3 Perks That Make FET VIP Worth It

Got that!

21 minutes ago, BlackDahlia_ said:

I’m seeing a lot of men complain about not paying for VIP because women are not responding. I don’t know - maybe change the way you speak to women if you want a reply.

Sometimes I get emojis, “hey, let’s make out”, “I’m the man of your dreams” Etc etc ugh

I’m seeing a lot of men complain about not paying for VIP because women are not responding. I don’t know - maybe change the way you speak to women if you want a reply.

the cost of premium is ridiculous. its not worth the money

Can you no longer spend points on premium membership, it's only offering me the option to buy VIP which is double the amount of points that premium used to cost

Not many matches for Dom woman near. Msg by scammers often.

You can no longer message people without a paid membership. This site is still rife with spam, bots, and professionals selling things. Until they fix those problems I don’t see the reason to join.

On 9/12/2025 at 10:48 AM, HatfieldMaster said:

I appreciate the issues that come with being bombarded with messages, but this is not the solution.
The message filters have always been there - it's just rare for people to tweak them. And that's the problem - people will continue to fail to tweak them (which nullifies your point). And even if they do tweak them how are we (the men) supposed to know that they have - are you expecting us to click on the females profile every day on the off chance that they've changed their settings. This was clearly not thought about.

There are plenty of better/more sensible approaches to reduce the amount of messages females receive, eg.
* Limit number of first messages men can send to say for example, 3 a day. That way you stop the scatter-gun approach that some men take, messaging every female they come across, and people will focus on the people they are more interested in.
* They could even ask females during signup whether to prioritise messages by age or distance, and set filters accordingly, because who wants to receive messages from people 100's or 1000's of miles away if they're here for in-person meets.

 

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! 😂🤣😂😭🤣😂

You actually think you have a point with that! 🤣🤣🤣 You actually think you "cracked the code" for online dating that makes males less restricted without making online dating a living Hell for women! 😂😂😂 You think you really figured it out, huh?! A dating site system that benefits males AND women??!!! Oh this is fucking hilarious. You are so detached from women's lived experiences, it's unreal. Gawd, please, please make your own dating platform and implement your "brilliant" ideas. Holy shit, please! 😂🤣😂🤣😂 I want to see your reaction when it goes how it actually will, lol. 

Even Premium sucks. Can only message once, until they decide to respond. Then, You can't even message most members because FET says they have message filters on

Everyone on this app r there for reson meet people and have any kind of fun right? So why most of people never reply or no even read the message I'm I wrong? Thanks

Really just another site people use to validate their physical attributes.

Most people on here are looking for someone that fits their fantasies perfectly. There no real connection to be had honestly I get more out of the free information you guys drop thats all

None fr 😆

This site has gifted me VIP/premium membership before. Gotta admit, as a woman who's only into other women, it didn't benefit me at all.

I already knew everything it was going to show me. Everyone who likes me is male, all the "spanks" are from males, all the looks on my profile are males, male male male. And while I am bisexual (but presently not dating males), none of those males revealed by premium are ever attractive to me. Not in terms of physical attraction or mental attraction judging by their profiles and activity).

And while it was nice to be able to message more women, this site still has the problem of not being widely known enough that when filtering for women local to you (even if you live in a large city) there aren't that many people worth messaging.

So yeah, VIP/premium doesn't really benefit women much.

The number of people on this thread that imagine their subscription buys them women explains *exactly* what the issue is.

Yes

2 hours ago, Xeromus said:

I paid for your subscription fee, got absolutely nothing for it, and your customer service completely ignored every ticket I wrote. Highly unmotivated to ever support this app financially again.

Yeah I feel you there. And half of the stuff that they are talking about in this post even is garbage. I can't make comments on more than half the pics posted.

Fetlife is better, more groups etc. Collarspace.com is low grade okay. Here is useless free but not worth the bucks.

I paid for your subscription fee, got absolutely nothing for it, and your customer service completely ignored every ticket I wrote. Highly unmotivated to ever support this app financially again.

Hi all, new to this site ! 💋

So true just a bunch of bs

It isn’t worth it bought a one week subscription and didn’t change a damn thing. Women on here either leave you on read, send you a default “no thanks” (minimal effort) or they are inactive members.

😇😇

I might upgrade to premium if the fake profiles ever get under control. 8 out of 10 of them aren't even real

I’m noticing that most of the complaints about this app are from men. Why do you gentlemen think that is? Yes the customer service is non existent (seriously horrendous) but over all I find Fet to be my ultimate playground. I’ve never paid for a subscription, I just upgrade when I get the points so spending money is not necessary at all. You’ll only have as much fun as you put into it. Complaining is a red flag for me, I’m here for fun not to hear men complain they can’t get the attention they feel they deserve. Try being positive and respectful in your first messages and I promise it’ll pay off.

