🔶 Explore Your Limits & Push Through 🔶

[da****]

Submission isn’t just about what you already know you can take—it’s about discovering the edges of your soul and flirting with the unknown.
Exploring your boundaries isn’t about being reckless. It’s about being curious. About letting trust and connection guide you into new, sometimes uncomfortable, deeply revealing places. You don’t have to push… but when you want to? When your mind says “maybe,” and your body says “yes, please”—that’s where the growth lives.
How to Practice It:
Reflect on what arouses and terrifies you… often, those overlap.
Keep a “soft no” list—things you’re open to discussing but not ready for.
Communicate your curiosity with your Dom or play partner. Let them build the scene with you.
Debrief after play. Growth isn’t just in the act—it’s in the reflection.
Example: A princess who once swore she’d never kneel in public… found herself trembling in the back garden at midnight, leash clipped to her collar, stars above and her Sir’s voice coaxing her deeper into obedience. The thrill wasn’t in the act—it was in the surrender. She’d expanded her world… and now, she craved more.
Call to Discuss:
🔥 Doms—How do you support a sub’s growth when they approach a hard limit? Do you nudge? Do you wait? Do you push with pressure or with patience?
🔥 Subs—What was the last limit you pushed through, and what did it reveal about you? Did it change your dynamic, your trust, or your own sense of power?
Let’s hear the real stuff, the sweaty-palmed truths, the triumphant breakthroughs—and the times it didn’t go as planned. We grow together when we’re honest.

[On****]

P"Daddy I can't take ______ tonight" those are important words to listen to, we had done this no less than a hundred times before but tonight this "must have" became a "hard limit". For whatever reason her mind, her body or emotions can't take it tonight, I do not push, I do not nudge, her trust in me to listen, to see and know her is far more important.
Hard limits can become "curious" perhaps watching it at a scene at a dungeon event or a class. Some kinks (rope, fire play, electric play come to mind) do require training to keep your bottom safe and it's SO important to get vetted proper training before ever trying this on your own. If there's a class on a hard limit subject you attend and truly interested but not sure, many of these classes ask for volunteers, or contact a teacher before an event and ask to volunteer, explain and be honest with experience in this negociation.

Another technique I use for those "curious" items I AM experienced in I will often do a "mapping" session. Mapping is an exercise in trust especially for new bottoms, very much a scene, but will include conversation outside a power exchange, seeing and holding the implements and or sensations to explore. It's not sexy sub-space or Dom-space but a trust building exercise in introducing new experiences.

[On****]

Oh just remembered "tasting" events as well, these are fantastic events to attend for tops and bottoms, usually very fun and relaxed events geared towards trying new things you never knew you would like!

[ey****]

this has all the hallmarks of an AI post.

[On****]

45 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

this has all the hallmarks of an AI post.

Curious, I've seen this comment before, usually because of odd punctuation or sentence structure. looking at your profile it does appear you have some experience in this but here's my scepticism, (and I could be wrong) AI could hardly grasp the context and nuance of basic human sexuality let alone the intricate nuances of kink, D/s, M/s... Rather than the writer defend themself Could you explain your accusation with more than "odd punctuation" ?

[ey****]

1 minute ago, One4theRoad said:

Curious, I've seen this comment before, usually because of odd punctuation or sentence structure. looking at your profile it does appear you have some experience in this but here's my scepticism, (and I could be wrong) AI could hardly grasp the context and nuance of basic human sexuality let alone the intricate nuances of kink, D/s, M/s... Rather than the writer defend themself Could you explain your accusation with more than "odd punctuation" ?

the user has made quite a lot of similar posts in a short space of time with the same formats - there was also another user doing very similar; two people with exactly the same writing, format and punctuation style

there's also a few tells that proof reading would flush up - including some contradictions.

You'd be surprised at what AI can grasp - a couple of years ago I actually made a post entirely generated by AI (and credited to) about the perils of using AI for kink blogs, and gpt understood fully.

But try it - ask ChatGpt for some forum style posts and see how it understands - and then to go a step further, there are those specifically curated for adult content - such as GP Tease.

[On****]

Thank you for that explication but it seems the same arguement of punctuation and sentence structure, I would challenge the use of AI or Grammer programs are used commonly and more likely in the case of kink writing. I think it's also important to recognize contributions to learning and conveying ideas surrounding kink/bdsm are challenging to say the least, my *** with a simple comment "this is AI" the context and meaning for the purposes of learning are discounted, made invalid or possibly lost to the reader.

[On****]

( *** = conc*rn above) When I get time I will try GP tease, thanks for that 👍

[ey****]

To return to the question, mind

Hard Limits are non-negotionable. There is no pushing through, there is no pushing. There should never ever be "how close can I go and get away with it"

Obviously hard limits are also subject to change, but the change of when something is no longer a hard limit shouldn't be made mid-scene.  Also, things that were not a hard limit can become them at anytime

Someone might chime in with exceltpions around CNC which is totally fair - but then CNC and what both parties hope to get from it should be discussed before engaging.  Someone should never be coerced into CNC as an excuse to break limits.

Breaking limits is not "growth" even if these are soft.  Growth is growth. No one is less of a sub because they have limits, or more limits.  There is never any requirement to break limits.

Of course, some subs may have something as a present limit they still want to try, that is entirely different - but this has to be because of something they WANT to do; not because they feel they have to.

The Dominant in these scenarios has to be fully supportive, be certain this is being done with full consent and make it clear this doesn't have to be done.  They also, at the other end, would not know how the sub would react and have to support and comfort them either way.  Consider some subs may feel they have let down a Dominant if they later say no (make it clear they haven't) and others might not know how they will respond.  Some might do this and feel it's something they want to do again more often - but in a lot of cases the Dominant may need to accept it was once and once only.

As with a lot of things.... people always forget that Dominants *also* have limits and these need to be respected also in the same manor.