thefootslut Posted November 2, 2024 Got me thinking the other day, and I guess this more for those who’ve got partners, do you ever have vanilla sex? Or is it every time you have sex there is an element of kink involved?
TheBookCollector Posted November 2, 2024 Kink doesnt have to be involved in sex,i know at least one couple where sex isnt even a feature of thier relationship.
Deleted Member Posted November 2, 2024 Hi I think it depends on what he mood, the place, time, and how well you know your partner… for me I like to have a little bit of everything start with some vanilla the throw some kinkinees and play with the timing lol. I feel that is not necessarily to be kinky all the time jst play with the roles lol I think 😁
Hu**** Posted November 2, 2024 Sometimes you need to be quick and or discreet… if time is no limit… test the limits🤷🏽♂️ a pattern of vanilla can possibly leave one or both desiring more over time. Communication is always🗝
Sm**** Posted November 2, 2024 Vanilla is so plain. Looking for something interesting their is nothing to gain. I'm highjacking the crazy train. Right after I snatch up Jane
Sm**** Posted November 2, 2024 10 minutes ago, SmokingIce said: Vanilla is so plain. Looking for something interesting their is nothing to gain. I'm highjacking the crazy train. Right after I snatch up Jane Get it vanilla is plain. So I'm ***ing plain Jane and using the crazy train
Fu**** Posted November 2, 2024 "Vanilla" is a mindset. Doing freaky sh!t isn't what separates it from kink. You can limit me to missionary, oral sex, a $15 plastic vibrator, and my next-door neighbor's wife. The LAST word she will use to describe the experience will be "Vanilla" 😆 🤣 😂
al**** Posted November 2, 2024 36 minutes ago, Fun_ToyZ said: "Vanilla" is a mindset. Doing freaky sh!t isn't what separates it from kink. You can limit me to missionary, oral sex, a $15 plastic vibrator, and my next-door neighbor's wife. The LAST word she will use to describe the experience will be "Vanilla" 😆 🤣 😂 I agree with this statement, as a pleasure Dom good standard positions , the right energy, mindset can create mind-blowing kink induced experiences. That same environment where you are checking a box, the dynamic is off, and you are left feeling wanting more is what I describe as vanilla. I even consider some acts I need my subs to perform on me vanilla. But it has its place, helps me sleep, clears my head before a business deal, ect so....yea I take vanilla.
Deleted Member Posted November 2, 2024 I think its important to recognise vanilla is different for everyone, as is kink. What is level 10 for you might be someone else's 4. What is vanilla for you might not be for someone else. In my journey to kink I've actually realised I haven't had much vanilla experience which was interesting. When it comes to kink I think laying the foundations is important unless in very specific circumstances because going all in on a first time could very frightening, confusing, overwhelming. In fact it turns me off when I get messages here going right into tie ups, roughness, impact play etc all of which I'm actually okay with but it just screams 'I don't care what you want because I'm a Dom'. It basically sets the scene for me that the so-called dom doesn't care about my comfortableness or even is concerned with discussing my boundaries, nevermind adhering to them. I like the coffee metaphor - you can always add more sugar, but you can't take it out. So if you overdo kink before your partner is ready you could seriously traumatise them, make them *** you and all sorts of negativity. Your partner (or you) can always ask for more but it's much harder mentally to ask for less, especially in the beginning phases.
Sm**** Posted November 2, 2024 5 minutes ago, Kaserai said: I think its important to recognise vanilla is different for everyone, as is kink. What is level 10 for you might be someone else's 4. What is vanilla for you might not be for someone else. In my journey to kink I've actually realised I haven't had much vanilla experience which was interesting. When it comes to kink I think laying the foundations is important unless in very specific circumstances because going all in on a first time could very frightening, confusing, overwhelming. In fact it turns me off when I get messages here going right into tie ups, roughness, impact play etc all of which I'm actually okay with but it just screams 'I don't care what you want because I'm a Dom'. It basically sets the scene for me that the so-called dom doesn't care about my comfortableness or even is concerned with discussing my boundaries, nevermind adhering to them. I like the coffee metaphor - you can always add more sugar, but you can't take it out. So if you overdo kink before your partner is ready you could seriously traumatise them, make them *** you and all sorts of negativity. Your partner (or you) can always ask for more but it's much harder mentally to ask for less, especially in the beginning phases. You make a good point
Ma**** Posted November 2, 2024 I LOVE vanilla sex with partners where there is a deep romantic as well as sexual connection. Kink is amazing and allows for so much exploration and sensation. AND the kinds of physical connection that comes from gently going down on a partner or shared genital sex can seem quite bland in comparison but it is a different experience. For me kink is the focus of riding the “edge” it’s the extreme sport of physical connection. Vanilla sex is the profound walk in the woods.
an**** Posted November 2, 2024 I have both vanilla and kinky, it depends on my partner and her comfort level on that occasion. I would never put her into a position she was not comfortable with at that time. We both enjoy both but I feel it’s me into kinky a bit more.
Ma**** Posted November 2, 2024 Vanilla, or kinky. Like most things, depends on mood, avalable time, energy level, etc. Though there is probably kinky elements that sneak in, pehaps a hand on a throat, or a ***d orgasm here and there.
Ro**** Posted November 2, 2024 Kink must not be involved in every relationship you have but just in those that are ready for it .
Ur**** Posted November 3, 2024 There always kink Involved vanilla sex just doesn't cut it no more for us well my friend and I
Deleted Member Posted November 3, 2024 I think people make the mistake that assuming all sex that doesn’t involve extreme kinks or pushing limits is vanilla. But even slow deep missionary can be mind blowing as it’s all about mental and physical stimulation, For me a vanilla experience could be kinky to someone else, but then my kinky sex could be someone else’s vanilla. But what I do say is there needs to be some vanilla thrown in as it can allow reconnection and act like a palate cleanser to enjoy the kinkier experiences
Fr**** Posted November 3, 2024 I agree with you @Tattooedcurvybrat I really enjoy it when my pleasure dom brings us back to into each other after hours in bed in a slow deep missionary mind blowing position. We take each other’s breath in as we look into each other‘s eyes with heavy passion and connection for each other as I soak him while he fills me up at the same time.
ca**** Posted November 3, 2024 I kinda put the words...Kink and Vanilla to one side and then ask the question .. have you ever 'enjoyed' vanilla sex ? (whatever that means to you) and then possibly have you ever 'been able' to enjoy vanilla sex ? I have enjoy great vanilla sex (physically, mentally and emotionally)
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