He's an asshole. Move on. His loss.
Be glad that he showed his true self in the first meeting.
It is best to do video calls asap before a meet.
People's imaginations are powerful things and gaps will be filled by our desires, so a video call and recently taken profile shots shows both parties who Read more… you are dealing with physically.
As previous posters have said. Block him and move on and learn from this experience.
It's scary sometimes being venerable and showing the real you. But show who you are early on before you get emotionally involved.
You're a good looking girl.
On to the next !
He will be but a very brief footnote in your life that I promise you will forget about.
There are unpleasant people everywhere. Fact of life unfortunately. So pull up your knickers, stick your chin out and let another fella enjoy your company.

I'm not a Dr ... a psychologist, just someone with life experience.
i can't cum unless I'm mentally stimulated (connected DEEPLY in the moment of f**king). I don't know why ... perhaps I've seen to much porn? The physical act is not enough. Have to have some kinky mental stimulus to accompany the Read more… physical act. And to be honest when that accompaniment kicks in ... the physical gets pushed to the background and I only see the reactionary output of my play partner.
And then I cum.
Why say all this?
It's obvious that the orgasm is linked to how you feel ... the moment.
Now I've only just realised that my play partner thinks in a similar way.
I'm a very average bloke physically yet my partner looks at me like I'm some Chippendale. She turns into a soppy, doe eyed, giggly cuddle monster after f**king. So I'm doing something right.
The big take away here is ... It's not what I look like. It's what I've said leading up to and what I've done during.
What's my point?
Connections take time to flourish. As a reasonably intelligent, funny fucker with very high emotional intelligence, the number of unanswered messages or disinterested responses to thoughtful messages sent is astounding.
To cum ... you say you need a deep connection.
The only way your going to find a deep connection in here, is by looking past the average looking selfie and letting a conversation develop or yes being incredibly lucky and being struck by Cupid's kinky twin's "Zapper".
So you need to put more effort in.
You're not alone. Probably most women on here expect the guy to initiate contact, entertain them from the off. Does this happen in the real world? Sometimes yes. Why? Because your presented with expression ... and the guy sees a reaction and positive feedback from things said ... this feeds confidence and off it's goes.
In here ... your dealing with just words on a screen and a 2d selfie. Your expectations are unnatural and you're setting yourself up for failure by expecting to be entertained off the bat.
If the initial hello message isn't to your liking. Be polite and briefly say how you'd like to be spoken to and ask a question. If they respond like a twat then bin them.
A guy (or girl) has shown interest in you. They've taken a risk. Exposed themselves in an emotional sense by saying hello. And after a good number of unanswered messages they are probably not being their natural selves in order to get your attention and say something stupid.
My advice .. give the average looking guy a chance and show some interest and encourage Joe Average by asking them questions and drawing the real them out of their shell.
You might surprise yourself 😉

I think I have yes. An old partner who was more level headed than myself at the time questioned my feelings and suggested it was just that ... limerance.
Limerance is all about you. It's selfish. How am I viewed by that person. It's an ideal. Limerance is like a drug... It's ***.
Love is about Read more… them. Wanting what is best for them regardless of your own feelings. Love is a bond that grows over time that drives you to think of others first. It's sacrifice.

What you seek does exist.
But it's hidden behind pay walls, badly written or non existent bio's. No profile pics or profile pics that at first glance don't register an interest. Poor opening lines. Expectations of the other party finding you. Manipulative players who know what to say clogging up Read more… your time.
I think deep down most people are kinky on some level and you can find the gentle dynamic you seek outside of this app in the real world. Go to different clubs anything and everything whether they interest you not. Meet people face to face having no expectations... just to chat and mingle.
And my advice .. target some of the quieter ones. 😉 The quiet ones are thinkers... sprinkle a little time and patience with them and watch them grow.

Interesting question. Answer is giving pleasure. Pressing buttons and seeing reactions 😁.
However some women want to be used I've discovered. That's their kink. So even if my preferred kink is to give pleasure... it's necessary to take and release in order to fulfil the requirements of my play Read more… partner.
That was a head scratcher.
It's taken me a while to accept that some women want to be used as a play toy.

If you don't feel you've made a horrible mistake by breaking up... that nauseous feeling of panic.
I think you already know deep down you've made the correct decision.

No you're not damaged.
I'd suggest perhaps HE himself has experienced a traumatic experience growing up and unfortunately he's suffering perhaps a mental disorder as a result.
Your all good 👍.