Hmmmmm

A lot of lip service is given towards safety as an excuse to make everything a premium function but the site is largely useless if you're not a premium member and that's offensive.

The thing that really pisses me off is when you get someone who clicks ignores you,and you can't delete them so you never ever see their picture ever ever again! I want to right click and hide their photo from when members are online.It really is a pretty rubbish site to be honest.I've not met a real person from here in well over a year.Get enough points and become a member for 2 weeks and then you'll see there is no point in being a member.

There's literally no reason to pay for this website if you don't live in an area with people. I think it's kind of offensive how someone will show up in my search and then I'll be told oh you want to talk to this first..

I want to become a member please

I have considered subscribing to FET a few times now.. but then I remember that even as an unpaying number I see a lot of profiles on here that haven't been active for 3 months or 6 months or a year or sometimes even 2 years or more and then I asked myself why do I want to become a member of a site that doesn't remove people when they become inactive and there have been several times when I have gotten recommended matches and when you look at the profiles they have not been an active member for the same amount of time anywhere from 3 months to 2 years.. and I see a high volume of members who have a lot of things in their profile that aren't supposed to be in their profile.. things about financial interest or they put their email in their profile or their phone number or other things that are not allowed and then I wonder why aren't these people vetted better before they get into the membership.. and then I get reluctant and don't feel like becoming a VIP when I don't feel like I would be getting much benefit out of it.. I don't want to join and become a VIP if I'm going to get matched with people who have been inactive for up to 2 years or if I'm going to get more profiles of people who have things in there profile descriptions that aren't allowed.. and you also get a lot of people that are just posting that they are looking for long time relationships who aren't even into the kinky or fantasy lifestyle.. they're using this site as a normal dating site and it's not a normal dating site it seems to me like anybody who puts in long-term relationship in their profile description should not be allowed to join.. but that's just me.. I would love to join if I had a feeling that you were actually working to keep certain people off from the membership roles.. it seems like once you become inactive for over a month your profile should be dropped off of the membership.. and anybody who has an inactive profile shouldn't be matched with people who are looking or searching.. I just see a few holes in your membership process that concerned me and makes me wonder if I want to become a VIP..

August 11, Panoptic said:

Found 1 real woman on here in a year. With this new 10 year b.s. filter, i wouldnt have even found her, cause there's an 11 yr gap. And get this the site blocked her, when she is real, but leaves the other thousands of fakes up.

You are right. Happened to me I got banned for being underage (I'm 22) and then I had to verify but even that took weeks for no reason. Even when I complied to F*t it still took a while to confirm. It was frustrating but know F3t knows that I'm real so hopefully they don’t bother me again but even that's uncertain.

Whats good

Nice

Wish there were more Singaporeans on this app!

Looking for either a Lesbian, Trans or Non-Binary person to dominate me in Dublin.

I get both I guess

Looking for a sincere and kind gentleman to befriend. If you consider yourself a gentleman, please contact me! 😊

collect the points & get a free membership for couple weeks

Why so we can pay mor money for fakes and women who want money in some shape or form

1&3 is normal dating app pay to win features 2 is kind of between pointless and extra
And here i am saving up points for the 2 week premium by commenting in discussions because it’s the only thing left i can still do for points, just so i can sent messages aka the most basic feature
Some actual transparency would be nice

On 8/8/2025 at 10:57 PM, DaddyBone_ said:

What a scam, this sight is almost all scammers they won't get rid of it seems.

I would encourage everybody to leave a 1* review on their play store/app store because the owners have absolutely no interest in improving the site or improving user experience.

90% of the females don't even look at your messages so it's a massive waist

Why would anyone pay for an app that barely works lmao

4 minutes ago, aligurl80 said:

Exactly!!

And I meant people reading profiles in general before messaging

September 12, JonRain954 said:

Lol the only thing that would make me pay for this website is if the men started reading our profile and stopped messaging us 🤣

Exactly!!

1 minute ago, JonRain954 said:

lol not me having to pay for spanks in points now that I acquired premium I now have to send a gift with a like wtf is that. Just a joke. Especially with the amount of bots on here no thank you 🤣🤣🤣 I was better off not paying and just riding the free wave

Did use points to pay for it but still. It was a WASTE!!!

