Blocking

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:01 PM, FabSeverus said:

 

its a shame subs have to go through some bad experiences

 

We actually agree on something, yes it is a shame isn't it

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:02 PM, AnimeBlonde said:

The rules I want in place are to show respect. That if you can't follow them your not welcome here. To give all new members a quick run down of what's acceptable in a message and what isn't.

It's as people are saying it's the things most would think of that don't have to be wrote down, but for some it does need to be there in black and white because well for some reason it's not obvious to them to give a bit of respect.

I don't quite get your reference to having a good laugh on you ?

I assure you I couldn't care less what you do as long as your polite and respectful to people (which I know from previous encounters with you, you have been rude to me without cause due to a misunderstanding on your part).

Your adamancy that things are 'fine' as they are shows me that your not seeing what's going on, multiple people have brought up the issue of respect and politeness over the last week alone so the is a issue wether you accept it or not.

I know how hard that may have been for you to type but I'm thankful you found that courage x

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7 minutes ago, FETMOD-KF said:

So. As a small intervention.

We do have the suggestion thread in the SOS forum.   

There's a lot we do behind the scenes particularly with the challenges scammers are bringing (something many sites are having problems with) and generally we like to keep threads appropriate and on topic but generally encourage free rule on topics (though, this also means someone's topic shouldn't be derailed) 

If something slips our attention - you can report individual posts, users, or messages and the correct team can investigate.

Some off us mods have different roles (myself personally I pretty much only deal with forum/posts) but if you feel there is something you wish to discuss then please contact @Annalou who can assist.

Incidentally... can we keep this forum on topic and not descend to squabbles?  Please

You do a good job 

mod it’s only caribou antlers Squabbling 😈😂

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29 minutes ago, AnimeBlonde said:

Thank you, makes it easier when the person I'm agreeing with makes perfect sense to be fair 😆

This one! Full of connotation unless of course I am getting paranoid ? 

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3 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

This one! Full of connotation unless of course I am getting paranoid ? 

I think you are darling. I 100% agree with stricter rules therefore what Donny says makes perfect sense to me. They aren't personal jabs at you in the slightest if I make a snide remark your way I'll make sure to put your name in there I'm not good at subtlety 😉😆

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7 minutes ago, AnimeBlonde said:

The rules I want in place are to show respect. That if you can't follow them your not welcome here. 

I assure you I couldn't care less what you do as long as your polite and respectful to people (which I know from previous encounters with you, you have been rude to me without cause due to a misunderstanding on your part).
 

Again, it’s in the guideline and rules on the site. 
 

not sure what you make reference to? I am hardly ever rude! I could sound abrupt yes but never rude ? 

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:09 PM, FabSeverus said:

This one! Full of connotation unless of course I am getting paranoid ? 

No paranoia no. Yes we have talked in detail and have become friends but I can assure you there are others. 

 

Only those with something to hide would reject stricter rules and zero tolerance to thirsty behaviour. You can take that however you want Severus  BUT I am not a submissive who is easily swayed/Intimidated by any other and the day I stop fighting injustice as I see it is the day I will take my last breath.

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3 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

Again, it’s in the guideline and rules on the site. 
 

not sure what you make reference to? I am hardly ever rude! I could sound abrupt yes but never rude ? 

You put on a public post 'so you've finally crawled out your dirty hole' that I call rude. I privately messaged you and sorted it with you as you the was a misunderstanding. Much like I would say if you wish to discuss that further message me privately I'm trying to stay on topic here.

Some parts may be but it needs to be tweaked a little and to be made mandatory to read if you have a membership, at least in my personal opinion it does.

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:17 PM, AnimeBlonde said:

You put on a public post 'so you've finally crawled out your dirty hole' that I call rude

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2 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

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Oh dear no angry faces Donny 😆

It was dealt with and he said sorry for the misunderstanding so no need to get angry face on me

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3 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

No paranoia no. Yes we have talked in detail and have become friends but I can assure you there are others. 

 

Only those with something to hide would reject stricter rules and zero tolerance to thirsty behaviour. You can take that however you want Severus  BUT I am not a submissive who is easily swayed/Intimidated by any other and the day I stop fighting injustice as I see it is the day I will take my last breath.

You see I offer my hand shake and you are still have that dig. 
i have nothing to hide and I am the one who think submissive are not weak types and are perfectly capable to fight their corner themselves first! I am not patronising type 

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3 minutes ago, AnimeBlonde said:

Oh dear no angry faces Donny 😆

It was dealt with and he said sorry for the misunderstanding so no need to get angry face on me

Well I thought you already told him in details 🤷‍♂️😂 

it was kind of rude on the funny side... it could have been rudest with some other sailors adjectives 😜. 

