Is it wrong to open up?

[Deleted Member]

Opening up is the best way to heal. By talking about your past it allows that part of you to slowly have its pieces put back together and not let the memories and emotions weigh you down. 

 

And just remember, we are all broken in our own little ways. No one is perfect, or completely put together. Life is a unique journey that allows us to fall and break but then to get back up and fill in those broken pieces with experiences and people.

 

Don't let the past stop you from opening up and experiencing all the wonder that life has in store for you. 

 

[Silvertunged1]

I once heard a line in a movie that went something like this: " it is  up to those who are less broken to take care of the ones who are more broken"... I forget which movie it was. Maybe you can find that individual who is  less broken, and a good soul, with a good heart to help you to mend what is broken and allow yourself to experience, giving and receiving pressure once again.

[wa****]

I’m sorry you experienced that but you’re a strong person and opening up is what inspires true growth

[ku****]

Definitely not a girl needs to open up so I can deeper

[St****]

I once heard a line in a movie that went something like this: " it is up to those who are less broken to take care of the ones who are more broken"... I forget which movie it was. Maybe you can find that individual who is less broken, and a good soul, with a good heart to help you to mend what is broken and allow yourself to experience, giving and receiving pressure once again.
MandyPandi, let me be that less broken soul to help you mend. I too did not understand all the dynamics of the lifestyle and i suffered through 3 hurtful doms back to back over the past 2 and a half years. I had advantages that I'm sure were not available to you, which is why I can say this, just 2 weeks out of the last one, I made it, you made it, we both learned, we both grew. Our ***ors are still the tiny little, insignificant people that they were before we stumbled into them. I have had to deal with that and the exclusion from family and friends because of my transition and also finding out I am HIV+. Yes, it was a lot, too much. I have tried several times to end it all, but, I'm still here. Proof that us subs are a lot tougher than we seem. And it's true. We are the only ones that truly understand that what we accept is for one reason only. We want to please others. But, listen, if someone is completely miserable in life and hates the world, how can we expect that anything we do will please them. It's not our failing, it's theirs and the part of the world that made them so hateful. Take time and do what you do best, pleasing. But, just for a little while, let the object of your pleasing be one person in need: yourself. Take time to explore this site and all it has to offer so you can learn the truth about your role, as sub unless you discover something truer to who you are, the role of your prospective partner, the acceptable rules and norms and steps you can take to protect yourself. In this lifestyle, we all want to help, but, the nature of it all ***s us to stand back until it's too late. You have to learn how to protect yourself. And ***, it is always good to be open, but, in a safe place. You and any other sub or trans is always safe in every way with me. If I don't know the answer, I will help you research to find the correct answer. I am going to try to find you outside this topic and I hope you will allow me to help heal myself by helping you. We are 2 of the same, so, I don't have any underlying agenda. I just don't want these fake doms to ruin what is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship, the D/s dynamic. Be safe sis, and if you feel I'm not the one you can talk to, please, find someone, preferably in the community that you can confide in.

[d_guglieme]

It is not wrong to be open in a relationship. But, there is something to be said for discretion, particularly in the early stages.

[St****]

That's total BS. Communication is key to all relationships. If start a relationship with half truths and deception then the relationship is doomed before it hA a chance

[St****]

And sis, it's good to release things but be careful who you share those types experiences. I suggest another feminine sub or a family member if possible.