18 hours ago, DommeDelight said:

Have you contacted support with these suggestions? They’re good ideas. No point complaining if it’s not to the people who can change it. 

Of course, but honestly, the feeling I get from both the mods and customer support is that they don't give a s**t.

Customer Services denied that filters are being applied by default, and the Mods just try and shut down any discussion or complaints about the situation.

2 hours ago, hiramcouple said:

Single guys can read?

I assume they can read but choose not to and bother us anyway

3 hours ago, JonRain954 said:

Lol the only thing that would make me pay for this website is if the men started reading our profile and stopped messaging us 🤣

Single guys can read?

38 minutes ago, HatfieldMaster said:

I appreciate the issues that come with being bombarded with messages, but this is not the solution.
The message filters have always been there - it's just rare for people to tweak them. And that's the problem - people will continue to fail to tweak them (which nullifies your point). And even if they do tweak them how are we (the men) supposed to know that they have - are you expecting us to click on the females profile every day on the off chance that they've changed their settings. This was clearly not thought about.

There are plenty of better/more sensible approaches to reduce the amount of messages females receive, eg.
* Limit number of first messages men can send to say for example, 3 a day. That way you stop the scatter-gun approach that some men take, messaging every female they come across, and people will focus on the people they are more interested in.
* They could even ask females during signup whether to prioritise messages by age or distance, and set filters accordingly, because who wants to receive messages from people 100's or 1000's of miles away if they're here for in-person meets.

 

Have you contacted support with these suggestions? They’re good ideas. No point complaining if it’s not to the people who can change it. 

1 hour ago, DommeDelight said:

Unfortunately things like this are needed for us girls to not be overwhelmed with contact. Keeps us safe until we tweak them to our own settings. I have mine very tight and still the amount of contact can be overwhelming at times. Frustrating for the guys but helps so many of the girls find their feet calmly.

I appreciate the issues that come with being bombarded with messages, but this is not the solution.
The message filters have always been there - it's just rare for people to tweak them. And that's the problem - people will continue to fail to tweak them (which nullifies your point). And even if they do tweak them how are we (the men) supposed to know that they have - are you expecting us to click on the females profile every day on the off chance that they've changed their settings. This was clearly not thought about.

There are plenty of better/more sensible approaches to reduce the amount of messages females receive, eg.
* Limit number of first messages men can send to say for example, 3 a day. That way you stop the scatter-gun approach that some men take, messaging every female they come across, and people will focus on the people they are more interested in.
* They could even ask females during signup whether to prioritise messages by age or distance, and set filters accordingly, because who wants to receive messages from people 100's or 1000's of miles away if they're here for in-person meets.

 

August 10, HatfieldMaster said:

Even if you pay for VIP or premium you still can't message anyone outside of +/- 10 years your own age, due to the stupid age based filters they automatically apply on new accounts.

Site is run by amateurs. Development is rushed, poorly thought out, not tested.

Communication with user-base is non-existent.

Customer service is terrible.

Unfortunately things like this are needed for us girls to not be overwhelmed with contact. Keeps us safe until we tweak them to our own settings. I have mine very tight and still the amount of contact can be overwhelming at times. Frustrating for the guys but helps so many of the girls find their feet calmly.

1 hour ago, PleaseMsPriya said:

I’d never pay for this site! Can 100% guarantee it would be the same results: interacting daily to only find 1 or 2 subs every few months who are genuine and local. Who serve and eventually ghost then I start all over again.

That’s a real shame. Maybe the local demographic. I get overwhelmed with the amount of subs making contact every week. Not enough Dommes about for them all!

August 8, sxabeast said:

He's right and everyone else are flakes or not looking.
This is the only dating I've never got a date on, despite premium for free which is the only way to get your moneys worth.

You could try putting more info into your profile. That may help entice the kind of people you’re looking for. Tell people more about yourself to generate more interest. Variety of photos etc can help. Profiles get lots of dates if they have the right content and connect with others.

August 8, DaddyBone_ said:

What a scam, this sight is almost all scammers they won't get rid of it seems.

Do you report them? I hear people talking about scammers, and lots of subs talking of Dommes asking for financial contributions, but no one actually reports them so they can be removed. Every social app or website needs people to report the problems for them to be removed. Be a helper 😉

Oh wow.  Thx for the heads guys.  I was hoping maybe, just maybe this site would be different.

Fuck, its as if the entire world turned into thieves overnight.  And stop calling them scammers.  They are from hell and they steal.  Scammer is too nice.  Only 2 types of devils on this planet.  Child molesters and thieves.