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My view, funny you should ask )My wife and I realized at pretty much the same time
That

We agreed that sexual compatibility can only be achieved if both partners can --Listen to the other, hear what they think they may want, it could be dissapointng
Or life changing. But listening,supporting. And accepting what makes your partner happy, re enf*rces the love,already there,and makes you both happy,the level of trust,and the feeling of safety,acceptance,it can't be measured....only felt....If you love your love......just do it,,,,,it makes all the difference(safely,within reason,keep it sanitary))))))))>

Your right, the sad part is a lot of couples don’t really share the biggest desires with there lovers. They should.
My wife and I met each other (started dating) 16yrs ago and married 9yrs ago. I finally built up the courage to open up to her about my strong desire/fantasy about being in a femdom relationship and giving her dominance. Light bindage play was nothing new, but the idea of chastity wear and pegging were entirely new and she didn't take it very well. Flogging, caning and paddling she was open to doing. But when she took pegging the wrong way, questioned my sexuality and called me selfish for it - that kind of set us back in our intimate life and things have never been the same ever since. I had bought some books on Femdom training for her to read, she even advised in there for a partner to never shun their partner for having fantasies such as these and can be devastating to a relationship. Man was she right about that.
It was about 2yrs into our marriage (9yrs into our relationship) when I finally opened up to her about this fantasy.
And lastly to add to that: we are now on the edge of divorce. There are many dynamics involved with that outside of the bedroom, but intimacy problems are a major factor (which also follow outside of the bedroom).
This is why I'm completely transparent with my partner because either they are gonna be there or they aren't if rather know they weren't way sooner than later... imagine all the time you could hand spent work someone who loved you for you
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