I`m a vanilla

[Mendez-69]

Hi, and Yes, I`m a newbie 

I am a beginner and I am not ashamed to admit it. Like many others I also have hidden desires and many other things that I would experiment and put into practice

And yes, it's hard to open up to a stranger who might have that idea about you of pervert. It is not about this, and you all know that. With a life partner, it's even harder if they don't share your ideas.

A little out of curiosity but more out of the desire to enter a circle of people who experience this side of themselves. Where it's not out of place to admit that dirty underwear turns you on, or you like to be dominated and used as a sex toy.

I would like to discover more about myself and what I can offer. I am eager to try other experiences which I may, or may not like. But you have to try them to be able to say that you like them or not. Right?

So I would like to ask for your advice, opinions of how to approach this interactions propperly.

I also speak Spanish but not so good like english.

Thank you for taking time to read my thought .

Have a day full of pleasures

[Andypandy13]

The best advice I could give to someone new would be to get involved in your local kink community, go to munches/events and build a friend network (not just with people that you want to potentially fuck) by interacting with people naturally and showing who your are.

Good luck on your journey.

[Or****]

It can be difficult to open certain sides of yourself. My wife and I have been together 6 years and we're still discovering new things about each other in this area. Stigmas and shames are what we've found to be the biggest hurdles. Being open and honest with who you are and what you want may have better outcomes than you would expect. Use your best judgment with your approach.

[Mendez-69]

2 minutes ago, Andypandy13 said:

The best advice I could give to someone new would be to get involved in your local kink community, go to munches/events and build a friend network (not just with people that you want to potentially fuck) by interacting with people naturally and showing who your are.

Good luck on your journey.

Thanks 

[Da****]

1 hour ago, Andypandy13 said:

The best advice I could give to someone new would be to get involved in your local kink community, go to munches/events and build a friend network (not just with people that you want to potentially fuck) by interacting with people naturally and showing who your are.

Good luck on your journey.

This is great advice. Having people to talk to that you're not playing with is important to help keep you safe.

To add to this, beware of those that think they know it all, they don't. Make sure someone knows where you are and check in with them. Like anything else in life make sure you stay safe.

[Na****]

This site kinda sucks. People only get 1 message to send, which they have to put a lot of information in it.

Usually sexual... because of this 1 message every 3 month rule. 🤷‍♂️

So this makes the message usually consist of sexual innuendos. I tried to not be sexual... but Usually only get 1 shot. I tried both ways to chat.

Usually too much or think they tend to be to "boring" because it is a kink fetishe site. So there is no way of knowing what a person wants to talk about at the time, or is sexual at the time, or is just curious about trying something new.

This site sucks because of the 1 message rule! So dammed if we do & dammed if we don't... no one benefits from this!

[pe****]

Great picture of the lake and mountains.

[Deleted Member]

Also on this app there's courses/classes here. Do your own research not in word of mouth. Always trust your gut feeling too. Idk if this app has what the fetlife app has its called the kinkitionary. Also you'll be surprised at some of the things you already do sexually is already a kink.

[Ji****]

A vetting process. Search for “BDSM vetting process for subs” online

That’s the approach.

Trust your instinct.

As a new BDSM explored? The best advice I can give you? The sub has the power because they have the safe word. It’s sacred.

If someone tells you - you don’t need a safe word? Run.

Just my opinion and advice

[nc****]

Welcome... Devils advocate here :)
Before you venture into a secret life...I recommend an open honest calm discussion with your LIFE partner about taking your relationships sexual pleasures to next level . ( I wouldnt bring this group up lol)
This lifestyle may have never crossed their mind before or might be afraid of judgements on their own hidden desires .
It is always better to Wade the waters together if possible. You actions will affect life as you know it and others.... secrets never stay hidden.



With that said : it is important for a person to be true to themselves for inner peace & happiness.

Best of luck. Be safe.

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for all the advice, I can usally see the scammers. They usally follow the same routine. There are just so many😅

[Mendez-69]

5 hours ago, nccplWillowPride said:

Welcome... Devils advocate here
Before you venture into a secret life...I recommend an open honest calm discussion with your LIFE partner about taking your relationships sexual pleasures to next level . ( I wouldnt bring this group up lol)
This lifestyle may have never crossed their mind before or might be afraid of judgements on their own hidden desires .
It is always better to Wade the waters together if possible. You actions will affect life as you know it and others.... secrets never stay hidden.



With that said : it is important for a person to be true to themselves for inner peace & happiness.

Best of luck. Be safe.

Hi and thank you for your advice. It is a precious one. I`ll keep in my mind 

[Iw****]

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