Married bifemme in ENM marriage. HSV-1 positive. Please don't shame. Most recent testing 5/14/26 negative for HIV,HPV, hepatitis, syph/gon/trich.

ALSO If you like Trump, go away quickly from me. I'm not the gal for you. l am a very liberal. Let's leave it at that.

I am a switch but I am sub-leaning and generally only prefer to dominate women. I have a rather ***ful personality in real life, but in the bedroom, I prefer to let someone else be in charge. That said, the person in charge has to prove to me that they deserve to be in charge of me. I have been called an Alpha Submissive multiple times.

When it comes to Doms, I tend to lean more toward guys who are at least 5'8" or taller, and I like guys with huskier builds. No offense thin guys, I feel like I could break you.

Prefer daddy dom types.
I'm also judgey about spelling and grammar so if you dm me and you type like a ***ager replacing the word you with a u, I will likely ignore. That's my ADHD and autism kicking in, not going to apologize for that.

I have settled in the past. I am not willing to do that again, so if that takes longer to find what I want/need in the D/s lifestyle, so be it.
That being a boyfriend/dominant ...other people can do it, so why can't I?

Vanilla me: pet owner currently of one ancient dog . Love cats just can't have any with the dog. I have eclectic music tastes and I like pretty much everything except chamber music and house. I'm not very athletic but I will kayak and hike on occasion. Love the beach but kind of hate the sand lol.

tickling, spitting, belts around my neck, non-ej bodily fluids, needles, knives, any purposeful breaking of skin, anything having to do with creatures that cannot consent or minor humans, race play (that said I have no problem playing with anyone of any race, I don't believe in fetishisizing based on race)