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:22 PM, AnimeBlonde said:

Oh dear no angry faces Donny 😆

It was dealt with and he said sorry for the misunderstanding so no need to get angry face on me

Not on you at all

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:23 PM, FabSeverus said:

You see I offer my hand shake and you are still have that dig. 
 

I don't see where you offered your hand?? 

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10 minutes ago, FabSeverus said:

Well I thought you already told him in details 🤷‍♂️😂 

it was kind of rude on the funny side... it could have been rudest with some other sailors adjectives 😜. 

I'm confused what your on about there 😂

I have discussed my overall experience with Donny and had nice chats as he is a nice guy and very easy to get on with, huge shock I know 😉😆

However the ins and outs of my conversation with you resolving a personal matter was not discussed with anyone else but my Dom who calmed me down afterwards as I was a bit annoyed and upset.

I know I did not need to offer you this explanation but I hope it brings u some comfort that I'm not trying to attack you I'm mearly bringing my opinion on what I think is a serious matter to the table 🤗

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On 7/16/2020 at 2:23 PM, FabSeverus said:

You see I offer my hand shake and you are still have that dig. 
 

Ok olive branch.

There is an online munch tonight at 8 about emotions and Bdsm. It would be nice if you would care to join us. I think it will be an interesting topic and something we all have experience in. No it's not a witch hunt in any way and all opinions will be valid and received with respect. I'm sure you like any others will have some good points to make and as I said at the beggining of this blocking thread maybe just maybe you and I could learn something from each other. Your move 😂😂

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This is just getting silly now either shake hands and get along or just don't interact with each other anymore!!! Stop the digs at each other it's silly and ridiculous honestly it's like two kids in a playground 🙄

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On 7/16/2020 at 6:37 PM, lil-monster said:

This is just getting silly now either shake hands and get along or just don't interact with each other anymore!!! Stop the digs at each other it's silly and ridiculous honestly it's like two kids in a playground 🙄

I actually do feel chastised 😂. 

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Just now, Donnykinkster said:

I actually do feel chastised 😂. 

And so you should!

 

 

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On 7/16/2020 at 6:43 PM, Bounty said:

And so you should!

 

 

Proper feel like a naughty boy ha ha 😂😂

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Even my 7 and 5 year old nephews behave better 🙄

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On 7/16/2020 at 6:49 PM, lil-monster said:

Even my 7 and 5 year old nephews behave better 🙄

It's two men who have a little needle and nothing more. It will settle itself down and yes we are as bad as each other. Thank you for my telling off, strangely I quite like it 😂

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Just now, Donnykinkster said:

It's two men who have a little needle and nothing more. It will settle itself down and yes we are as bad as each other. Thank you for my telling off, strangely I quite like it 😂

Well it's two men who need to grow up its getting ridiculous now! Either get on or ignore each other!!!! The forum just isn't fun anymore when this is happening!!! The only reason I'm saying it cause I doubt most people wanna read a forum thread of you two going off at each other all the ***y time!!!! Honestly and they wonder why folk am getting frustrated 😒

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On 7/16/2020 at 6:55 PM, lil-monster said:

Well it's two men who need to grow up its getting ridiculous now! Either get on or ignore each other!!!! The forum just isn't fun anymore when this is happening!!! The only reason I'm saying it cause I doubt most people wanna read a forum thread of you two going off at each other all the ***y time!!!! Honestly and they wonder why folk am getting frustrated 😒

Thank you for your view and I can assure you I shall give it thought 😊

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5 hours ago, Wiz said:

True but at the same time the explanation might provide some sort of closure and a lesson for the one who is blocked. 

one life lesson is to learn to live without closure or with the ambiguity.  

Let's say you get a blocked message and it's just with a "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested" that's ambiguous but should be enough. You might think "But it was going so well" but the reality is that you were interested beyond their interest and that perhaps they just felt they couldn't connect.

But it could be something like, "I found you too pushy and needy" and this would generate more questions from "How, in which way was I pushy?" which is pushy in itself, the want for closure is a form of "needy" whilst even an acceptance "maybe I did come on a bit much" would either result in a "please give me another chance, I can improve" or you constantly criticising yourself you blew it.

But you might also disagree with the reason given which might make you annoyed, frustrated or angry. 

I mean, if it's someone you're rowing with it should be obvious why you're blocked. They're no longer interested in continuing the argument.