Sub discoveries

[Ti****]

When finding out you were interested in being dommed, how easily did you find your “style”? Was it trial and error or did you already know what you wanted? I always thought I had one style of being a submissive but now I’m discovering other parts and I’m not sure how to feel

[DD****]

Hello

There are boundless possibilities in the lifestyle. For me, curiosity and desire tends to lead experimentation and boundaries.

[PL****]

I figured out very early some things and then over time others became more fluid and again some even more concrete. I think it's okay to grow as human beings and as such I choose to accept the changes and thrive in them.

[wa****]

Just like in life; we come across different things we like.

[Vi****]

Trial and error is the best way to push limits and find out the things you like! I had the same thing happen to me when starting kink. I never realized the things I actually liked. The hardest part for me was trying to relax when my body liked what was happening. Now, I have learned to embrace the feeling and allow new things.

Biggest example i have is thinking I would never be a slave.... I'm definitely a huge brat, but there are times that I will fully submit and be a slave for the night or weekend. Also pet play I truly never thought I'd be a pet. It's one of my favorites now!

[ja****]

Well it was my curiosity and my dads library, I found a French erotic comic book and there was scene about spanking.. I was young.. And things got weird from there.. My style ultimately flr and yeah I've been knowing what I like since an early age

[Deleted Member]

i slightly knew mine, but i feel like im a mixture of a lot. i would mainly say im a brat. it was kinda a given bc i like to debate and argue a bit, i find it fun, but to have someone correct me bc of it was even more fun. but throughout meeting others, ive opened up to other sides as well. use it as a way to open more opportunities for yourself!

[Deleted Member]

Trial and error. Takes conversation on what parts of submission you’re into as well.

[Se****]

Its an everlasting evolution I think

[co****]

Tbh I have been wondering about how to start

[Co****]

Most real Doms don't like to categorized and be labeled. That's why I refer to the Ineffable Dom.

[Ki****]

I think that's a personality trait you should follow your instincts on what you feel is right for yourself, but at the same time exploration is part of the kinky journey.
If you keep honest to the first statement you'll never go wrong. 😊

[Da****]

I have found out from a Dom perspective, that subs do have multiple aspects of submission. Each one is to be nurtured. It is natural for you to unlock those other parts of submission. I think I can speak for Doms that we just don't have one "style". We have to adapt as our subs adapt. Perfect example. You may have a tickling fetish one week , but the next you may not. Being a Dominate I would have to adapt to that. There is nothing to be ashamed of as you grow and mature into your submission. Embrace it, do research on your new found submission and keep unlocking those areas. There is no right or wrong way to feel. Love the new levels

[Lo****]

It depends who I was with.
I've had a couple of Dom's over the years, one of them was a Daddy. I'm a brat to my core and they each had a different way of handling me..

[Co****]

All credits to the ineffable Dom go to Michael Makai.

[Ta****]

I have always known i was a sub but my submission has & will continue to evolve as my journey continues. No two subs are the same as no two Dom/me's are the same. I have in the past given my full submission which hits so much deeper & this is down to connection but turned out he wasnt worthy of what i gave him, sorry i digress.
Through my submissive journey i have found my love for being a masochist & i was until quite recently exploring this but im now prioritising myself as im responsible for my own well being especially in light of recent events.
I love my life as a submissive & found that it completes me in a way that my nilla life cant fulfill.

[sn****]

Was totally trial and error for me personally. I believe this is because most of the partnes I have chosen and got chosen by where never really well versed.

[Deleted Member]

I compare my experiences as I experience life.. Iet a Daddy. So.i morphed into what he wanted me to be. And I loved being a little. But since I've grown in my role as I did in life. I'm pretty much a soft slave with moments of little. My best of both worlds

[wa****]

i had a general idea of things i found intriguing/wanted to try. I actually was the dom in all my past relationships before my first dom. He was very experienced and he did things slowly to see and gadge my limits, my hard nos, and hard yess. i got really lucky he was my first and since then i've been more confident to try new things with people^^.

i say take it slow, when trying new things make that the ONLY new thing. like if you're trying penetration for the first time have everything else slow and what you are comfortable with. only change one thing at a time! and you can add to it as you feel more comfy <3

[Co****]

When I switch (so far only one has earned that), it is very much a primal Forest Brat. Catch me if you can, give a merry chase taunting the whole way, struggle make him EARN it. Never freely given. His storm must be strong to hold me,even for a moment. To be a wild thing only chasing sensation and worship.

[Wa****]

I knew instantly what I wanted, it just took years to actually find someone who wanted the same. It's important to remember not to lose your reality trying to be someone else's fantasy.

[al****]

It was trial and error for me. My first Dom was a Daddy Dom and though he was really good to me I found out that I need more structure than a Daddy/babygirl. He let me get away with pretty much everything so I found my bratty streak getting worse and worse. My next Dom was a Master and he was 180 from the first. I got PTSD from that dynamic. I believe we are continuously developing our submissive characteristics. Even now 20+ years later I still am learning and growing. What I think I like with one Dom I don’t with the next. It’s also how they interpret your style. My current Master is very formal. Normally that is not my style., but with him it fits. It is a style that I would not like with anyone else.

[su****]

Love oral Escpecually

[Deleted Member]

she introduced chastity caging

[Ha****]

I’m a brat, no question. I like to ask things I already know the answer to just to hear you say it, and I like to poke at bears until they growl—because that’s when I know they’re real. But getting here wasn’t easy. I used to think submission wasn’t for women like me. I’m a fat, Black, bald woman, and people always expected me to be dominant. I had to do a lot of unlearning, including in therapy, to realize that the version of me I was performing wasn’t mine. I feel safest when I can be soft, giving, and cared for. That’s when I’m not in survival mode. That’s when I feel most like myself.