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No****

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I know people who have met dynamic and life partners on here. I’ve had some encounters on here. And a dated a woman on here for 5 months.
4R****

4R****

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Some interesting comments on this thread and disappointing to see so many struggling. I’ve regularly got conversations going either on here or on other platforms with people I’ve met through here. I’ve met up with lots of people and have made several friends. I’ve never had an issue with getting responses and converting conversations into IRL meet-ups seems to be no issue either. 

How?….. I hear you ask.

Well, to start I don’t push myself on people. I partake in the forums and get to know people who regularly contribute. Perhaps strike up a convo directly with them in response to a thread discussion. Drop a message to someone local who’s just joined the site and say hello, again no pushyness, just be myself and don’t talk about anything sexual or kink related at first. 

Be patient, but be present. If you’re not active, people will assume you’re not around. So log in regularly and partake on the site.

be****

be****

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4 minutes ago, Notti_my_Fault said:
I know people who have met dynamic and life partners on here. I’ve had some encounters on here. And a dated a woman on here for 5 months.

So there is hope 😅

NJ****

NJ****

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I have met some people from the site, however most of the people send “like” me and give spanks or whatnot a solid majority of them are fakes or scammers. This site is littered with them
Je****

Je****

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I have met up with several amazing women/goddesses on this site (10 so far over 2 years all of which I remain in contact with). You do have to go through a great deal of screening to weed out the scammers and fakes. It helps to speak respectfully and listen. Don’t be pervy and sexual. Suggest meet ups in public normie places. Don’t be cheap meaning buy them a coffee or tea at the meet up. Make sure you understand the purpose of the relationship. Be clean … i mean physically clean …. Talk about your clean habits starting online.. and being healthy. No one wants to risk being with someone dirty who smells bad. Don’t be a predator… if you are looking for that type of thing discuss CNC before you meet . Screen for *** sucks . Best of luck .

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Without knowing how your conversation starts it’s hard to tell? We’ve had luck with a couple of ladies. And could have had luck with a few couples (but weren’t a good fit). I just start out with regular talk asking questions, finding common out of the bedroom interests. And chat a bit on those but being flirty too. Then at the right time start talking about bedroom stuff. But keep asking questions and respond with things to keep them engaged. You need to stand out from the others on here. A lot of guys just jump in and be like the typical guy. Stand out and you’ll have more luck.
bo****

bo****

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So what's a good way to start a conversation? I haven't met anyone from here yet

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20 minutes ago, boarder667 said:

So what's a good way to start a conversation? I haven't met anyone from here yet

I usually start with a catchy hello conversation. Something besides hey or hello. Something simple like what a beautiful morning to start a conversation with you. How’s your morning / day going? Goes a long way over the boring hey. From there if they are interested they’ll respond and you can go from there. Ask them what they are up to etc. and start asking questions to show you are truly interested in them and not just a typical guy trying to hit it and quit it. And DONT send d**k pics unless they ask. If they ask for a pic of you. Ask them playfully what kind do you want… some girls want one and others don’t. Or you can send a teasing one, in boxers or towel. Just don’t want to cross a line on pics until they are wanting too. Wife hates when there’s a d**k pic in the first few conversations (why she doesn’t have her own account anymore)

be****

be****

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Ohh girlS, love a d**k pic 😂😂 no seriously don't send d**k pic Unsolicited it's rude AF and it no difference to standing at a bus stop flashing your bits at a Stranger😂

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1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

Interesting how some of us don't hold ourselves to the same high standards as they do others.

I was thinking the same thing. I never judge anyone on their appearance or kinks. Some of the funnest ones weren’t your typical Barbie/ken type. There is something beautiful in everyone

No****

No****

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In my opinion, forget this is a kink/fetish app when you’re starting a conversation. Pretend you just ran into this person at the grocery store, what would you say then?
Be sincere and genuine with your compliments and ask questions that require an explanation instead of yes or no answers.
Give it a little bit and then meet up in public. Don’t ask someone straight to someplace private. Offer a phone call first if they’d like to hear your voice or it helps them connect. So many people forget that this is still a place to meet PEOPLE and not a kink/fetish shopping site.
me****

me****

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It's all bots I think, a lot anyway, fake profiles
Da****

Da****

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Just put yourself out there man. Im a bigger dude and really don't have a problem. Can't *** attraction. Post less flex and more intimate you pics doesn't have to be nudes either.
Th****

Th****

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Haha I find a lovely or catchy opener vs. a simple "hello, hey, or hi" yields the same results. There is a 1 in 10 chance a response will even occur. And even if a conversation goes well there 10 to 1 men vs. women on here. So the odds are slim. Feeld yields better results at a potential date. I have been on here long enough, studied it enough to know. This site has more attention seekers and exhibitionist personalities more than anything....oh and unverified folk or catfishes. Don't be fooled. It is still a fun site regardless.
Ga****

Ga****

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I’ve spoken to a few and met a couple ladies from the site but Ive found so many are fake, scammers that want to get you to WhatsApp or Google chats. So many of the profiles the app matches you with haven’t been logged on in months to years.

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I completely agree I don't understand why people will visit your profile then you message them but then you never hear back
sm****

sm****

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The best way has always been to attend local or munches you can travel to.  This way people will get to know you in a safe setting, and vica versa.  Never underestimate a good friendship base in the scene.   People need to get to know you and trust.  It takes time and the benefits for outweigh the superficial online side of things.

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Ummm...maybe converse with them & treat them like a human being??
Se****

Se****

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4 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Interesting how some of us don't hold ourselves to the same high standards as they do others.

An unfortunate finding that occurs far too frequently x

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Find out your likes and dislikes regarding life, not just about fet life. You can then build from there.
CrispX

CrispX

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Once I’m comfortable with someone’s sense of humor … 🤣 I have sent clothed pics of Dick van Dyke …
sa****

sa****

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I concur there is something beautiful in everyone and more then just one thing
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