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I am not.good at dirty talk. Like don't know what to say. Where do you go to get a script? How do you do it? Just what comes naturally? I am a Pleasure Dom if that helps focus the answers. Thanks!
In most cases, subs love praises. So try telling her how much of a good girl she is, tell her shes sexy when she’s being nasty, how good she feels in your hands, how bad you want to devour her…..I have sooooo much more I give you to say! lol I’m a pleasure Dom myself so I’ve learned to be pretty good at it!
AI chat is a way to get practice in without risking offending anyone.
Try to practice alone for charisma. Actually mean what you're saying. You want them to know you're proud of them with your praise. Sadomassachist *** included with praises if these are inside of boundaries and help to make your sub feel more comfortable expressing themselves sexually. Playfully laughing, smiling, "you are such a dirty girl" and go on from there trying more and more derogatory praises "That is a perfect little slut"

But you should mean it. And to mean it you may need to drop any schism youve associated with the words you'll use in these situations. They likely feel free knowing they're being slutty or a dirty whore with you and you being comfortable with that and expressing that to them drives the comfort and allows for more freedom.
Praise. Tell her how much she turns you on. The sight. Smell. Taste. Feel of her skin. What you want to do. How you’re gonna do it.
7 minutes ago, Orions_Shield said:
Try to practice alone for charisma. Actually mean what you're saying. You want them to know you're proud of them with your praise. Sadomassachist *** included with praises if these are inside of boundaries and help to make your sub feel more comfortable expressing themselves sexually. Playfully laughing, smiling, "you are such a dirty girl" and go on from there trying more and more derogatory praises "That is a perfect little slut"

But you should mean it. And to mean it you may need to drop any schism youve associated with the words you'll use in these situations. They likely feel free knowing they're being slutty or a dirty whore with you and you being comfortable with that and expressing that to them drives the comfort and allows for more freedom.

You want them to have that freedom. Tell them with your confidence how good or bad they are doing, what you like or even ask questions sometimes, dirty rhetorical questions. If they don't answer and you want an answer then get one. If they answer then maybe tell them you know. When you silently go to move them around or suggest something, make it so verbally and when they follow your lead compliment them. Follow directions with praises and more actions and you'll get into the vocal groove. If they move fast tell them they're an eager little brat or something like that. Keep thinking and you'll eventually have a ton of kinky things to say in confidence.

21 minutes ago, mountaincock87 said:
AI chat is a way to get practice in without risking offending anyone.

Solid suggestion. 📝

For example; someone telling me how thick my cock is, how they want to make that big cock burst….yeh works for me
This is where effective communication with your partner is key - *ask* them what types of things they enjoy hearing, favourite pet names/degrading nicknames, etc... You'll be able to feed an AI personalized details to make practicing with it more effective. ;)
Someone once shared this with me….if something feels or looks good, say it “baby your pussy is so wet/warn/creamy/tight”…”you look so good riding my hard cock”. “I love when you look at me with my cock in your mouth”…if she has a praise kink, then being told she’s a good girl is like music to her ears. I’ve always tried to stay away from more clinical terms in dirty talk (vagina, penis, etc) and stay with the more dirty ones like cock, pussy, tits, etc. Hope this helps.
Hmmm everyone is different, but I would say do some visual training meaning ***t a picture with words.
I agree with CarterTwin. for me that's exactly the type of dirty talk I want. but you need to talk with your partner some want dirty talk in you describing what you want to do to her or what your going to do. me I like praise and ownership so I like things like fuck you pussy is so wet/warm, this pussy is mine or who's pussy is this and finishing saying your pussy is gonna make me cum and letting out the climax noises and moans of you humming is a huge turn on.
In general, women's sexuality is based around their own body. They want to hear about themselves and how they turn you on, etc.

So anything that focuses on their body, your attraction to them, etc.

I wasn't so good at it at first but you get the hang of it.

Bend her over in front of a mirror and pull head back by the hair roots firmly so she is staring at herself. And while you fuck her, "Look at you taking that cock. You like that? What a good girl/slut/whore/[name she likes]."

While you finger her, "Listen how fucking wet you are." Slap her pussy so she can hear it louder.

Obviously depends women to women and her likes (im used to submissive types).
Listen to you girls romance books they are the best cheat sheets
Learn how to how think on your feet, humour is a good way to practice this..get your mind working first.

Humour, can lead to cheeky, cheek can lead to dirty, dirty can lead to....

Good luck my friend.

You just have to let your dirty perverted side free. Just make it natural
I asked my submissive for you...just to have some female PoV. Good task for her to do too.
Some I do some I don't actually.

So..

"He could start by using basic lines...

First It helps set the tone to refer to himself as the third person.... Daddy / Sir

1..It will also help him find his natural rhythm because if his finding it hard to speak naturally its like a story...
2.. I think alot of people enjoy that third person talk .. it's arousing....

1. Tell her what you will do...
2. Tell you what you enjoy..
3. Remind her she's owned...

So start basic....
Things like Daddy is going to fill your holes and fuck you until you cry... you belong to me and i will use you how i like... you belong to me... / Daddy loves his girl so needy... desperate... wet ... / you dirty girl ... etc etc...

A combination of praise and degrading.. add to it... depending what way he leans...

Look at you... such a desperate slut/girl etc for Daddy... (whatever name works)

Really it's focused around teasing her mind... building anticipation...

Key is to make it about her...
No one wants to listen to random words

Oh he should listen to porn audio for daddy/pleasure doms... he wouls get a good insight

I could write forever on this....
Because there are so many ways to do it. "
the best thing to do is ask them what they like to hear during sex or play beforehand.
but in general, say what's on your mind. focus on your senses, what you can see, hear, taste, feel. i'd probably avoid smell unless you know they're into that.
somethin like "you look so pretty all spread out for me" or "i love your cute little noises" as examples. if they blush and it turns you on then tell them! if they seem to get louder when you do something a certain way then ask if they like that, if it feels good.
if you're just messaging back and forth, talk about how you'd do something and why. make it about them. even if it's your pleasure, let them know it's because of them.
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Ask your partner what kind of dirty talk they like. There are many different levels and terms used. Generically, the list is endless but making it personalised is what may count. Also, I noted that you mentioned it didn't come naturally to you and that you're a pleasure Dom. I may be wrong in saying this but it's ok not to do this if makes you uncomfortable. Discuss this and the reasons with your partner. If it a way of your sub challenging you to enhance your role for them and you mutually want to explore it together, then start slowly. Enjoy the process of discovery together and for yourself.
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