Since I'm feeling generous, I divulge what the Dating coaches don't know, or wont share about ghosting/blocking.

Some men "ghost" or block so they can lay pipe with another woman higher up the roster. If you allow that fella to bounce back, you're letting him know that you're ignorant of the Read more… GAME.

If Mr. Wonderful contacted you via dating site, and you found him attractive. No less than 30 to 40 other women also found him attractive. Some contacted him, while he pursued the rest. At this point in the story, women allow their emotions and excitement for a new man, blind them of basic male biological nature.

That dude is not ghosting because he's scared, intimidated, or can't manage his time. His decision is based on the woman he finds most attractive.

I realize many are gullible and assume men are seeking commitment and marriage. DO NOT believe that BS, most men (especially men considered high value/attractive) don't seek commitment and marriage until they're way into their forties. Women seek commitment, but many men under 40 are seeking the juice.

Dudes will obfu***e the truth while making plans for "the next one". I realize this might make some butt hurt, but as long as a fella can milk the cow for free, he'll continue to follow his lust and denigrate any semblance of commitment to a never arriving future date.

Follow the lyrics of Jennifer Hudson's song, and "Think Like A Man". That means you have to devise a strategy that helps a man fall into commitment. Which is extremely difficult to accomplish as long as you keep your legs open.

Plan accordingly.

Understand that the majority of women who enjoy the perks of a D/s or FLR are not dominant. Less that 5% of the global population of women may be considered genuine Dominant. That's not to imply you can not still enjoy the many benefits of FLR with those that are not sincerely Domina. I've learned Read more… in my 40+ years in this space, that one disposition that attracts a real Domme, is if you express a service-oriented attitude and personality. Good luck to you.

I'll have to agree with many of the posters here that stated age is just a number. Unless players are seeking a LTR, placing an arbitrary number on who's proficient for BDSM is a limitation. Back when I was single, many of my Dommes were 10 to 20 years older. I would have never developed a better Read more… skillset and competency as a submissive if I only associated with those in my own age range. Age is actually meaningless, and a limitation to avoid older more experienced partitioners. I may be mistaken, but it's possible some use age to define who they may be attractive to. There's also a process of growth in this journey that may be arrested if Doms/subs never seek experienced players. Experience matters, a lot.

Basically it's because they're uneducated. A lack of knowledge always drives a sense of *** that their partner may reject their desires for a BDSM relationship. They should take the time to learn that there are a number of techniques to communicate their intent effectively. These two books each Read more… share detailed and constructive approaches to help eliminate ***.
"Uniquely Rika" A Practical No-Nonsense Approach written by Ms. Rika
"Dominant Female Submissive Male" written by Sofia James