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just here for the forums and chat.
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Maybe just tell them your not vanilla, then let them ask follow up questions.
Their questions would give you a good idea of how much to share.
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I don’t feel ready for a relationship, so don’t want to risk getting involved atm
I’d love to have a good sleep routine, but I work nights to be around for my children. They are my world and give me everything I need. I have been wondering if loosing my dad recently could have been the shock that woke me up, an meeting a genuinely nice guy just allowed it to surface. I’d really Read more… appreciate chatting, feel free to dm thank you.
Had emotionally unavailable parents, so I’m not an overly friendly person in general, but I’m a people pleaser to my people. an I’m still trying to work out who I am after completely loosing myself in my ex.
After the split I got colder to the world, I thought the part of me Read more…that could feel for new people was dead, I lost a lot of friends and my circle grew smaller, partially due to covid to be fare.
My kids are still young and adjusting and I don’t feel ready for a relationship.
As I started to heal I grew more interested in BDSM, and reading the posts on here has helped me feel less alone, and I’ve been content.
As usual I checked my messages one last time before I went to sleep, he didn’t have a profile picture due to work, but sent one with a pretty basic message. he was cute and we chatted till late, it was pretty flirty for a while, an we planned coffee.
But the closer it got the more right it felt, I couldn’t wait. Last week the night before coffee I gave in and asked him to meet me that night, as I rushed to get ready the self doubt kicked in an I was Fighting the urge to run away.
The second I saw him my brain silenced an it felt so natural to step into the arms of a complete stranger and kiss him.
That night laying in his arms felt like home, and fixed parts of me I didn’t think possible.
I spent a couple of days dumb, got lost in the fantasy.
But reality is he is newly divorced and we entered into this With the understanding we both wanted a physical connection only.
I spent a day coming to my senses and sent him a message yesterday letting him know things had changed for me, and we said goodbye.
Now I’m lost, I don’t know what to do.
I still don’t feel ready for a relationship but looking for a play partner now doesn’t feel like it would be enough, and what do I put in my profile now??
It sounds like you are grieving, and as one member pointed out, you need time to Read more… grieve properly. I wouldn't say completely cut off the possibility of intimacy, but it's fair to say that you're not ready to pursue it, and spending some time in grief counseling, sorting out how you feel about the ending of your relationship, and how the loss of your dad plays into these things is a very solid step in the right direction.
I lost my mother at the end of last year and whilst I had been expecting it it still effects you in ways you aren't prepared for. The sleep thing is terrible but I found a BBC podcast series which I found helped with that. Read more… (Helped not fix!).
And so many other things like tolerance levels reduced and not wanting to be around crowds.
And all that makes it difficult to make good decisions.
But gradually you do start to get things a bit clearer.
But would say you are already doing one of the main things needed to help and that is talking.
Xx
Moving forward you have to recognize when you may be acting too aloof/reserved/cold toward people - it worked when dealing with your parents, but acting this way all the time will cut you off from everyone... As you are finding out. But it will feel scary as hell to act any differently at this point. And its that fear you have to deal with. Start by doing something small or for a short time, that is out of your comfort zone.
Im always happy to chat, just DM.
☝🏻love this 100%
I’m very strong willed, an I don’t identify as a sub as I can’t ever see myself following orders.
I use brat/switch as I prefer to be put on my knees rather than ordered to do so.
For me it is more of a power struggle.
A strong man that can and chooses to pin you in a second is great for lots of Read more… people, but a strong man that knows he can have an instant win, yet chooses to play with his prey, and enjoy a bit of wrestling before he claims his win is more appealing for me. ☺️
In my opinion Brats - brat for funishment’s, or if they feel like you’re being a bit soft 😂
If at anytime you feel punishment is warranted, it’s not bratting, Play stops and communication begins.
Perfectly_Imperfect, Love your explanation I look forward to reading your repost ☺️
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