel option, which is possibly the best other option if you can't have it at home or a friend's house. I'd suggest using a decent-sized hotel so that they're not bothered or don't notice that you have guests in your room. Anywhere too small might make that a bit trickier, and while it's usually not against the rules to have guests in your room, it might be too obvious and therefore uncomfortable for everyone involved.  

You'll also want to ensure your partner doesn't get cold, so ensure that whatever space you use is warm enough for them to lay naked for a while. It's better to have your guests slightly too warm than having your partner shivering and cold, as that's likely to impact their enjoyment of the event.  
 

Who to invite to your nyotaimori party

Once you've decided on the venue, you can now think about who you might invite. I'd suggest that at first, you'll probably want to keep it to a relatively small and select group of people who'll be comfortable with such an event. Maybe six people, plus you and your partner, would be a good idea, but four people would also work. The venue you choose may dictate numbers, but you don't want it to feel cramped, and you'll want to have enough people to create an atmosphere. 
 

Choosing supplies and body sushi

Again, the venue will have an impact on this. You'll probably have most things to hand if you're at home, but if you use a hotel or other venue, you'll need to plan the things you'll need to take.  

Regardless of the venue, you'll need to think about the food/sushi and drinks. I suggest you don't want people to get drunk as sex/kink play and alcohol tend not to be great partners. You'll also need implements for eating, for example, chopsticks, but maybe some forks, napkins, and other food for anyone who doesn't like sushi.  Also, think about what your partner might need to lay on and maybe something they might want to wear or wrap up in at the end.  
 

Tell your naked sushi party guests what to expect

It's vital to ensure your guests understand what they're invited to. You don't want anyone to be uncomfortable because they didn't understand or were surprised to find themselves being offered food from your partner's naked body. Explain to your guests what your partner finds sexy about the scenario and what they might want to do if they feel like it. Be clear about what sexual touching could occur and plan out how they might ask if it's OK to do something. Maybe allowing your guests to direct all questions to you would make your partner feel like an object in a way that would turn them on.  

Talk all that through with your partner, and then share as much as possible with your guests. That way, everyone will understand what to expect and make for a fun and happy nyotaimori experience that everyone enjoys.  
 

Plan the ending

While this might sound weird (but it's also essential), if, for example, in your partner's fantasy, everyone leaves so you both can have sex privately, plan for that and explain to your guests when they need to go. Likewise, tell your guests in advance if your partner imagines others being sexually involved (or numerous other possible options). Also, ensure you have time set aside at the end to look after your partner. They might want aftercare or take time to have a bath etc.
 

Have delicious fun!

The idea of living out a fantasy is for it to be fun, hot, and sexy. While having fun is the objective, if you plan your naked sushi event well, invite the right people and have it in a suitable space, you'll all be able to enjoy yourselves. Good planning will mean that on the day, you can both enjoy your nyotaimori experience fully and fulfill your partner's sexual desires. 
Good luck!
Molly x

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