Has anyone ever come across a family member or friends in the BDSM community?

[ca****]

How did that go? Did you guys just pretend like it never happened or are you more open? Just kind of curious how people would handle that situation. Specifically, if you came across a parent or sibling. I can only imagine family dinners would be awkward. My thought is "If you saw me then that means you were on there too, so mind your own business."

[ro****]

I actually ran into a former coworker on an App similar to this one. She was embarrassed, my reply was "who cares, we'll keep each other's discretion". We chatted a bit, decided to Hook up. It was just an overnight fling but fun.

[Ti****]

Ran into a cousin. I blocked, hoping maybe I saw her first, and she didn’t see me, then pretended to not have seen her. I figure, you don’t tell, I won’t tell. Lol.

[Lo****]

I decided to tell one of my best friends because my dating stories weren't making sense without understanding I was looking for a Dom lol. It turned out she is a switch and so is her husband!

On the flip side one time I saw the profile of a friend's 19 year old son. Definitely did not tell a soul lol. Just quickly blocked him.

[ki****]

No, but I get a lot of people in my same city that often I'll check over to see if I know them. I'd be weirded out if it were a neighbor. 😂 I'm at a 50/50 if a friend came across me. Of whether I'd care or not. Not sure I'd be too mortified if they didn't shame me for it.

[yesenia24]

😲 yes!!!!! We ended up becoming closer.

[si****]

my dad is super into it and I hate that I know this

[YoursMaybe]

if it was a friend, great way to bond. "oh shit, small world, what upp" a friend if a friend? Cool. Might be a good way to make a new friend, depending if they're cool or not very cool. A family member? Blocked. lmfao.

[Cy****]

I’ve got a great story about how me and a close family member discovered we were both in BDSM lifestyles. It was a hilarious night!

[sa****]

My brother found me on grindr. He had a profile with no picture and messaged me sent me a fake pic of who he claimed to be and tried to get info out of me and then eventually came at me in front of the whole family. Even though I gave him nothing to go off of continued to call me a (*purly for descriptive purposes in telling this story, and what was said to me. I'm not using these words to offend anyone, or imply that they are or aren't offensive in the first place)"fag, queer" accused me of being a liar. I came back at him straightened out my words he had twisted (not that I gave a shit anyway) it was annoying. Never asked why he was on there in the first place or if he was only on there for damaging or hurtful reasons..

[Co****]

Went to an event and a family friend was there. Really they are like one of my ***. It was awkward, but I didn’t ignore it and I talked to them about it. Made sure they knew I wouldn’t shame them and now we talk freely about events and some of the more academic points of kink.

[Su****]

I was recognized when I made a sissy snapchat. Friends outted me and shared thr pics around till it got to some family members. Soo embarrassing

[Deleted Member]

If you swipe, don’t tell us 🙈😂

[Yo****]

So, I go to a sex club every now and then, and I mentioned to my ***'s bf that we go to a club some times, but I didn't mention what club or what kind... And he immediately asked "oh really? What kind of club. I'm pretty open minded.".... The open minded part was like "well, shit, now I think u already know".... Turns out, they had just started going...

It's not been incredibly awkward. we let eachother know if we're planning to go to this club, because I certainly dtot want to walk into the gangbang room and she's there on her big bed. XD

She tends to vent to me about her LS problems, because she's new to the scene, and us having someone to talk to about it has been great.

The only awkward part was when one of my partners brought her up.... Apparently my ***'s best friend is the brother of one of my partners.... So she invites him any time I hang with her to be awkward. Thanks, sis....

[Yo****]

Really tho, I honestly don't care if my family knows. Aside from my kids, at least. And if friends know, they can talk to me about it. If they want to join, cool. If not, still cool. We've taken a few friends to the sex club just to show them the scene with no expectations. We've def fucked in front of a few friends who wanted to come check out the clubs.

[MasterneedsaSub]

It’s kind of interesting because someone I know that recently I considered family but they have since discontinued considering Me family found Me on here & that entire things is awkward. Both parents are no longer alive & I only have one sibling left & they wouldn’t be on a site/app like this for certain. As far as any other family I mean I guess what you said is true A: they are on here also so chances are it shouldn’t be anything major plus maybe it would give you someone to communicate with that is understanding of what you are interested in that perhaps you already feel comfortable with instead of complete strangers who you are trying to trust

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, sagittarian said:

My brother found me on grindr. He had a profile with no picture and messaged me sent me a fake pic of who he claimed to be and tried to get info out of me and then eventually came at me in front of the whole family. Even though I gave him nothing to go off of continued to call me a (*purly for descriptive purposes in telling this story, and what was said to me. I'm not using these words to offend anyone, or imply that they are or aren't offensive in the first place)"fag, queer" accused me of being a liar. I came back at him straightened out my words he had twisted (not that I gave a shit anyway) it was annoying. Never asked why he was on there in the first place or if he was only on there for damaging or hurtful reasons..

I'm sorry you were subject to that. ❤️‍🩹

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, SubSissyBailey said:

I was recognized when I made a sissy snapchat. Friends outted me and shared thr pics around till it got to some family members. Soo embarrassing

People can be awful. ❤️‍🩹

[Su****]

8 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

People can be awful. ❤️‍🩹

They definitely can be. The thought of getting recognized is hot but no reason to take it that far and send it to ppl outside of thr community. Especially family members

[ey****]

Family, no.

Friends - I guess for example I am also a DJ in rock and goth events, and was doing regular  nights when I started going to kink events, so it became somewhat inevitable there would be some overlap on folk I already knew.

This said there have been times when I've bumped into people from other circles at kink events, for example co-workers, and unsettling as it can be  - you're both ultimately there for the same kinda reason. 

[Li****]

Never met anyone i know other than my bi friend (did my makeup last noght and watched rocky horror)
Closest I've really came to it is when i found out my brother is a furry, but thst was long enough ago that it's just who he is

[my****]

I can’t say for sure, but I’m fairly certain one of my uncles is in the community. He brought his sub to a family barbecue and little things got my spidey sense tingling. She served his plate, kept on top of his drink needs. She was also wearing an interesting pendant. Just a little too big for her slender neck.

I could be way off on it but I’ve been around enough subs to feel the difference. We’ve never talked about it and my family isn’t aware.

[Li****]

My uncle is more of the confirmed bachelor type, but I'm sure he's had his fun

[fi****]

9 hours ago, yesenia24 said:

😲 yes!!!!! We ended up becoming closer.

Damn! Which family member?

[Yo****]

This made my day 😅 Dinners be like "Daddy pass the butter " and yall both looking like who ever moves first loses