Secretly gay

[Kinkyjim199]

Lately I have been having these gay thoughts and gay fantasies, what should I do as I have a girlfriend

[Deleted Member]

It's okay to be bisexual. Just talk to her about it. Be honest.

[Leisa]

Be honest, be forthcoming, and be prepared for her to walk away. As someone who hid their true self away for years let me say you should never have to hide who you are. Doing so will hurt you and hurt them as well as everyone around you. Before anything else be true to who you are.

[Deleted Member]

Fantasy is not reality, be sure before you talk to your lady. Maybe watch a bit of gay porn, see how you react physically and emotionally. I was in the closet for 30 years as far as my kinks went and all that did was destroy relationship after relationship and lead to a miserable existence. You have to be true to yourself but you need to be sure first 😊

[rossco-4359]

Thoughts mean that your bicurious

[Wo****]

Talk to your girlfriend about it. Possibly.

Are they just idle thoughts or do you actively want to try it?

If it's just something you think about, well you don't have to tell anyone everything you think but if it's something you're curious about trying then you have to talk to her.

 

[Sh****]

Talk to your girlfriend about it & I'm sure she will hopefully understand. Be open with her about how you have felt & thought about. X x

[ji****]

I get really hard and cum in my underwear when I think about a cock in my ass

[CD****]

I remember being in the same situation many years ago.

I'd been having thoughts and watched some gay porn but (at the time) struggled to admit to myself that I was, at least, bi.  I then started asking gf to finger my arse, kissing her after a blowjob and licking her fingers after a handjob.  Then, one drunken NYE I followed a friend to the bathroom and wanked him off, which was great.

When I told gf, she was understandbly upset/mad but accepted that was part of me when I started cross dressing, it wasn't really a surprise to her.  The relationship naturally fizzled out for other reasons but I knew that cock had to feature in my life in future.

[Plaything69]

I've been single & gay for a long time I realised as I've been dildoing myself for a long time & my toys are only getting bigger I now very much want to get fisted.

 

[Openmindedbiguy]

I’m married over 30 years. Relationship is fantastic, life is grand and we love each other very much. Few years back I started riding dildos, secretly, she knew nothing about it. I suggested one time she do me with a strap on, we bought one, she used it on me and didn’t enjoy it at all so we never did it again. She is 100% vanilla. Since then I have a secret toy collection tgat I use whenever I can, a couple male friends that like to fuck me and have me suck tgere cocks. I love it. They use my very large toys on me and are trying to fist me, both say that next time they be past their wrist and I love the feeling. 
still she knows nothing and not sure how to tell her. I know she’ll leave me for certain 

[CU****]

I was doing the 69 position with an ex gf and suddenly she said “ Oh Wow” and I looked down to see her staring at my big pink asshole that loves huge BBC and giant toys. She said it was similar to a pussy and looked good. I ate her out harder and she looked around back and forth at my ass then my face and said “what do you want me to do “ I said to eat it like a pussy. She licked back and forth and then tounge fucked my hole and got really aggressive with it. Later she asked if I had took cock before and I told her about how BBC turned my ass into a boipussy and she seemed uncertain and confused. So I pulled out her big toys and the Astroglide and we both pumped and fast stroked a fat 12 inch BBC dildo on my ass until it opened up like a big pussy for real. She later became jealously and made me shower with the door open after catching me 2 times squatting and cumming hard from it. I have came clean with 4 girls and all were such freaks that it made them want to use me.

[mi****]

As a woman- from the other side of your question. My husband is bi but leans more towards gay than hetero, we have been together 15 years. I found out in year 2. We are just now exploring the possibility of sharing a partner (triad of sorts).
Best advice is to be upfront and honest, let her know your feelings and desires, experiment alone if needed, but be honest with her and yourself. I wasn't comfortable at first and his hidden attempts made things hard for us, now we are open and honest about everything and it's helped us tremendously.