Trying to find my space in this community…does this dynamic actually exist?

[De****]

We have been also… totally agree

[pl****]

I absolutely feel what your saying 100% and generally have found it but not without great discernment and expressing my desires fully and even then I have been fooled by a performer who can play the role of whatever I want them to be which they don't understand the difference and that's frustrating. Ultimately I believe you are looking for intimacy in a d/s scenario which is not a huge ask like some would try to make you believe. It is top level in any scenario in my humble opinion. My brattiness has been a frustration for many I've spoken to who never got the pleasures of enjoying me. Several times I was told that no Dom will put up with or tolerate such things from a sub. They can wish that was the case but they don't truly understand domination or submission! They think in basic terms of I'm the one in control if u don't allow that it diminishes my role and makes me feel I have no power. This is a 2 player game and they need to realize taking the time to understand will be well worth it and in no way are you trying to shame them nor do you expect them to just know exactly how it should be. You want to explain to them how and what things you like prior to meeting and play with the learning the ins and outs of each other like two exploring ***agers on a strange new island. Maybe that's just me but the idea is the same we can build on it together there's no wrong way just a let's try this instead of that and if that hits them in the ego that's a them problem. No more expectations of being a mind reader and expert because if someone is an expert of say, Tiffany (me), that's creepy cause I don't know them lol 🫶🏼

[Deleted Member]

Very well expressed with wonderful detail. I struggle as well as I search for connection at many levels, depth, intimacy, and a kinky dynamic. Being able to be my true, complete self in all aspects of myself with another who is able to do the same.

[Vu****]

I completely agree. Well said!

[st****]

I can only reach that level of kink.If I have that level of intimacy, it goes hand in hand for me

[os****]

💯

[Ba****]

Connection is everything! Without it it's like coloring with only black and white crayons. Especially in a dom/sub dynamic. I would rather have the slow build with a deep connection, it makes everything more delicious.

[De****]

True 💯

[fl****]

This is very well put. Yes, I feel your ache except for men these women either seem to be scammers or doing this hobby as a business. I'm wondering if genuine kinky connection is even on the table anymore. I know it has to be but yes I feel your ache.

[Deleted Member]

Check out the "Infinite Devotion" podcast by Andrew and Dawn. They're a 24/7 D/s couple. Great information.

[To****]

First off, you're absolutely gorgeous. 2nd. It takes time to develop that type of connection with someone. I think a lot of people just wanna put a colar on it. I've had the best outcomes when i take kink off the table and we're just friends for a while.

[So****]

Tjere are people that want these same connections, but to me, they seem to be far and few between.

[Deleted Member]

Good luck. So far this place seems like just another stuck up fetlife. I regret paying for this. Not worth it

[Deleted Member]

You worded this perfectly. I was feeling like I was just unwanted or unworthy. Atleast I know others feel like this. I feel understood.

[Deleted Member]

“The more I’ve tried to explore, the more I keep running into doms who say all the right things…only to disappear the moment anything real surfaces”…. This literally just happened to me. You worded this whole thing perfectly, I felt it in my soul

[Li****]

Yeah, sometimes you can be having what feels lk a sublimely real interaction n the person will inadvertently block you..

[Ja****]

Uuhhgg... the struggle is real.
Thanks for writing and posting this