Opinions needed

[Deleted Member]

A simple ...I'm not feeling it... no need to go into detail , polite but succinct.
No sense dragging it out..a sharp knife cuts the cleanest

[Ji****]

3 hours ago, LadyLeft said:

"I appreciate your time, but I don't feel the connection that I am looking for. I wish you the best!" Is a good way. Be polite, be thankful, but most importantly, be final.

Absolutely this

[Deleted Member]

Simple life hack: treat them how you would want to be treated.

[kinkymasterandrew]

Don't excitement shame people. 😂 You can always blame "chemistry" though.

[MasterTalathian47342]

Be blunt but respectful (as long as they deserve the respect). Just being honest is the best way. Don't beat around the bush. Just my 2 cents though.

[me****]

2 hours ago, domdegrader said:

Depends really on what you're looking for. If you look for someone for long term then you must understand that nothing will ever be perfect and if it looks perfect then probably you're about to be a victim of a narcissist since they fake very well in beginning then go twisting your mind.

If you think the person is great for some reason, try to speak to them what you honestly think about them in a constructive way first, like saying "i think you're great in this and this points but after some minutes of talking i think you get boring because of this this and that and just telling you to see if we could improve this somehow" or something like that.

If you looking for something perfect in a partner or relationship, then at some point all relationships you get will ruin.

Good connection or love is not about finding your soulmate, this is fairy tale. Good connection or love is about finding someone with whom both can be themselves and that accept the responsibility and commitment to build something together.

To an extent I agree with you. I’m a very outgoing extroverted person. This person is soooo boring and I tried being nice saying “no thanks I think it’s best we end this now” and then all he would do is poke and prod “what’s wrong? You don’t like me?” Blah blah. He is as boring as a doornail… like he can’t even make out full sentences when I ask questions. Then when I finally tell him I just don’t feel it his response “well you are fat and ugly anyway” like what is wrong with people taking rejection? Like everyone has a type! And it’s ok if someone doesn’t like you just as you might not like people.

[do****]

32 minutes ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

To an extent I agree with you. I’m a very outgoing extroverted person. This person is soooo boring and I tried being nice saying “no thanks I think it’s best we end this now” and then all he would do is poke and prod “what’s wrong? You don’t like me?” Blah blah. He is as boring as a doornail… like he can’t even make out full sentences when I ask questions. Then when I finally tell him I just don’t feel it his response “well you are fat and ugly anyway” like what is wrong with people taking rejection? Like everyone has a type! And it’s ok if someone doesn’t like you just as you might not like people.

I see. Well in this case it's impossible to make any kind of communication, the person must have at least some braincells so you can agree or agree in disagree peacefully.

But if happens to another person then just think about what your objective is and what good things the other person has to offer if considering long term relationship.

I think it's always more valid to explore how difficulties can be overcome and improvements made first is some essential things are met in the person instead of just looking for a perfect thing which will reveal to be false in the future.

And even if it's casual purpose, just say in a way that you let clear you just want to be honest with the person in a way of helping that person realize things he need to improve.

Some people just need a honest and friendly feedback from outside to improve themselves.

[Ch****]

Taking notes.... another outgoing aries woman here 😜

[Fo****]

Just talk to them and say your not as compatible now,as you were at first. Tell them your not into it.....if you can break it to them without feelings being hurt,okay. But if it comes down to it,tell them the truth!

[Da****]

It's been real it's been fun but it ain't been real fun. I've lost interest. Don't take it personal please I have a short attention span. I wish you the best of luck on your journey though.

[ey****]

2 hours ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

I tried being nice saying “no thanks I think it’s best we end this now” and then all he would do is poke and prod “what’s wrong? You don’t like me?” Blah blah. 

yeah - hammer the ignore button on him - you've already said no to him and he's not taking that.  It's not going to get any better. 

[En****]

#1 you are not fat and ugly. #2 after that response he/she deserves no more courtesy. Block them

[Pa****]

Just be courteous and say I don't think this is for me

[ea****]

Be honest upfront and say that I just don't see it going anywhere else so good luck with the search

[DarkArts1066]

If someone shows a lack of personal depth, then there is little - or nothing you can do to enhance that.
Perhaps try and generate some interest inside them in the things that you enjoy ?…. Going to the theatre, or a gig, or art, or whatever really, -just something that you might possibly share a common interest in, and be able to enjoy together.
In kink that becomes a little more tricky -especially if it’s someone you’ve just met.

“ I found this really good rope bondage class -would you like to attend with me ?”
doesn’t really work !……

If it’s heading nowhere, perhaps honesty IS the best policy -as others have pointed out here.

I personally would feel a desire to let them know why…… but how you do that without hurting someone’s feelings, or sending them into a cataclysmic tailspin these days is difficult.
Perhaps just being honest, and saying that you and they have nothing in common is the best way forward ?

I hope that helps.

[bl****]

Just tell them without being disrespectful, they will understand

[bl****]

Not everybody is perfect, and everybody is not meant for everybody

[om****]

Damn I'm just out here telling people they suck and to shut up , or rambling about absolutely unhinged stuff until I scare them off ... that definitely not good advice btw

[wa****]

you don't have to say that they're boring, just that you're not compatible or you don't wish to continue seeking the connection any further

[Sl****]

Is it boring because you don't have interest in the things they are talking about? Or do they give short answers and not put in the effort to keep the conversation going?

[Da****]

17 hours ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

Thank you guys! A lot of men gave massive ego problems and what I’ve realized is when I try to be nice they act a fool and then come back at me “ well your fat anyway” lol

Some guys really can't handle rejection. They refuse to address the issue, and instead of asking questions they resort to middle school mentality; ie; name calling. Maybe they never heard it before and calling them out on it is the first time hearing it. I have a philosophy in my life. If you're going to be around me you best better wearing steel toed boots. I am not afraid to step on toes. I have no filter.

[ma****]

Be honest with them and say this won’t work

[Deleted Member]

tell them to f*ck off politely

[me****]

2 hours ago, Sleepy-Princess said:

Is it boring because you don't have interest in the things they are talking about? Or do they give short answers and not put in the effort to keep the conversation going?

One word short answers. He also seems to hate everything.

[me****]

12 hours ago, ChubbyCherries said:

Taking notes.... another outgoing aries woman here 😜

Girlllll yes!