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Would it be a fair assumption that if a Submissive person makes it clear to a Dominant person that they’re not compatible and feel overwhelmed the conversation should stop or at least become less intense? I’m not in the habit of blocking people as I feel it’s unnecessary with a grown up conversation and set boundaries. 

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Totally fair .

[Catalyst87]

A lot of people don't respect boundaries, that's why they invented the block button

[Deleted Member]

If you have made it clear that you are not interested & the chat is too much too soon, then they should, as a minimum, back off the intensity, or stop messaging you, as requested.

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Anyone with any respect should, but unfortunately there are alot hear who don't

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*here*

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If he doesn't respect your boudaries then you owe him nothing,is he even a "Dom"if he doesn't understand even the basic protocols?

[Deleted Member]

Respect is essential. I have become cutthroat when it comes to blocking people. If they can't show basic respect then they don't deserve my time.

[Ar****]

Yes. No question about it.

[Deleted Member]

Well said - when you said "no thanks" to me I understood - why should others not? Not brought up right if you ask me!

[Deleted Member]

Yes definately 

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6 hours ago, little_dark_princess said:

Would it be a fair assumption that if a Submissive person makes it clear to a Dominant person that they’re not compatible and feel overwhelmed the conversation should stop or at least become less intense? I’m not in the habit of blocking people as I feel it’s unnecessary with a grown up conversation and set boundaries. 

I guess some Dom are bratty as well 😂! but if you made it clear then why you carry on replying to him? If you don’t want to block him fair but just delete his message without reading them. After a while he will stalk someone else 🤷‍♂️

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2 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

I guess some Dom are bratty as well 😂! but if you made it clear then why you carry on replying to him? If you don’t want to block him fair but just delete his message without reading them. After a while he will stalk someone else 🤷‍♂️

I’ve stopped replying now... still getting messages through but yes he’ll eventually go away. The point of the question was to ask if there was a constructive but not harsh way to stop it. 

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1 minute ago, little_dark_princess said:

I’ve stopped replying now... still getting messages through but yes he’ll eventually go away. The point of the question was to ask if there was a constructive but not harsh way to stop it. 

Sometimes no,ignore or block as some don't understand what no means.

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12 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Sometimes no,ignore or block as some don't understand what no means.

Some do... suppose that’s where trusting your gut and knowing yourself comes into it 

[Carnelian2]

Just a thought - I had someone say that we were not compatible. Ok, I also know her in person and we do frequent the same groups and events, so we invariably meet.

Having said, that I went back and said that although we might not be compatible we actually get along - we are still talking, and to the extent that when people see us together, they ask if we are together.

I am not saying that people should not show respect of others' boundaries but also that we have to be uniquely insightful and perceptive to be able to assess true compatibility through an electronic media.

It does take dialogue, however, and ability to listen - on both sides. Something that is unfortunately also lacking in electronic media as people forget that exactly the same rules as in real face to face interactions.

 

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2 minutes ago, Carnelian2 said:

Just a thought - I had someone say that we were not compatible. Ok, I also know her in person and we do frequent the same groups and events, so we invariably meet.

Having said, that I went back and said that although we might not be compatible we actually get along - we are still talking, and to the extent that when people see us together, they ask if we are together.

I am not saying that people should not show respect of others' boundaries but also that we have to be uniquely insightful and perceptive to be able to assess true compatibility through an electronic media.

It does take dialogue, however, and ability to listen - on both sides. Something that is unfortunately also lacking in electronic media as people forget that exactly the same rules as in real face to face interactions.

 

Hence I don’t jump on the block button... I’m not saying they are a bad person but not for me.... chatting isn’t an issue but they speak to me like they own me and that’s what I don’t appreciate. 

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11 minutes ago, little_dark_princess said:

Hence I don’t jump on the block button... I’m not saying they are a bad person but not for me.... chatting isn’t an issue but they speak to me like they own me and that’s what I don’t appreciate. 

And that should tell you straight away what they are,the way they talk to you,without respect or a willingness to work for the gift you offer.

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11 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

And that should tell you straight away what they are,the way they talk to you,without respect or a willingness to work for the gift you offer.

Edited April 8, 2020 by Deleted Member

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Just now, little_dark_princess said:

A gift?! 

Submission,its'a gift.

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Just now, Donnykinkster said:

Submission,its'a gift.

👌🏻

[DADDY2-2073]

I think I would agree that the conversation should definitely become less intense. As far as stop completely, I certainly wouldnt assume that you wanted to stop unless you came out and said that. After all we arent only here to find sex right? I for one am here for friends as well

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"Hence I don’t jump on the block button... I’m not saying they are a bad person but not for me.... chatting isn’t an issue but they speak to me like they own me and that’s what I don’t appreciate"

what would you gain by talking with someone who doesn't understand the difference between a friendly chat and inducing his fantasy into the conversation, doesn't sound mature enough. 

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5 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

"Hence I don’t jump on the block button... I’m not saying they are a bad person but not for me.... chatting isn’t an issue but they speak to me like they own me and that’s what I don’t appreciate"

what would you gain by talking with someone who doesn't understand the difference between a friendly chat and inducing his fantasy into the conversation, doesn't sound mature enough. 

I’m just very polite

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9 hours ago, little_dark_princess said:

Would it be a fair assumption that if a Submissive person makes it clear to a Dominant person that they’re not compatible and feel overwhelmed the conversation should stop or at least become less intense? I’m not in the habit of blocking people as I feel it’s unnecessary with a grown up conversation and set boundaries. 

You may find you benefit from getting more comfortable with blocking people like this. This is not acceptable at all. I have experienced this and it makes me sad when other women experience too. Please don't suffer. Let me know if you'd like to chat.