New and learning...

[Lilmiss-4139]

Hello x

I am new here and thought I would say hi...

I am fairly new to BDSM ....what started off as a play thing has developed into something much deeper and real.

Being a sub has changed my life in so many amazing ways but I can struggle with my bratty attitude...Any tips on tempering this. I do think being brat is well worth the pleasure of Sir taking me in hand...quite literally of course.

I am looking forward to being apart of this community x 

 

 

[Vandalslut]

Welcome to the community, Lilmiss. Do you really want to temper your bratty attitude?  You and Sir seem to be enjoying it.

[Lilmiss-4139]

I just worry he will get bored. I have tied myself up talking to a friend who is a sub but not a brat. She thinks I am playing with fire. 

[Deleted Member]

Hi Lilmiss and welcome. I'm a brat at times and at other times an angel. Embrace it, as vandalslut says, sir seems to enjoy it 🙂

[Lilmiss-4139]

thank you, I feel it is ok to let my halo slip every now and again....

[Deleted Member]

As both Christopher1972 and Vandalslut say; enjoy your dynamic together. The alternative to a dynamic is a what? A static?

Just a personal anecdote by way of example. I have a very good long time friend who is slave. She is not my slave nor anyone else’s. Her sammie banter is extremely well cultivated and encouraged. We both can tell when enough is enough. I say to her “if you were my slave, I’d spank you”. I love the expression that comes over her face, her chin tilts down. The clincher from her comes regularly, “your voice an words totally resets me, if you were my master; I can only imagine what I will feel like taken in hand.”

This girl and I are hemispheres apart; so enjoy every moment you have together IRL. You will not regret it.

[Deleted Member]

Bratty subs could be a real challenge and of course not for everyone taste. It depends what set you up that way, if you sole purpose is to get punished it’s not healthy ? 

[Lilmiss-4139]

2 hours ago, FabSeverus said:

Bratty subs could be a real challenge and of course not for everyone taste. It depends what set you up that way, if you sole purpose is to get punished it’s not healthy ? 

I have to say it is definitely not my sole purpose more like my default one at times....it is not something that happens all the time either ...I could not cope with my bratty self constantly never mind sir.

I am a pretty determined person who always had a wild streak ...

[Vandalslut]

10 hours ago, ReifenMeister said:

The alternative to a dynamic is a what? A static?

Indeed!  There are no stock-standard dynamics in BDSM, every relationship has its own.  If you and Sir are happy and enjoying life, then don't worry about what your friend says.

18 hours ago, Lilmiss said:

thank you, I feel it is ok to let my halo slip every now and again....

That's half the fun of having a halo! Letting it slip!

[Deleted Member]

Welcome hope you enjoy it here. Although it seems you have already seen how friendly this community can be :).
Being bratty is tricky as like everything in a relationship and kink it comes down to the individual. I've known people who absolutely cannot stand bratty behaviour.
Once I was setting up some fun with me and another Dom where we would both bring our subs and play.
However I found she had a zero tolerance attitude towards bratty behaviour and was very harsh with punishments right away.
My sub at the time would at times be sassy especially when she was nervous also her *** tolerance wasn't that high at the time so after speaking with the other Dom I cancelled it as I wanted to protect my sub.
Now don't get me wrong I will punish bratty behaviour I'm just a tease so like to let the sub think she's getting away with it whilst keeping track of it mentally. That way she thinks she's doing a few little things but it builds to something big hehe >;)
Anyway sorry to go off topic there. Point is it varies and the best thing to do is to be open and honest with your Dom. You never know they may enjoy it or may be keen to train you to keep the bratty side under control.
Hope this helps :)